

The Impactful Parenting Podcast helps parents turn their chaos into connection with their children. Through meaningful stories, the podcast provides parenting tips for making family life easier! Why? Because school-aged children bring different challenges to parenting that younger kids don’t! The Impactful Parenting Podcast provides help for raising your adolescent child. So if you’re asking yourself questions like: • ”Is this normal?” • ”Why is my teenager doing this?” • ”How do I get my child to stop?” • ”I am so frustrated. What do I do?” • ”Is anyone else experiencing this? I can’t be the only one.” • ”I am worried. What can I do?” Then YOU HAVE FOUND THE RIGHT PLACE! Hi! I am Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent and my passion is creating better relationships between parents and their children. I am a parenting coach, a teacher who has taught every grade level from Pre-K through high school, and most importantly, I am a mom of 4 kids! (Yep, those are my kiddos in the podcast photo). The teen years don’t need to be difficult. Teenagers CAN have a special bond with their parents! Listen and discover the tools and techniques you need to create connections, build trust, and have a stress-free household. This is only the beginning! Let’s get started, together! -Kristina Campos Founder of The Impactful Parent
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Tuesday Aug 31, 2021
113: When kids say, ”I don‘t think they like me.”
Tuesday Aug 31, 2021
Tuesday Aug 31, 2021
When kids say, "I don't think they like me."
When kids say, "I don't think they like me." In this episode, Kristina gives practical tips to parents for helping their children cope with the frustration and hurt of someone not liking them.
When kids say, "I don't think they like me."
Episode links 👇
- More from The Impactful Parent https://theimpactfulparent.com
- Submit your question for next week by emailing Kristina at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com
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Transcript for I DON'T THINK THEY LIKE ME
Welcome impactful parents! Today, we will talk about how to teach our kids the lesson: Not Everyone is going to like you.
Hi, My name is Kristina. I am the founder of The Impactful Parent, and every week I come on here and answer one of your questions LIVE. So if you have a question for me for next week, please email me at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com. All submissions are kept anonymous.
Today we have a great question. It reads, my child gets really upset when they think someone doesn’t like them at school. It causes so much drama in our house. How do I teach my child that not everyone will like them no matter what they do?
This is a great question and not an easy situation. Some kids are naturally people's pleasures. It really bugs these kids when they think someone doesn’t like them. I am really glad this parent wrote in asking for help. It is important to support our children in learning the “Not everyone will like you” lesson as early as possible. They need to develop the coping skills they need to continue feeling good about THEMSELVES. If they continue to wallow in the sadness of “that person doesn’t like me,” then it could affect their mental health, and your child will start getting into the habit of thinking like a victim. We don’t want them. We want our kids to be confident and empowered.
So what should parents do to help turn this victim mentality into empowerment? Today I am going to give you 5 suggestions. Let’s get started.
First, you want to validate your child’s feelings. I know you might want to say, “Don’t worry about it. That person isn’t worth your time, and who cares if they like you!” But that does NOTHING for your child. Instead, let your child be heard. Tell them that it’s ok to feel sad that they think someone doesn’t like them. Validate that it doesn’t feel good. And then LISTEN. Don’t try and fix anything. Just listen. Don’t give advice. Just listen. Giving your child the stage to talk and let out their feelings BEFORE you start making suggestions is a priority.
Step 2 is talking about the reasons WHY someone might not like them. Remind your child that it may not even be their fault or anything that they can control. There are infinite reasons why someone might not like you, but here are a few of the most common reasons.
- You remind the person of something they are lacking. Is your child better at a sport, gets better grades, is more attractive or likable? Your child might make others jealous of their successes and talents. Of course, this has nothing to do with your child. Instead, this is a reflection of the insecurities and jealousy of the other child. The jealous child likely feels bad about themselves because your child reminds them of their failures and imperfections.
- Your child might remind them of something bad. For example, if your child looks like a bully from the other child’s past, then your child won’t be liked. Again, not your child’s fault. But the trauma of one person’s past can cause them not to like you because you remind them of things they want to forget.
- Your child feels like a threat. Sometimes a person will dislike someone who threatens their position. For example, does the other child think your child will steal their friends, take away from their attention, or steal their status?
- Perhaps the other child is projecting their own fears on your child. Some kids will gossip about others to empower themselves. This is the classic case of someone bullying or putting someone down to build themselves up and regain some power. Ultimately, the other child feels powerless.
Go through this list with your child and examine with them, Could This Be Why?
Step 3 is to start asking questions about how YOUR CHILD's behaviors might have made the other person feel. As much as we would like to believe that our kids are angels, there are circumstances when our children provoke the situation. Start a conversation about how their behaviors might have a domino effect on others. Were they bragging too much? Were they leaving someone out on accident? Were they talking about things that made others uncomfortable?
The main point here is that your child needs to realize that their actions have reactions. Talk about how they might have contributed to the situation.
Step 4 is to encourage your child to have a self-positive talk in their head. Even if they don’t believe themselves at first, encourage your child to give themselves a pep talk throughout the day. For example, have them think, “I am ok. I don’t need everyone to like me.” “I can’t please everybody, and that’s ok. I can only be my best self.”
