The Impactful Parenting Podcast helps parents turn their chaos into connection with their children. Through meaningful stories, the podcast provides parenting tips for making family life easier! Why? Because school-aged children bring different challenges to parenting that younger kids don’t! The Impactful Parenting Podcast provides help for raising your adolescent child. So if you’re asking yourself questions like: • ”Is this normal?” • ”Why is my teenager doing this?” • ”How do I get my child to stop?” • ”I am so frustrated. What do I do?” • ”Is anyone else experiencing this? I can’t be the only one.” • ”I am worried. What can I do?” Then YOU HAVE FOUND THE RIGHT PLACE! Hi! I am Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent and my passion is creating better relationships between parents and their children. I am a parenting coach, a teacher who has taught every grade level from Pre-K through high school, and most importantly, I am a mom of 4 kids! (Yep, those are my kiddos in the podcast photo). The teen years don’t need to be difficult. Teenagers CAN have a special bond with their parents! Listen and discover the tools and techniques you need to create connections, build trust, and have a stress-free household. This is only the beginning! Let’s get started, together! -Kristina Campos Founder of The Impactful Parent
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Tuesday Oct 11, 2022
Tuesday Oct 11, 2022
The 5 Conflict Languages
Many people have heard of the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman, but have you heard of the 5 Conflict Languages by Thomas Kilmann? Learn the 5 Conflict resolution techniques. Understand how our children resolve disputes and help them learn how to negotiate, compromise, and collaborate for a winning outcome!
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Transcript of The 5 Conflict Languages
My two teenagers are screaming at each other. One is crying, and the other is pointing fingers. Every day there is nagging, lectures, and I have to break up fights…. It's all exhausting and in the end, guess who gets the blame? ME! Yep, my kids plead for justice from me. "Mom, help me get my sister off my back," "Mom, make my brother stop yelling at me," "Mom, can you help me?"
Sibling rivalry and family conflict are unavoidable but understanding how your kids instinctively respond to a conflict will help you approach conflict resolution better! Many people have heard of the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman, but have you heard of the 5 Conflict Languages by Thomas Kilmann?
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
Today I will teach you the 5 Conflict Languages. Thomas Kilmann published that there are 5 ways that people try to resolve conflict. I will explain what each conflict language is, the pros and cons of each conflict language, and stick around to the end because I will also be giving you Impactful Parent tips along the way! Let's get started!
Conflict Language #1- Accommodating
This conflict style is popular with kids who are "people pleasers" and kids who simply don't care too much about the issue. Maybe they don't care about the problem because the child has a laid-back personality, or perhaps the outcome of the conflict doesn't bother them either way. The accommodating conflict language means that the child will put others' needs before theirs. The child doesn't mind letting the opposing party get their way. Sometimes children will also be accommodators when they don't want to deal with the issue because it's not worth their time or they avoid being wrong. Children with perfectionistic personalities often accommodate when they feel the stakes are too high to be corrected. They find it better to accommodate so they can say, "Oh- that's what I thought, but I didn't want to tell you." It's a way of staying "safely correct."
The good thing about accommodating conflict language is that it can easily avoid disputes. This leaves more time for other things, and your child won't be considered argumentative because disagreements will be over quickly.
The bad thing about accommodating conflict language is the child can come off as a push-over. The children with stronger opinions can take advantage of the accommodating child's easy-going-ness. Also, over time, accommodating children can become resentful because they seldom get their way.
Impactful Parent Tip: The accommodating child should be encouraged to respectfully speak their mind and express their opinions. Encourage their voice. Help children navigate conflict when they play with others. Keep track of how often the child is accommodating to others. Be aware when your child is starting to feel resentful for continuingly giving in to a sibling or friend?
Conflict Language #2- Compromising
Teaching your child to compromise is a necessary skill. Most parents teach compromising in the early toddler years at playdates with toys; however, the compromising conflict style can also frustrate a child when they rely on it too often. The compromising conflict language is also called the "Lose-Lose" conflict language. Everyone in the conflict must give up something they want to find a middle ground. Many children use this conflict resolution style with their peers because that is what they were taught first. School teachers also encourage compromising solutions in the classroom. It is the most ingrained of the 5 styles, so therefore the most practiced, but that is not to say it is the easiest to implement.
The good side of compromising conflict language is that most children are familiar with it. Asking school-aged children to compromise will likely get some eye rolls. Still, the children expect intervening adults to resort to this conflict resolution style. Also, the compromising tactic encourages the child to hear the other's perspective, wants, and needs. It forces children to listen to each other. If done correctly, your child should feel heard even though they still have to give up something they want.
The downside of compromising conflict language is that it can cause resentment if used too often. No one leaves the conflict feeling completely happy. Children often complain that they gave up more than the opposing party did. Children also get tired of compromising.
