The Impactful Parenting Podcast helps parents turn their chaos into connection with their children. Through meaningful stories, the podcast provides parenting tips for making family life easier! Why? Because school-aged children bring different challenges to parenting that younger kids don’t! The Impactful Parenting Podcast provides help for raising your adolescent child. So if you’re asking yourself questions like: • ”Is this normal?” • ”Why is my teenager doing this?” • ”How do I get my child to stop?” • ”I am so frustrated. What do I do?” • ”Is anyone else experiencing this? I can’t be the only one.” • ”I am worried. What can I do?” Then YOU HAVE FOUND THE RIGHT PLACE! Hi! I am Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent and my passion is creating better relationships between parents and their children. I am a parenting coach, a teacher who has taught every grade level from Pre-K through high school, and most importantly, I am a mom of 4 kids! (Yep, those are my kiddos in the podcast photo). The teen years don’t need to be difficult. Teenagers CAN have a special bond with their parents! Listen and discover the tools and techniques you need to create connections, build trust, and have a stress-free household. This is only the beginning! Let’s get started, together! -Kristina Campos Founder of The Impactful Parent
Episodes
Thursday Feb 04, 2021
Thursday Feb 04, 2021
The Slow Eater Child
The Slow Eater Child. Tips for how to get your child to eat when they seem to take FOREVER to consume anything. Don't worry Mama- I got you!
It is Question and Answer Thursday and today's question was: My Child eats so slow that it doesn't seem like she is consuming anything. Her teachers are getting frustrated at school. Help!
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Tuesday Feb 02, 2021
Tuesday Feb 02, 2021
Disrespectful Kids
10 tips for dealing with disrespectful kids.
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Transcript:
When a child is standing in front of your face screaming, full of attitude- I know you want to shout back and probably even hit them. That is natural. You are human too, and they just activated an instinctual reaction in you to protect yourself. Obviously, it would be best if you did not yell back or hit. Yes, disrespectful children will push our buttons, but when we match their crazy with our frustrations, screaming, and anger, it only adds fuel to that child or teen bomb standing in front of you.
Then, how should we react to these disrespectful kids? It is not easy, but these ten tips, when implemented, may defuse a heated situation, and even change that disrespectful kids.
Disrespectful Kids Tip 1: Keep Calm. I know this isn’t easy and restraint isn’t many people’s strength but you have to stay calm because parents that explode back are not only fueling the fire, but they are also reinforcing the yelling and bad behavior by becoming a role model.
Disrespectful Kids Tip 2. Do not engage. I tell my children that I cannot hear anything they say when they are talking to me like this or acting this way. If they want me to listen and be on their side, they need to speak to me calmly. Telling your child this does two things. It shows you have boundaries, and it also points out their behavior to them without pointing fingers.
Disrespectful Kids Tip 3: Do not lecture. When your child is at the yelling phase, their emotions have already gotten the best of them. These children are not thinking with their logical brain. They are acting upon their feelings. A lecture at that moment will not give the child an epiphany about the value of respecting their elders, nor will they see the error of their ways when emotions are high.
Disrespectful Kids Tip 4: Give them time to cool off. Tell them to go to their room for a minute, go for a walk, sit outside, whatever place will calm them down.
Disrespectful Kids Tip 5: Connect with your child when they are ready. This means going to them after calming down or making time for them when they came back to you calmly.
Disrespectful Kids Tip 6: Ask questions. Start getting to the reason for all the emotions. Say things like, “It seems to me like you may be angry. Did something happen at school?” Keep asking questions until you can get to the root of their frustration. Are they scared, mad, frustrated, worried, or feeling like they do not have control of something? Which brings me to tip 7.
Disrespectful Kids Tip 7: Do not take it personally. Teenagers are mean unintentionally. It is a part of their nature to think only of themselves and take out their frustrations and big emotions on their parents. Mom and dad are supposed to be a safe space for them. Parents are supposed to love their kids unconditionally. Unfortunately, this also means that we can be punching bags from time to time. Our children will test our love often. Even the nicest kids will do this subconsciously. Win this game.
Disrespectful Kids Tip 8: Check for low blood sugar and hunger. Sometimes kids are just “hangry” and have sensitive diets.
Disrespectful Kids tip 9: Do not try and force your child to respect you. Forcing your child to do anything is generally not a good idea. They may comply as younger children, but older children will come to resent you and will know exactly how to push your buttons. Instead, set a standard for respect and behaviors that are implemented rules in your household for everyone.
Disrespectful Kids Tip 10: You cannot teach your child to be respectful by treating them without respect. That means you must be conscious of HOW you treat your children and lead by example. A mistake many parents make is treating their children like servants, babies, or as an inferior person. Try not to talk down to your children or boss them around. There are ways to ask people to do things that do not require you to be “bossy.”