And lastly, encourage your child to spend time with people who do like them. Extra time with friends that will lift your child’s spirits and make them gain confidence is easy for parents to allow and encourage.
If you have a question for next week, please email or message me on social media. And don’t forget to check out my website, where you will find all kinds of stuff for your school-aged child-like free 30 day challenges, free pdf resource documents, online parenting classes, or sign up to have a free consultation to work with me directly. Maybe family coaching can be the key to turning your chaos into a connection with your child! Go to https://theimpactfulparent.com
But until next time, you got this, parents! I am just here to help.
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Thursday Aug 26, 2021
111: Same Gender Couple Adoption
Thursday Aug 26, 2021
Thursday Aug 26, 2021
Same Gender Couple Adoption
Same Gender Couple Adoption. Mr. Jay, talks about his personal experiences with adopting 2 children, he speaks about being a same-gender parent and gives everyone tips for making adoption successful.
Same Gender Couple Adoption Story. Links in Episode 👇
- More from The Impactful Parent https://theimpactfulparent.com
- Jay's book at https://tinyurl.com/4yta7s33
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What To Do Next:
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Discover how you can work with Kristina! Sign up for a FREE 30-minute discovery call! Click here to find a time that works best for you!
Bottom Line... I am here for YOU! Contact me at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com
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Highlights for Same Gender Couple Adoption
- Jay's personal story
- How Jay's story is different
- Foster to adopt
- agency adoption
- The question BOTH birth mothers wanted to know.
- Recommendations for same-gender couples wanting to adopt
- Discrimination
- What they do on Mother's day
- Why Jay doesn't celebrate a Gotcha Day
- What Jay does when his kids feel different
- What they do when someone asks if the kids have a mom
- AND SO MUCH MORE!
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It takes a lot to run a business and family! Here are a few products I recommend:
Gabb Wireless: The BEST first phone for your child!
- No internet, no social media, and NO WORRIES! This phone has GPS tracking and other features that parents want to have peace of mind about their child having a phone. The Gabb Wireless phone has the sleek look of a smartphone that kids love without worry and high price. To find out more and order your phone (or watch) go to: gabbwireless.com/promo/IMPACTFULPARENT30
The Contract Shop
- Protect your contact and your business with the Contract Shop. The Contract Shop provides DIY legal contracts that you customize for your business and your business needs. Contracts are important and legal documents are boring! The Contract Shop provides the security you need without the big price tags of an expensive law firm. Try it out today and please use my affiliate link for referring you because I get a small kickback for recommending The Contract Shop products. Here is your link: https://thecontractshop.com?ref=kristinacampos
Mobile Monkey
- Mobile Monkey helps you gain more engagement in your social media posts by providing you with a ROBOT to client questions in your DM. This bot is genius and saves so much time! Use your robot to respond to common questions, to create keywords your audience can type in order to receive special links, get analytics, auto-responses and so much MORE! Mobile Monkey should be helping every content creator’s business because at this low price- there are no excuses for getting more time, ease in your business, and increased engagement! Please use my affiliate link to order: https://app.mobilemonkey.com/instachamp?a_aid=kristinaann

Tuesday Aug 24, 2021
110: How Do I Get My Child To Eat Healthier
Tuesday Aug 24, 2021
Tuesday Aug 24, 2021
Getting Kids To Eat Healthier with Jill Bucaro. Jill gives tips and tricks for getting your child to eat healthy without the battles!
It is Question and Answer LIVE, and today's question was: How Do I Get My Child To Eat Healthier?
Here are the links from today’s episode:
- More from The Impactful Parent https://theimpactfulparent.com
- Jill's Program: www.wellnessriot.com
**This episode was broadcasted live on YouTube, Facebook, Linked In, and Instagram. Submissions for Q&A Thursday can be either emailed to The Impactful Parent directly or direct messaged through any of these social media platforms. Submissions can be anonymous and are never mentioned in the Live Recording to respect the privacy of The Impactful Parent audience. Email: theimpactfulparent@gmail.com
Rate, Review, & Subscribe!
"I love Kristina and all the FREE tips that she has to offer! Thank you for making my parenting journey better!" <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you!!!
Rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!
Also, if you haven't done so already, subscribe to the podcast. I'm adding a bunch of bonus episodes to the feed and, if you're not subscribed, there's a good chance you'll miss out. Subscribe now!
What to do next:
Subscribe to The Impactful Parent Newsletter so you won’t miss a parenting tip that can help you! This once-a-week newsletter comes out Sunday mornings, and you can unsubscribe at any time. No obligation. No Spam. Just your favorite parenting tips! Newsletter sign-up link is here.
Follow The Impactful Parent on social media if you don’t already! Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, & Pinterest
Subscribe to the PODCAST and/or the YOUTUBE CHANNEL! Podcast link & YouTube link
Check out the official website of The Impactful Parent for FREE RESOURCES, parenting classes, mom’s groups, and so much more! Click here to check it out!
Discover how you can work with Kristina! Sign up for a FREE 30-minute discovery call! Click here to find a time that works best for you!
Bottom Line... I am here for YOU! Contact me at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com
Summary for GETTING KIDS TO EAT HEALTHIER:
- Why healthy eating is important.