Impactful Parent Tip: Teach compromise in the early years; however, don't use it too often. Try to mix up the conflict resolution styles when using them so that compromise isn't always the default. Compromise is best used when the child doesn't care too strongly about the issue, and the conflict needs to be resolved quickly. Also, be mindful that your child is giving up equal amounts as the opposing party so that resentment doesn't fester.
Conflict Language #3- Avoiding
Children afraid of conflict or the results of a conflict will often resort to avoiding the conflict altogether. These children are peacemakers, or they are acting upon their fears. Either way, the avoiding conflict style is usually only prolonging the inevitable.
The good side of avoiding conflict language is that it can be effective IF a cool-down period would be helpful in the situation. For example, if children need a little time to calm down their emotions or time to process their thoughts, or perhaps they need some time to step back and see the big picture.
The downside of avoiding conflict language comes when the conflict is avoided indefinitely or for too long. Avoiding conflict can result in making things worse. Lastly, avoiders of conflict are often unassertive. These children have a fear that if they engage, then the future will be worse.
Impactful Parent Tip: Children should be encouraged NOT to avoid conflict forever. Remember that many children who avoid conflict are scared for some reason. Maybe they are afraid of a potential outcome, getting yelled at, feeling unloved or unlikeable, or any other large assortment of reasons. Parents should be mindful of these fears and help children face their fears of conflict by helping them with their conflict resolution. Parents who encourage their child's voice and provide their children with a safe space to express themselves, their opinions, and their emotions will often also help them feel safe enough to stand up for themselves.
Conflict Language #4- Collaborating
The collaborating conflict language is arguably the best conflict resolution technique because it yields the most win-win results for everyone involved. Best used when the solution/outcome is essential to everyone or when it is crucial to keep everyone's relationship in good standing. With the collaborating conflict language, each person must express their wants, needs, and concerns. Usually, this means that the children must sit down together and talk through the conflict by negotiating a solution that everyone feels good about. I'd like to point out that, unlike the compromising conflict language where everyone gives up a piece of what they want to find common ground and leaves everyone feeling like they had to "give up" something they wanted to find a solution, collaborating conflict language has children come to a common ground through brainstorming solutions that make everyone involved feel good about the outcome.
The good side of the collaborating conflict language is that it is considered a "win-win" solution. Everyone leaves happy, relationships often leave stronger, and kids learn to work together toward an agreed outcome. The majority of the time, this conflicting language yields the best results.
The downside of the collaborating conflict language is that it is time-consuming. Most children will need a mediator (aka an adult) to help them problem solve, brainstorm, talk respectfully to each other, and negotiate without animosity. Sometimes, kids also have difficulty with the collaborating processes because it takes a long time. So, if you need to find a resolution in a hurry, this is not your best option.
Impactful Parent Tip: When given the time, practice this conflict resolution technique as often as possible and in the early childhood years. Not only is this the best-case scenario conflict resolution style, but the skills your child will learn through the collaborating conflict language will be valuable for years to come. Skills like patients, listening to the other side's point of view, working with someone who has opposing views, the ability to articulate your own point of view with conviction and evidence, and more. Teaching this to children will take time and lots of practice. Many parents don’t have the patients to sit and help children talk things out to a resolution because it is so time-consuming, however, try your best to be patient with the long process that will need to be practiced often because the results yield dividends for years to come.
Conflict Language #5- Competing
The competing conflict language is the opposite of collaboration. This language technique rejects compromise, doesn't listen to others' points of view, stands firm in one person's opinion, and does not give in to others' wants, needs, or desires. When a child is using competing language, they will not give in or back down. They are quite literally competing for the 100% win.
The good side of the competing language technique is that a solution is often found more quickly. Since there is no space for disagreement or conversation, someone usually wins the argument quickly.
The downside of the competing language technique is that relationships will be hurt and lost over such rigid thinking and behaviors. Your child will lose friends, hurt people's feelings, and children that use this technique are often considered bullies. Other kids won't tolerate this kind of behavior long because everyone else's needs are usually ignored. Resentment builds up fast.
Impactful Parent Tip: Be mindful of older children using this technique with younger children. This happens because the older child can get away with it.
Also, keep in mind that children who are not practiced in compromising or collaborating conflict languages will use the competing technique instead. This should be a red flag that your might be unfamiliar or not practiced with listening to others. Younger children default to this technique because of precisely that. Listening to others' points of view and brainstorming solutions are more complex skills than standing firm and holding your ground. If you see your child always defaulting to the competing conflict language, consider that they may not know any other way of conflict resolution or at least aren't practiced enough in the different conflict resolution styles to feel confident enough to practice them on their own. This is a great opportunity for you to step-in, spend some time with your child, listen to his points of view, and teach him how to collaborate and compromise! Now is the perfect time to turn a conflict into a lesson in self-awareness and resolution.