Sunday Jan 31, 2021
Sunday Jan 31, 2021
How NOT To Get Angry.
Yep- My guest this week, Mr. Ben Winter, says that he has the secret sauce for parents NOT to get angry. According to Ben Winter, most of our anger is derived from an expectation NOT being met, and that expectations are what causes our anger.
Watch as Ben Winter, and I talk about parenting expectations. Don't worry- Expectations are not always bad! In fact, sometimes expectations give us the opportunity for growth and understanding! WATCH and see what the hype is about.
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Thursday Jan 28, 2021
Thursday Jan 28, 2021
It is Question and Answer Thursday and today's question was: How To Teach Your Child Gratitude
7 Steps for Teaching Your Child Gratitude
**This episode was broadcasted live on YouTube, Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram. Submissions for Q&A Thursday can be either emailed to The Impactful Parent directly or direct messaged through any of these social media platforms. Submissions can be anonymous and are never mentioned in the Live Recording to respect the privacy of The Impactful Parent audience. Email: theimpactfulparent@gmail.com
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Thursday Jan 28, 2021
Thursday Jan 28, 2021
The Strong-Willed Child
The Strong-Willed Child can be difficult but these qualities are actually really great as an adult! Learn tips for dealing with the strong-willed child without breaking their spirit and without losing your mind.
It is Question and Answer Thursday and today's question was: My strong-willed child is driving me crazy. Help!
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Tuesday Jan 26, 2021
Tuesday Jan 26, 2021
Talking To Teens: Tips for having those difficult conversations
A discussion with Cassie Eads, author of the book My Suicidal Child
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Transcript:
Kristina: What have been your biggest lessons learned from having a suicidal child?
Cassie: The unintentional use of language. What I mean is the accidental harm that we cause in our everyday language. I never realized how powerful the way we say things impact our kids.
Kristina: It is a big deal. How we talk to our children affects them in ways that we don’t understand. We have to think back to our childhood and how our parents used to talk to you. Are you repeating the pattern? Sometimes, as parents, we run too much of a dictatorship, and that can be very harmful to our children. It is difficult to let go of control, but watching what we say and how we say things can make a big difference.
Kristina: What are some of the biggest concerns you have with children that you have seen throughout your work?
Cassie: I work with a wide range of ages, and a couple of big things that a lot of kids say is that they are wary of speaking up or share their thoughts with adults because they don’t want to be punished or look disrespectful. When I found this out, I started to ask more questions. I discovered that parents often unintentionally shut kids down and try to control the conversation. Adults don’t listen. Instead, we intervene with our perspective. The kids never feel validated for what they think.
Kristina: That sounds like the unconscious dictatorship I spoke of earlier. As parents, we think, “I have been through that, I know better, and I want to help,” but this leads us to unconsciously talking over our children. What this ends up doing is making our kids feel like they are not being heard, belittled, and my parents are not hearing me at all. My suggestion to parents is to use “I” language. For those not familiar with “I” language, it merely means you will start your sentence with the word “I.” For example, I feel upset, or that makes me feel sad.
Kristina: How else can kids get their voice heard, so their parents will listen?
Cassie: Well, parents need to start with being ok with what the kids feel and what the kids say. Sometimes, it skinks to hear your child tell you that they feel worthless or belittled or the way that YOU act. Parents automatically get defensive, but parents instead need to learn how to pause and consider the truth in what their child is saying.
Kristina: I encourage parents to take the time to build trust with their kids also. How do we do that? Well, all parents tell their kids that they can talk to them and tell them anything, but your child will NOT come to you if they think you will punish them or overreact. This means we need to practice staying calm and NOT react crazy when we hear something we don’t like to come out of our child’s mouth. We need to practice holding our tongue, taking a deep breath, and truly listening to our child without the “crazy” reaction. Even if the stuff you hear is going to stab you in the heart, you need to be a safe place for your child and that person they can confide in.
Cassie: And if I can add to that, we need to validate their feelings. Even though it hurts us, it is ok. It might hurt to listen, but shutting down your child may have worse consequences than your hurt feelings. I also want to warn parents that they need to be open to hearing ANYTHING. The content your child will come to you with may surprise you! They are exposed to more than you realize, and their exposure has some real adult issues sometimes.
Kristina: I will add that we also have to be ready to hear that we might be to blame too. We have to be prepared to hear that we have hurt them, and we have a part in their sadness. We can’t get defensive. We must authentically listen to them, their point of view, and ask questions! Ask lots of questions and get to the root of their feelings. Lastly, we must take ownership of what we have unintentionally done to hurt our child. Don’t be afraid to apologize to your child! Apologies from parents are powerful and very meaningful for the child.