- How eating unhealthy affects kids
- Tips for getting your child to WANT to eat healthily
- Jill's resource for parents
- AND SO MUCH MORE!
It takes a lot to run a business and family! Here are a few products I recommend:
Gabb Wireless: The BEST first phone for your child!
- No internet, no social media, and NO WORRIES! This phone has GPS tracking and other features that parents want to have peace of mind about their child having a phone. The Gabb Wireless phone has the sleek look of a smartphone that kids love without worry and high price. To find out more and order your phone (or watch) go to: gabbwireless.com/promo/IMPACTFULPARENT30
The Contract Shop
- Protect your contact and your business with the Contract Shop. The Contract Shop provides DIY legal contracts that you customize for your business and your business needs. Contracts are important and legal documents are boring! The Contract Shop provides the security you need without the big price tags of an expensive law firm. Try it out today and please use my affiliate link for referring you because I get a small kickback for recommending The Contract Shop products. Here is your link: https://thecontractshop.com?ref=kristinacampos
Mobile Monkey
- Mobile Monkey helps you gain more engagement in your social media posts by providing you with a ROBOT to client questions in your DM. This bot is genius and saves so much time! Use your robot to respond to common questions, to create keywords your audience can type in order to receive special links, get analytics, auto-responses and so much MORE! Mobile Monkey should be helping every content creator’s business because at this low price- there are no excuses for getting more time, ease in your business, and increased engagement! Please use my affiliate link to order: https://app.mobilemonkey.com/instachamp?a_aid=kristinaann

Thursday Aug 19, 2021
109: FERPA: What are all those back-to-school documents?
Thursday Aug 19, 2021
Thursday Aug 19, 2021
Here are the links from today’s episode What is FERPA?: https://theimpactfulparent.com/ferpa
IF YOU HAVE A STORY OF INSPIRATION AND LEARNING and want to share your story with The Impactful Parent community, let’s talk! Go to https://theimpactfulparent.com/work-with-me and sign up for a quick phone call to tell me what your story is all about! We want to learn from you too!
Don't forget to check out all the FREE resources and tips that The Impactful Parent has to offer! https://theimpactfulparent.com Links to the YouTube channel and social media post are there too! Join The impactful Parent community by signing up for the weekly newsletter. Don't miss an impactful tip!
Follow The Impactful Parent on social Media! Facebook, Instagram, Linked In, Pinterest, and YouTube.
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Rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode! Here is a link to Apple Podcasts to get started! Thank you!
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Transcripts For What Is FERPA?:
Kristina: Welcome impactful parent. Today we're going to talk about the legal things with educational privacy, which is super important because you are probably giving your schools more power than you realize. So today, I have Deborah Jones. Deborah is a PTA mom of two. She is a lawyer turned business owner and a podcaster. Still, I bought this litigation lawyer on to talk a little more in-depth about FERPA and all those documents parents sign at the beginning of each school year. Thank you for being here, Deborah.
Deborah: Thank you for having me. I'm excited to be here. It's a really important topic, and I'm glad we're getting into it.
Kristina: I have been in education for a long time, both professionally and personally. There are things that I learned from you (which we will talk about today) that I didn't even know. So let’s get started. What kind of information are the schools getting from parents, and can they distribute it?
Deborah: Schools can share information like names, addresses, telephone listings, even the weight and height of athletic team members. There are privacy laws out there. FERPA is the main law we're going to talk about today because that's the federal law, and it protects your child's privacy but not as much as you would think.
Kristina: What is FERPA? How does this happen?
Deborah: Yeah, great question. So, let me just give a little bit of background. FERPA is the Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act. There are two kinds of information. One is just the general personally identifiable information about your child. That includes anything that a school is keeping in its records about your child. It could be an IEP, it could be grades or even any disciplinary actions. It also includes emergency contact information. It includes everything that you signed up for when you registered as your student. All that information is part of their educational record. Any information that a school designates as “directory information” can be shared without your permission, so long as once a year the school tells you, as the parent, what is directory information.
When you register your child every fall, the school will send you a packet of information. Most parents gloss over it and sign. Well, in that packet was defined directory information that includes things I just shared: names, addresses, phone numbers, athlete's information, etc. Schools can share that information as long as you are signing once a year.
Kristina: I am guilty of that. I guess I should be reading the fine print!
Deborah: Well, it's interesting because you have to proactively opt-out if you want to protect that information. Keep in mind, each school defines “directory information:” themselves. Your school may have a narrow definition, and you may be totally comfortable with it. Others may have a super broad definition that you're not comfortable with.
Kristina: Why should I care about FERPA?
Deborah: FERPA allows you to protect certain elements of your educational record. It is important to care about FERPA because I want parents to decide when signing those back-to-school papers. I don’t want parents to think that they HAVE TO sign if they are not comfortable. The second reason that you should care is that educational records follow your child to subsequent schools. Those records go from elementary to middle school to high school to college, and it crosses over when kids transfer schools. So if your child has a record that shows negative comments in elementary school, it could potentially affect their high school admission.
Let’s say your child has a disciplinary action on record from elementary school, where you actually didn't agree with what happened. Under FERPA, you have the opportunity to correct those records and see what's in those records and be an active participant in that data. At the very least, you can make your own comments and points of view of the disciplinary action so that your own opinions are on record and follows that data.