If this information was valuable for you today, BECOME a more impactful parent by downloading The Impactful Parent App. The Impactful Parent app is FREE and full of episodes like this one that will help you in your parenting journey. Investing in your family looks like learning the warning signs of certain behaviors so you can stop bad things before they start, discovering new parenting techniques to make your parenting more effective, and joining a community of like-minded parents that also want to be the best parent they can for their child. All this, plus so much more, can be found inside The Impactful Parent app, so download it today. You got nothing to lose with this free parenting resource. Go to theimpactfulparent.com and discover how you can step up your parenting game and be a more impactful parent.
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Thursday Oct 06, 2022
Thursday Oct 06, 2022
How To Raise Strong Girls
Tips for raising strong girls that don't need to conform or fit into social stereotypes.
This episode of The Impactful Parent was recorded on Clubhouse. Clubhouse is a social media audio app. My co-hosts for this episode are:
Dali Rivera: Bully Prevention and Awareness Coach
Rodrigo Bravo: Co-parenting coach and consultant
If you would like to reach out to either of these amazing co-hosts, please email me at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com and I will put you in touch with them.
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Thursday Sep 29, 2022
Thursday Sep 29, 2022
Tips for Kids With Big Emotions
Does your child have big emotions? Rachel Bailey and Kristina Campos talk about What Big Emotions Look Like In Our Kids, How Big Emotions Affect The Whole Family and Give Tips For How To Handle Those Big Situations.
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Thursday Sep 22, 2022
Thursday Sep 22, 2022
183: How To Talk About Sex at Different Ages of Development
Kristina Campos, Rodrigo Bravo, Jessica Marie, and Dali Rivera talk about HOW TO TALK TO YOUR CHILDREN ABOUT SEX AT DIFFERENT DEVELOPMENTAL STAGES.
* This recording was made on the Clubhouse App. Clubhouse is a FREE social media app and you can join the conversation too! Find Kristina on Clubhouse with the user handle: @impactfulparent
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Monday Sep 19, 2022
Monday Sep 19, 2022
Social Media and Teens
Richard Capriola talks about social media statistics and how our teens are being influenced by these apps. Watch and discover what social media is doing to teen behaviors and learn how you can help your teen navigate the social media app world.
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Wednesday Sep 14, 2022
Wednesday Sep 14, 2022
Teen Substance Abuse and Mental Health Changes After the Pandemic
Richard Capriola, a mental health and substance abuse counselor, gives the newest stats on how the pandemic affected teenagers. Richard talks about the decline in substance abuse and the rise in the mental health crisis.
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Thursday Sep 08, 2022
Thursday Sep 08, 2022
What To Expect From Middle School
The transition from elementary school to middle school is more profound than some parents realize. Learn what the main differences will be and where most kids have challenges. Discover what parents can do to support their children through the middle school years.
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Transcript of What To Expect From Middle School
Well, it happened. You blinked, and now your baby is in middle school! Many parents enter the middle school years with a reluctant enthusiasm because they know the teen years are creeping in closer. Well, I am here to tell you that middle school is not that scary, but there are things you need to know to prepare for the 6th, 7th, and 8th grades. Today's tips will prepare you and your child for a successful school year.
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
Today, I will talk to you about what to expect from a middle schooler. I will explain the differences between elementary school & middle school. I will talk about how some things should shift, like expectations, and stick around to the end because I will also give tips for setting your child up for a successful middle school experience. Let us get started!
There is a lot of change for a child entering middle school. Although we all know the differences, most parents do not think about how profoundly different middle school is from elementary. For starters, students no longer stay with one beloved teacher all day. In middle school, students learn from multiple teachers for the first time. This also means changing classrooms throughout the day and getting to know several teachers. For the first time, students must learn to work with peers, teaching styles, and expectations in several different classrooms. Middle school students have a small say in what they want to learn for the first time because many get to pick elective classes. Alongside the excitement of having some say in what they are learning, middle schoolers get their first opportunities to play sports or join after-school extracurricular activities. In middle school, kids have lockers and a bigger campus, and they may be required to change clothes for PE and wear deodorant. The social opportunities outside the classroom increase with the opportunity to attend school dances. But the most significant and most challenging change for students between the elementary and middle school years is the expectations of academic rigor.
For the first time, your child will be asked to learn the teaching style and expectations of several teachers simultaneously. They will need to manage their schedule, homework, and projects without a homeroom teacher holding their hand and reminding them of all the due dates. In middle school, students start to differentiate a lot more. Various levels of ability begin to become even more apparent. The kids that struggle with executive functioning skills like organization, time management, focus, planning, and self-control, will have a more difficult time with the middle school transition than some of their peers.