Cassie: I was the parent that always had to have it together. I had to let go of that mindset! My children have grown more, and we have created closer relationships when I put aside the ‘perfect mom’ persona and showed them I was human too. When we navigate our emotions together now, it has brought us closer.
Kristina: Thank you, Cassie, for coming on to The Impactful Parent today. Your experience and knowledge are very valuable to my audience! If you want to support Cassie and her mission to help parents, you can find her at http://listenwithintowin.com
Sunday Jan 24, 2021
Sunday Jan 24, 2021
Getting Your Child To Eat Vegetables with Special Guest Amy Miller telling the audience about the Juice Plus company and giving parents another opportunity to balance their children's diet with their whole food supplement.
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Thursday Jan 21, 2021
Thursday Jan 21, 2021
7 Steps For Helping Your Child Learn To Self-Regulate and not suppress emotions.
It is Question and Answer Thursday and today's question was: How Do I Teach My Child To Calm Down?
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Thursday Jan 21, 2021
Thursday Jan 21, 2021
How To Get Your Child To Stop Lying
How To Get Your Child To Stop Lying. Tips for stopping the lying and growing a child that trusts you enough to tell you the truth.
It is Question and Answer Thursday and today's question was: How can I get my child to stop lying to me?
**How To Get Your Child To Stop Lying episode was broadcasted live on YouTube, Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram. Submissions for Q&A Thursday can be either emailed to The Impactful Parent directly or direct messaged through any of these social media platforms. Submissions can be anonymous and are never mentioned in the Live Recording to respect the privacy of The Impactful Parent audience. Email: theimpactfulparent@gmail.com
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Tuesday Jan 19, 2021
Tuesday Jan 19, 2021
Which Comes First, My Child or Me?
I know there are days when you are pulling out your hair. I know you are tired and cannot seem to get ahead. We are all experiencing more burnout and frustration with our lives than ever before. Why? I believe parents are torn and stretched in too many directions. Parents are multitasking too much, and we are in a paradox of responsibilities. Do we pause and take care of our own needs, or do we continue to sacrifice our sanity, health, and well-being for our children?
In my opinion, the solution is a connection.
To learn more about the 3 fundamental needs of children, watch my video: What Child Need with the link https://youtu.be/-Uk1IpKCnZ4 If you want to connect with your child but need a place to start, I offer FREE 30-Day challenges to connect with your child one question at a time. All you need to do is sign up, and I will send you one new question every day for 30 days. The questions will provoke conversation and give you topics to talk about with your child in the car, on the way to school, or before bed. Give it a try today. Find your 30 Day challenge at https://theimpactfulparent.com/connection
Transcription:
I know there are days when you are pulling out your hair. I know you are tired and cannot seem to get ahead. We are all experiencing more burnout and frustration with our lives than ever before. Why? I believe parents are torn and stretched in too many directions. Parents are multitasking too much, and we are in a paradox of responsibilities. Do we pause and take care of our own needs, or do we continue to sacrifice our sanity, health, and well-being for our children?
In my opinion, the solution is a connection. It is more important than ever to invest in making real connections with our kids. They need it too. No doubt, our children feel the weight of today on their shoulders (be it school, lack of social interaction, COVID-19 restrictions, or pressures to be successful). Our children feel the grey cloud we live in also. Ironically, parents are only required to provide their children with food, clothing, and shelter by law. Yet, I have never heard of a teenager commit suicide because they were hungry. Instead, people fall into depression because there is a lack of connection. And it is a connection with our children that will give us the freedom to take care of ourselves. Let me explain.
There will be times when we must put our family second so we can put ourselves first. This does not have to be often, but we all need that alone time, adult time, or self-care time to recharge. If you have already put in the time to connect with your kids, they will also know that you will have their back when push comes to shove. You will have already created those bonds that prove to your children that you love them, and you will not abandon them in their time of need. Then, when you must put yourself first for an hour or a day, your child will understand. They will feel secure in your relationship with them. This is how you can balance the paradox of parenting responsibilities and still maintain some sense of self to take care of your own needs.
So today, I encourage you to put down the phone and turn off the TV. Make a reoccurring appointment on your calendar for spending quality time with your kids. The connection does not happen overnight, and it must be consistent. Make it a priority in your schedule, and I hope you will also find that you will have more time for yourself in the long run.
To learn more about the 3 fundamental needs of children, watch my video: What Child Need with the link (below). If you want to connect with your child but need a place to start, I offer FREE 30-Day challenges to connect with your child one question at a time. All you need to do is sign up, and I will send you one new question every day for 30 days. The questions will provoke conversation and give you topics to talk about with your child in the car, on the way to school, or before bed. Give it a try today. Find your 30 Day challenge at https://theimpactfulparent.com/connection
Make it a priority. Put it on your calendar. You got this. I am just here to help.