Keep in mind that different schools handle this differently regarding what they are sharing with the next institution. But what's important to keep in mind is, under FERPA, you have a right to see those records. You also have a right to correct those records. So if there is a disciplinary action that you want to put additional context around, you can certainly do that. So, at a minimum, get your perspective included in the record. At a maximum, you may be able to change what the record says.
Kristina: Are there other kinds of things that FERPA covers that a parent would really need to know about?
Deborah: Sometimes, children share interesting artwork that families don’t want to be posted on social media and for everyone to see.
Also, suppose you have a child that is participating in competitive athletics. In that case, you may not want the height and weight of your child to be distributed to other schools in fear it will hurt their chances of making a collegiate team. That information can be considered directory information at many schools. Sometimes somebody will be seen as not muscular enough because their weight is low. On the flip side, perhaps they're overweight, for some schools believe gymnastics should be the right weight.
Kristina: How do I make sure that I'm protecting, whatever it is that I've decided I want to protect about my child?
Deborah: Two things. The first is to read the directory information definitions. It will be a separate piece of paper. It's not going to be mixed in with some broader document.
The second is, ask for your child's educational record. Know what it says and correct anything that doesn’t feel right to you. If you don't want to go through the full educational record, just be aware that if any event happens in your school, you may want to capture your perspective related to that particular event in the school's record.
Kristina: Deborah, if people have questions, how can they get ahold of you?
Deborah: My email is djones@K12clothing.com. The audience can also find me at www.K12clothing.com.
Kristina: Thank you, Deborah. And thank you, parents, for being here too. You got this. I am just here to help.
What to do next:
- Subscribe to The Impactful Parent Newsletter so you won’t miss a parenting tip that can help you! This once-a-week newsletter comes out Sunday mornings, and you can unsubscribe at any time. No obligation. No Spam. Just your favorite parenting tips! Newsletter sign-up link is here.
- Follow The Impactful Parent on social media if you don’t already! Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, & Pinterest
- Subscribe to the PODCAST and/or the YOUTUBE CHANNEL! Podcast link & YouTube link
- Check out the official website of The Impactful Parent for FREE RESOURCES, parenting classes, mom’s groups, and so much more! Click here to check it out!
- Discover how you can work with Kristina! Sign up for a FREE 30-minute discovery call! Click here to find a time that works best for you!
It takes a lot to run a business and family! Here are a few products I recommend:
- Gabb Wireless: The BEST first phone for your child!
- No internet, no social media, and NO WORRIES! This phone has GPS tracking and other features that parents want to have peace of mind about their child having a phone. The Gabb Wireless phone has the sleek look of a smartphone that kids love without worry and high price. To find out more and order your phone (or watch) go to: gabbwireless.com/promo/IMPACTFULPARENT30
The Contract Shop
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- Protect your contact and your business with the Contract Shop. The Contract Shop provides DIY legal contracts that you customize for your business and your business needs. Contracts are important and legal documents are boring! The Contract Shop provides the security you need without the big price tags of an expensive law firm. Try it out today and please use my affiliate link for referring you because I get a small kickback for recommending The Contract Shop products. Here is your link: https://thecontractshop.com?ref=kristinacampos
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Mobile Monkey
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- Mobile Monkey helps you gain more engagement in your social media posts by providing you with a ROBOT to client questions in your DM. This bot is genius and saves so much time! Use your robot to respond to common questions, to create keywords your audience can type in order to receive special links, get analytics, auto-responses and so much MORE! Mobile Monkey should be helping every content creator’s business because at this low price- there are no excuses for getting more time, ease in your business, and increased engagement! Please use my affiliate link to order: https://app.mobilemonkey.com/instachamp?a_aid=kristinaan
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Wednesday Aug 11, 2021
106: Tips For The First Visit Home From College
Wednesday Aug 11, 2021
Wednesday Aug 11, 2021
Libby Daggers gives parents tips for making that first (and all the visits after) visit from your college student SUCCESSFUL! Libby gives tips on: What if my child gets homesick, How do I support my child making friends, and What if my child doesn't want to come home?
PLUS- Get The Impactful Parent's FREE PDF called: 50 Skills To Teach Your Child Before They Leave Home. Get it right now at https://theimpactfulparent.com/50things
#parentingcollegekid #firstvisithome #collegeready2021
0:00 Intro
0:40 How should parents shift their expectations?
2:52 When and how often will my child come home?
4:15 Tips for preparing for that first visit!
6:19 Do and Don't of the first visit
9:12 What if my child doesn't want to come home?
11:27 College Ready 2021
IF YOU HAVE A STORY OF INSPIRATION AND LEARNING and want to share your story with The Impactful Parent community, let’s talk! Go to https://theimpactfulparent.com/work-with-me and sign up for a quick phone call to tell me what your story is all about! We want to learn from you too!
Don't forget to check out all the FREE resources and tips that The Impactful Parent has to offer! https://theimpactfulparent.com Links to the YouTube channel and social media post are there too! Join The impactful Parent community by signing up for the weekly newsletter. Don't miss an impactful tip!