Teachers will expect more from your child, like an increase in homework and independence to do the work asked of them without much assistance. Your child will have to manage multiple homework assignments and deadlines. Teachers will begin to implement higher-order thinking skills into the curriculum. And finally, there is a base knowledge and skill level that most teachers will expect your child is already proficient.
Teachers are less accessible to students than before, making matters more complicated. If your child needs help, they will have to make an appointment with their middle school teacher, who might not be available during convenient times. Also, the classroom sizes will get larger in middle school, which means less individual attention. Parents are expected to step back and not cuddle their children as much. This means there is less opportunity for the parents to get into the classroom and be involved. Some students will thrive in their new independence; others will struggle when they do not have the homeroom teacher, mom, or dad for support.
Not only is it important for parents to be aware of the new expectations of middle school, but it is also vital to support your child's growth to independence and maturity. Here are some tips parents can implement to help support their children during their elementary to middle school transition.
- Create a solid daily routine where your child is expected to wake up, get homework done, and go to bed at a designated time each day. This routine is pivotal to making sure your child is getting enough sleep and know when to expect to do homework every day.
- Help your child create a schedule and system for recording their responsibilities. Knowing how to use a calendar, write things down, and keep track of responsibilities is a skill and not intuitive. For the whole first semester of the school year, expect to be over your child's shoulder for a while. This ensures they get into the habit of using a daily planner and tracking assignments.
- Help your child with study skills and executive functioning. This might mean helping them learn study skills and how to manage their time at the beginning of the semester. Help your child with organization and keeping their locker clean. This might mean stopping by the school every Friday to check out what might be buried at the bottom of their locker.
- Keep computers out of the bedroom and minimize distractions where you expect your child to study. Kids do not do this well on their own. They think they can learn in front of TVs, phones, and iPad, but instead, get your child into the habit of studying in a well-lit and quiet place.
- Teach your child to be their own advocate. Help them email their teachers and sign up for extra help when they need it. Many kids need help with this. They do not want to email their teachers because it feels intimidating, embarrassing, or they are just afraid.
- Although I highly encourage much support and monitoring during the first semester of middle school, I also suggest increasing expectations at home to match what is expected in the classroom. It is time to encourage your child to be more independent, self-reliant, and mature. This could mean loosening the reins and monitoring once you feel your child can do things independently. It could also mean more chores at home, like doing their own laundry.
- Lastly, hold your child accountable for their actions. Now is the time to start teaching responsibility. If you want tips on that, I have a video in the app called: Teaching Responsibility under the All-Ages Section of the Impactful Parent app. In short, do not rescue your child from natural consequences unless necessary. Do not bring their jacket to school if they forget it. Do not do their homework for them when they leave the assignment until the last minute. Instead, allow your child to experience the world as it is- with the natural consequences of their actions, both good and bad.
If this information was valuable for you today, BECOME a more impactful parent by downloading The Impactful Parent App. The Impactful Parent app is FREE and full of episodes like this one that will help you in your parenting journey. Investing in your family looks like learning the warning signs of certain behaviors so you can stop bad things before they start. It is discovering new parenting techniques to make your parenting more effective. And it is joining a community of like-minded parents that also want to be the best parent they can be for their children. All this, plus so much more, can be found inside The Impactful Parent app, so download it today. You got nothing to lose with this free parenting resource. Go to theimpactfulparent.com and discover how you can step up your parenting game and be a more impactful parent.
But until next time, you got this, parents. I am just here to help.
Thursday Sep 01, 2022
Thursday Sep 01, 2022
Online Volunteer Experience For Teenagers: Seniors 4 Seniors
Eric and John Peterson, father and son duo, talk about Seniors 4 Seniors, a non-profit organization promoting the relationships between seniors in high school and senior citizens. This amazing organization couples teenagers and the elderly in nursing homes so that they can cultivate friendship and mentorship together. FREE to participate, Seniors 4 Seniors is a volunteer opportunity that can change the lives of our young and old alike! Watch and learn how YOU can also get involved with this great opportunity!
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Thursday Aug 25, 2022
Thursday Aug 25, 2022
How To Teach Culture
Rodrigo Bravo, Dali River, and Kristina Campos talk about the importance of teaching culture to children. Tips for teaching culture in your own home are given throughout the episode.
This is a Clubhouse App replay. Clubhouse is a public social audio app and free to download. If you want to join our conversation next time, download the app and look for Kristina with the handle @impactfulparent. Kristina Campos hosts Clubhouse rooms every week!
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Thursday Aug 18, 2022
Thursday Aug 18, 2022
Parenting Differently Abroad: Advantages and Challenges
Stefanie Fernandes talks about HOW EVERY CULTURE PARENTS DIFFERENTLY and what happens when we immerse our family into a culture we didn't grow up in. How is parenting abroad challenging and advantageous? This inspiring and interesting Impactful Parent episode tells Stefanie's person story of parenting in Scandinavia!
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