Follow The Impactful Parent on social Media! Facebook, Instagram, Linked In, Pinterest, and YouTube.
Rate, Review, & Subscribe!
"I love Kristina and all the FREE tips that she has to offer! Thank you for making my parenting journey better!" <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you!!!
Rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!
Also, if you haven't done so already, subscribe to the podcast. I'm adding a bunch of bonus episodes to the feed and, if you're not subscribed, there's a good chance you'll miss out. Subscribe now!
What to do next:
- Subscribe to The Impactful Parent Newsletter so you won’t miss a parenting tip that can help you! This once-a-week newsletter comes out Sunday mornings, and you can unsubscribe at any time. No obligation. No Spam. Just your favorite parenting tips! Newsletter sign-up link is here.
- Follow The Impactful Parent on social media if you don’t already! Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, & Pinterest
- Subscribe to the PODCAST and/or the YOUTUBE CHANNEL! Podcast link & YouTube link
- Check out the official website of The Impactful Parent for FREE RESOURCES, parenting classes, mom’s groups, and so much more! Click here to check it out!
- Discover how you can work with Kristina! Sign up for a FREE 30-minute discovery call! Click here to find a time that works best for you!

Tuesday Aug 10, 2021
108: How To Support Commuter and Remote Students in College
Tuesday Aug 10, 2021
Tuesday Aug 10, 2021
Here are the links from today’s episode: https://theimpactfulparent.com/50skills
IF YOU HAVE A STORY OF INSPIRATION AND LEARNING and want to share your story with The Impactful Parent community, let’s talk! Go to https://theimpactfulparent.com/work-with-me and sign up for a quick phone call to tell me what your story is all about! We want to learn from you too!
Don't forget to check out all the FREE resources and tips that The Impactful Parent has to offer! https://theimpactfulparent.com Links to the YouTube channel and social media post are there too! Join The impactful Parent community by signing up for the weekly newsletter. Don't miss an impactful tip!
Follow The Impactful Parent on social Media! Facebook, Instagram, Linked In, Pinterest, and YouTube.
Rate, Review, & Subscribe!
"I love Kristina and all the FREE tips that she has to offer! Thank you for making my parenting journey better!" <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more people — just like you!!!
Rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!
Also, if you haven't done so already, subscribe to the podcast. I'm adding a bunch of bonus episodes to the feed and, if you're not subscribed, there's a good chance you'll miss out. Subscribe now!
What to do next:
- Subscribe to The Impactful Parent Newsletter so you won’t miss a parenting tip that can help you! This once-a-week newsletter comes out Sunday mornings, and you can unsubscribe at any time. No obligation. No Spam. Just your favorite parenting tips! Newsletter sign-up link is here.
- Follow The Impactful Parent on social media if you don’t already! Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, & Pinterest
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Tuesday Aug 10, 2021
107: 10 Tips For Talking To Your Child About Sex, Drugs, and Peer Pressure
Tuesday Aug 10, 2021
Tuesday Aug 10, 2021
It is Question and Answer LIVE, and today's question was: How To Talk About Sex, Drugs, and Peer Pressure
Here are the links from today’s episode: https://theimpactfulparent.com/50skills
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Transcript for Tips For How To Talk To Your Child About Sex, Drugs, and Peer Pressure:
How Do I Talk to My Teenager About Sex, Drugs, and Peer Pressure?
Please, oh please! Let my child make good decisions when they are at college!
I get it. I have a son going into college too and I can't avoid the difficult conversation of Sex, Drugs, and Peer Pressure. This goes for you, too! Being a good parent means preparing our children to leave the nest. Part of that preparation is having the uncomfortable talk about what inevitably lies ahead, so your child is ready.
Let's break it down. What do you need to talk about? There are 3 big topics. They are Sex, Drugs, and Peer pressure. Why? Because statistics show that changing environments, being alone, or feeling isolated can make people more vulnerable. College has the potential to hit all 3 of these marks! This vulnerability is amplified by a young person's needs to be liked, fit in, and make friends. Plus, if your child has low self-esteem, then the risk is even greater.
I know that you might be thinking, "I already had the birds and bees talk with my child years ago, and we've talked about drugs and alcohol too." Well, I am here to tell you that you need to take those conversations further. Now it is essential to talk about the social responsibility of sex and drugs. Things like:
- What does responsible consumption look like, or responsible sexual activity?
- How to set boundaries.
- how to deal with peer pressure
Yep, I know! Tough conversations! So you might be saying, How Do I Talk to My Teenager About Sex, Drugs, and Peer Pressure?
Here are 10 tips for what to say and how this conversation should flow.
How Do I Talk To My Teenager About Sex, Drugs and Peer Pressure Tip 1: Start by telling them why you are sitting them down. Say something like, "Being in a new environment where you want to fit in can push you to do things for the approval of others. You are an adult now, and ultimately you are responsible for choices. I want to help you get ready for the new peer pressures you are about to face. Here are some tips, so you do not do anything regretful.
How Do I Talk To My Teenager About Sex, Drugs and Peer Pressure Tip 2: Practice saying no. In your head, aloud, or with your friends, practice being assertive and saying no. Roleplay it out in your mind how you will say no and what will happen. Kids forget that they must talk not only with their words but also with their bodies. Body language is what drives the point home. Practice not only saying the words but standing tall and feeling confident.
How Do I Talk To My Teenager About Sex, Drugs and Peer Pressure Tip 3: Make a plan before you get into a bad situation. Decide what you will do if you go to a party and everyone wants you to drink or do drugs. Decide what you will do if a guy touches you without asking. Decide what you will do if your intoxicated and need to get home or out of a situation. Decide what you will do if your boyfriend or girlfriend wants to take the relationship to a place, you are not comfortable with. Please discuss lots of different scenarios with your child or explain to them that having a plan BEFORE they need helps keep them safe and sets them up for a more successful outcome.
How Do I Talk To My Teenager About Sex, Drugs and Peer Pressure Tip 4: Decide your limits before you go. What are you willing to do, and what do you want to avoid? Knowing your boundaries BEFORE you put yourself in an environment where peers can pressure you to change your mind will help you keep your values and keep your integrity. You do not want to make decisions at the moment. That is how regretful actions happen. Know your boundaries before you even step outside the door.
How Do I Talk To My Teenager About Sex, Drugs and Peer Pressure Tip 5: Be ready to leave. Have a plan for leaving if the situation gets uncomfortable. Hopefully, you will be with people who can do what they want and still respect you for your choices, but many times that is not the case. You may have to leave even if you do not want to; parents are no longer an excuse to get out of the situation, so have another reason ready to go. Maybe this is a friend. Perhaps this is a lie about being on medication so you cannot drink, but talk about possible excuses NOW with your child, so they do not fumble with their words later.
How Do I Talk To My Teenager About Sex, Drugs and Peer Pressure Tip 6: Pick your friends wisely. Find friends with the same values and stick together. Using the buddy system is a great way to get out of uncomfortable situations. Have a friend that you trust. Be willing to watch over each other.
How Do I Talk To My Teenager About Sex, Drugs and Peer Pressure Tip 7: Trust your gut. Tell your child that if it does not feel right, then it is not right. Your instincts are one of the best indicators for trouble. Trust yourself and your intuition.
How Do I Talk To My Teenager About Sex, Drugs and Peer Pressure Tip 8: Consider how your actions can put you in a bad situation. Please remind your child that they have the power to influence their environment. Their choice of clothing, the way they act, what they consume, what they say, who they hang out with, …. All play a part in how their environment is created. There are many moving parts to each situation we put ourselves in, but ultimately, little decisions can make considerable influences on how the day plays out. Do not discount those small choices that have the power to change outcomes.
How Do I Talk To My Teenager About Sex, Drugs and Peer Pressure Tip 9: It is ok to be alone and standing up for yourself can sometimes be lonely. The world's most extraordinary people had to stand alone in their convictions before anyone would accept them and follow. Reaffirm to your child that it is ok to go against the grain and be alone. It just means they have not found their tribe yet. Tell your child that being alone with integrity is much better than being accepted and regretting your actions.
How Do I Talk To My Teenager About Sex, Drugs and Peer Pressure Tip 10: Show you trust your child to make the right choices and that you have complete confidence in their future. This is important. A mistake that many parents make is having this conversation with a tone of I know you are going to mess up. Instead, keep telling your child that you believe in them, and you have to talk about this so you can feel better about being an impactful parent, NOT because you don't trust their choices. Your child is more likely to make better choices when you believe in them because you will be raising their self-confidence and standards. Low self-confidence can lead to a self-fulling prophecy.
I know this is not the conversation you want to have, but it is a conversation worth having! And if these 10 tips today were not enough- I HAVE MORE! Today, I am giving you a FREE PDF CHECKLIST of 50 Life Skills your child needs to learn before leaving home. Get your free pdf by going to https://theimpactfulparent.com/50things. It is our responsibility to prepare our child, and you are! You are an impactful parent! You got this!
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Sunday Aug 08, 2021
105: How To Support Your New College Student First Semester
Sunday Aug 08, 2021
Sunday Aug 08, 2021
Brie, Waterman, co-author of College Ready 2021, gives tips for: how to handle your child getting homesick, how to support your child making friends, and how to keep family ties strong.
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#collegeready #parentingcollegekids #parentingcollegestudents
0:00 Intro
0:50 What if my student gets homesick?
3:06 How do I support my child making friends?
6:54 How many clubs should my student join?
8:46 What if my child doesn't want to connect with the family?
11:31 College Ready 2021
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Thursday Aug 05, 2021
104: Making Mealtime Fun and Easy!
Thursday Aug 05, 2021
Thursday Aug 05, 2021
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Transcript for Making Mealtime Fun and Easy:
Kristina: Welcome impactful parent. Today we're going to talk about how to make ordinary weeknight family dinners extraordinary, fun, and speedy. Today, I have a special guest Linda Lederman. Linda is the owner of Balaboosta’s Secret, where she teaches busy moms how to meal plan, prep, and cook with speed and fun. I am excited to learn from her today. Thank you for being here.
Linda: Thanks for having me.
Kristina: Can you give us some hacks for how to get that dinner on the table quick?
Linda: Well, in an ideal world, we'd all be meal planning which is generally unrealistic for everybody, but there's a way to do it where you can still get food on the table fast. My first recommendation is to know what you have on hand. Know what's in your pantry. Know what's in your refrigerator. Know what's in your freezer. The next thing to do is know how to use it.
Another thing you can do is, put your spices together. If you're making tacos every Tuesday, keep all your tacos spices in one spot. Then when you go to make your meal, you just take out the bin. You're not going through your spice drawers frantically searching, asking, “Where did I put that garlic?” You can be organized. You can make spice rubs in advance.
You can learn how to do sheet pan cooking. Sheet pan cooking is where you put the food on a sheet pan with your vegetables, pop it in the oven for 15-20 minutes. Your dinner is made.
You can do batch cooking, which means you cook more than what you need, so you can repurpose it for another meal. For instance, I wanted to make Asian meatballs, which sounds really exotic. Still, it probably takes 15 minutes from start to finish. Make Asian meatballs by baking them in the oven. Then put them on rice noodles with a peanut sauce. The next night, crumple it up and put it in a lettuce leaf with some Hussin sauce and Buck joy. You’re not cooking the whole meal again. You’ve just saved a tremendous amount of time because the kids aren’t complaining it's leftovers because the food looks different, and it tastes different too. They have a whole new meal.
Kristina: My kids hate leftovers. Can you give a few more suggestions for making leftovers desirable and different than the night before?
Linda: Let's say you're making rice as your side dish one night. The secret to reusing rice is to make fried rice with the leftovers. So, if you make twice as much rice as you need one day 1, you’ll be able to make fried rice on day 2. And let's say you roasted chicken one night. You can slice it up into small pieces and put it on fried rice.
Kristina: Many families also have picky eaters. Little kids that are super picky can bring mealtime down. Do you have any recommendations for picky eaters?
Linda: Yes, engage them in your grocery shopping. Tell them that you’re looking for purple foods today. Let them pick a purple vegetable! Then, let them see what their purple food tastes like. Engage them in the process. Or you can go to a farmers market and say, “Let's try something we've never tried before. Let's ask the farmer how to make ____” Once children get engaged in the process, they're more willing to try new foods. You encourage kids to try a new ethnic cuisine today! Let's look at a map and pick a country! Then find food from that country that you think you can create.
Kristina: Anytime you can get kids involved, you’ll have better cooperation. It empowers the children. I like to take my kids to the local farm and have them pick their veggies and fruits in the summer. It is a great experience for everyone.
Now, let’s talk about dinner conversation. Mealtime is a great opportunity to bond with your kids. Make it a rule that there are no screens at the table. Mealtime then allows you to talk to your children. It doesn't even matter if you don't have anything to say. Mealtime allows your child to talk to you.
Linda: My first piece of advice is, do not ask, ‘How was your day? Did you learn anything in school?’ This is a buzz kill right off the bat. Kids don't want to respond to that.
One of the things that I do is, there's a silly holiday for absolutely every day of the year. If you know what might be that silly holiday for the day, you can make a conversation around it. One example of that is, April is National Poetry Month. I announced to my family, when you come to the table tonight, bring a poem. Well, the groaning in the morning was deafening.
So now the challenge was on. My daughter brought a poem that basically said, I hate poetry. My son made some kind of silly rap song, and my husband made even a sillier rap song. The night wasn’t even about the poetry. It was about starting a new conversation and having fun.
Another thing you could do is play a game. Any card game or board game would work!
Another thing you can do is trivia cards. You can also do mad libs at the table, which becomes really fun because kids of all ages can do something like that.
My family also does round-robin stories where you start a story. Then your child continues where you left off, and you go around the table till the story gets finished, or you want to start another.
You can also do current events. I ask my kids to read a newspaper once a week and bring an interesting article to the table.
Kristina: I love it. Anytime you can have a real, authentic conversation, you will also create a connection with your children.
Why are you so passionate about family dinner time?
Linda: It is really important to make the most of mealtime. Studies show that families that eat together also have kids who do better in school, are less likely to get involved in drugs, and have better communication skills and social skills. It's a win-win when you get to have a great time and make wonderful memories.
Kristina: If people love what they're hearing, how can they learn more from you?
Linda: I can be found at balaboostassecret.com. Plus, I have a freebie for your audience today! It is a free PDF. It's a little bit about everything I've talked about tonight and some more. It's called Quick Dinner Time Sanity Saving Tips. You'll find suggestions for what you should have in your pantry, refrigerator, and freezer in the PDF. There are also quick tips on how to get dinner on the table fast. Lastly, there are a whole bunch of ideas of what you can talk about with your kids when you're at the table.
Kristina: Perfect, Linda. Thank you! Audience, after you get your freebie, go to theimpactfulparent.com and get some more freebies from me!
Until next time, you got this. I am just here to help.
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Tuesday Aug 03, 2021
103: Why Is My Child Sensitive To Touch?
Tuesday Aug 03, 2021
Tuesday Aug 03, 2021
It is Question and Answer LIVE, and today's question was: Why Is My Child Sensitive To Touch?
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Transcript for Why Is My Child Sensitive To Touch? :
Welcome Impactful Parents. Today’s question from the audience is: Why is my child developing some odd habits?
Hello. My name is Kristina, and I am the founder of The Impactful Parent. Every week I come on here and answer one of your questions LIVE. If you have a question for next week, please DM me or email me at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com. All submissions are kept anonymous.
Now back to our question. This week our question reads, “Why is my child developing some odd habits? My child has always been a picky eater and sensitive to some clothes, but now it seems like the weird habits are getting worse. Now my child is chewing on their shirt non-stop and won’t even let me hug them half of the time. What is happening?
This is much more common than most people realize, and for that reason, I love this question. In fact, if you think that your child has some oddities or is growing into some weird habit, then this episode is for you! Let me start by saying that I am not a doctor. To get a true diagnosis, you’ll need to go to your health care professional. Still, it does sound to me like this child has some sensory sensitivities. So today, I am going to give you signs that your child has tactile sensitivities and a few tips for dealing with them.
Touch sensitivities have many names. The most common names include a neurological disorder, tactile defensiveness, or sensory processing disorder. Still, whatever you call it, touch sensitivity causes a child to overreact to touch. A lot of times, you will see touch sensitivities manifest themselves in things like:
- Difficult wearing clothing because they complain that the fabric is itchy or rough
- Kids being irritated with clothing tags
- Kids hating to wear socks because of the seams or how they bunch up in their shoes,
- Kids that have difficulty brushing their teeth due to toothpaste textures or bristles,
- Kids who can’t get their haircut because of how the barber touches them with the razor, scissors, or all the little, tiny hairs that get on them due to a haircut.
- Kids that avoid big crowds, loud places, amusement parks, movie theaters, or anywhere that there are many bright lights, loud noises, or too much activity.
- Kids that avoid finger painting, playing in the sand, play-doh, or avoid messy activities like cooking or gardening,
- Kids that are picky eaters due to food textures, or kids that avoid mixing foods or food with lumps,
- Kids that don’t like wind, rain, or other weather elements touching their skin,
- Kids that don’t like unexpected hugs, kisses, or any unexpected touch! Maybe you see your child rubbing your hug or kiss away?
- Kids that instantly go into a flight-or-flight response with simple, non-threatening touches.
Do you see the pattern in those examples? These kids are overly sensitive to anything that touches them. For example, think of a simple touch like a hug feeling like a bear is squeezing you. Most touch is exaggerated for kids with sensory sensitivities. On a side note: I will also mention a disorder that is the opposite of touch sensitivities where the child is sensory seeking. If you’re interested in learning more about that disorder, send me a quick message, and I can do an episode on that disorder too. That disorder is often mistaken for ADHD, but it is not ADHD-related.
But back to Sensory Sensitivities…
Sensory sensitivities don’t affect your child’s ability to learn; however, it affects their ability to concentrate and take in information. That is why it is very important to diagnose this disorder early before your child has academic challenges. The tactile system in the body also affects the emotional triggers in the brain. That is why over-stimulating your child will cause them to cry at the drop of a hat or irritate them into a bad mood. When your child is overstimulated, they will go into a fight-or-flight mode and view certain touches as threatening. For example, if you give your child a light touch on the neck or pat on the back and they react with a flight response like, “Ahhh! Get away from me,” then you’ve just seen your child go into flight mode. Or maybe your child hates the tags on their shirt because it is so irritating to have that unwanted stimulus that your child cannot think or concentrate on anything else. All these are signs your child has touch sensitivities.
So, what can parents do to help a child with touch sensitivities? Here is a rapid-fire list of things you can try. Be sure to watch the video again if you need to write anything down.
- Ask your child if you can give them a hug or kiss. Don’t give them unsolicited or surprise touch.
- Tell family members that your child has sensitivities and also ask them to not give a surprise touch. This is especially important around holidays when stimulation is already high. Sometimes, the big hug and pinch on the cheek from grandma can make your child go over the top.
- Use weighted backpacks, weighted blankets, and other weighted accessories to help ground your child and make them feel good.
- Touch your child firmly instead of softly. Don’t hurt your child, but touch them with a firmer feel rather than a light graze.
- Ask your teacher to have your child go first or last in line so that they can avoid others bumping into them.
- Cut out the tags of clothes or buy tagless clothing.
- Consider using plates that separate foods, and be aware that your child might not like lumps in their food, so you may have to puree some items.
- Avoid tickling your child.
- Create a quiet corner or safe space in your home where your child can go to get away from overstimulating environments and calm down. Maybe a tent or darkroom. Create a quiet space, dim light (or use a red light bulb), and have soothing tactile comfort tools like soft pillows.
- Ask your child to partake in some heavy work. Heavy work is any type of activity that pushes or pulls against the body. Heavy work activities can help kids with sensory processing issues feel centered, so ask your child to help you carry some heavy boxes around the house.
- Sometimes oral stimulation will help the child distract from what is irritating to them and focus on the oral activity happening in their mouth, allowing your child to have some gum or a lollipop to calm themselves down or concentrate in school.
- And lastly, look into a method called Willbarger Brushing. Basically, Willbarger Brushing uses a special brush to calm your child. You brush the child’s arms and legs with the brush several times a day, followed by joint compressions to regulate their system again. The technique is very simple, and occupational therapists use this technique all the time but look into it for yourself to see if it is a right fit for your child.
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