The Impactful Parenting Podcast helps parents turn their chaos into connection with their children. Through meaningful stories, the podcast provides parenting tips for making family life easier! Why? Because school-aged children bring different challenges to parenting that younger kids don’t! The Impactful Parenting Podcast provides help for raising your adolescent child. So if you’re asking yourself questions like: • ”Is this normal?” • ”Why is my teenager doing this?” • ”How do I get my child to stop?” • ”I am so frustrated. What do I do?” • ”Is anyone else experiencing this? I can’t be the only one.” • ”I am worried. What can I do?” Then YOU HAVE FOUND THE RIGHT PLACE! Hi! I am Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent and my passion is creating better relationships between parents and their children. I am a parenting coach, a teacher who has taught every grade level from Pre-K through high school, and most importantly, I am a mom of 4 kids! (Yep, those are my kiddos in the podcast photo). The teen years don’t need to be difficult. Teenagers CAN have a special bond with their parents! Listen and discover the tools and techniques you need to create connections, build trust, and have a stress-free household. This is only the beginning! Let’s get started, together! -Kristina Campos Founder of The Impactful Parent
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Thursday Jun 22, 2023
Thursday Jun 22, 2023
How To Motivate A Lazy Teenager
Dr. Melanie McNally, a teen coach and psychologist, gives tips for helping your teen discover their inner passion and start moving! This is a must-see episode for anyone with a teenager because these tips are gems for every parent! Learn how you can create a better relationship with your teenager and help them reach their fullest potential.
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Thursday Jun 15, 2023
Thursday Jun 15, 2023
How to Improve My Daughter's Self Esteem
5 Empowering Tips for Parents to Improve and encourage good self-esteem in Girls! If you have a daughter, this is a MUST-SEE episode of The Impactful Parent!
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Transcript: for How to Improve My Daughter's Self Esteem
How to Improve My Daughters Self Esteem: Empowering Tips for Parents
"I hate my thighs. I'm fat. No one really likes me. Everything I do goes to shit. I'm worthless. I shouldn't even be here. No one would miss me if I was gone."
These are actual words from girls I have mentored, met in my classroom, and even from my daughter.
Girls, in particular, are the worst at comparing themselves to others and taking every else's opinions and comments to heart. Most girls are so self-conscience about themselves that they predict what others will think, extrapolate words into huge adverse outcomes, and nitpick their appearance every time they see a mirror.
Yes, social media has made things worse. Media messages are horrible for mental health. And although we know that this critical and negative inner voice of girls is destroying their mental health, most parents feel helpless to change it because, frankly- It feels like you can tell your daughter how awesome she is a trillion times. Still, she doesn't consider YOUR opinion because you are biased and don't count. So then, what are parents to do?
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
Today, I will give you 5 BIG tips for boosting self-esteem in girls and empowering our young women to feel confident. This topic is near and dear to my heart as I watch so many young ladies spiral into an unnecessary self-harming journey, and I use these tips myself to boost the self-esteem of my own daughter. Let's get started!
How to Improve My Daughters Self Esteem #1: Promote Positive Body Image
We all know girls face societal pressure to conform to specific beauty standards. Most of us understand that this is crap, and we need to counteract this by promoting a healthy body image and emphasizing the importance of self-acceptance and self-care over appearance.
How to do this: Discuss media influences with your daughter and help her critically analyze unrealistic beauty standards. Encourage her to focus on being healthy, active, and strong rather than striving for a specific body shape or size. Model positive body image and self-care behaviors yourself. You can't complain about yourself in the mirror and expect your daughter to not do the same. You need to be a role model! No more comments like, "Do these jeans make me look fat?" No more comments about famous actresses having better hair and legs, …. Whatever. In fact, please don't compare your body or her body to ANYONE. Comparisons can lead into a rabbit hole of self-loathing. Because comparisons are human nature and can not be avoided entirely, minimize comparisons by being careful what kind of magazines you have around your house, the TV shows you watch, and other media content your daughter consumes.
How to Improve My Daughters Self Esteem #2: Encourage a Growth Mindset
What does it mean to encourage a growth mindset? It is fancy to say that you want to teach the importance of effort, perseverance, and learning from failures. Teach her that setbacks are growth opportunities and that intelligence and abilities can be developed through dedication and practice.
How to do this: Celebrate her achievements, big or small, and help her recognize her progress over time. When your daughter faces a challenge, discuss how she can break it down into smaller steps and offer support and encouragement. Highlight her efforts and the valuable lessons she learns through the process. Don't focus on the outcome.
How to Improve My Daughters Self Esteem #3: Compliment her character, NOT her appearance.
How to do this: Don't say, "You look pretty in that dress." Instead, try to compliment who she is and what she does. You want character traits to be on the top of your mind. Things like being attentive, tenacity, hard work, empathy, kindness, attention to detail, and so forth. Or compliment her on something that she does, like never giving up, trying her best, working on a project for a great length of time, thinking of others, etc. I challenge you to shift how you compliment your daughter because these kinds of compliments are more thoughtful and will leave a more lasting impression.
How to Improve My Daughters Self Esteem #4: Build skills independent of appearance.
How to do this: Get your daughter involved in extracurricular activities immediately. It doesn't matter what the action is if she likes it. The goal is to build self-confidence rather than focus on looking pretty and acquiring stuff. Art, music, crafting, or sports are all great activities. Encourage your child to develop a skill she can be proud of, then cheer her on! You want your daughter to spend at least a few hours daily doing something that makes her feel good about herself. Yep, A FEW HOURS A DAY! So, help your daughter find a variety of activities that make her feel happy and confident aside from her particular skill or craft. Things like journaling, yoga classes, exercise, listening to music, or even spending time with positive and supportive friends.
How to Improve My Daughters Self Esteem #5: Teach her to find and speak her voice.
Girls with low self-esteem may struggle with asserting themselves and expressing their needs and opinions. Many girls who lose confidence default to being "people-pleasers." So, equip your daughter with communication skills to navigate social interactions and stand up for herself. Teach your daughter to approach challenges with resilience and problem-solving skills.
How to do this: Start by providing more opportunities for her to speak her opinions aloud. Ask her, "What do you want to do? What is your opinion on this? Do you have a recommendation for me? What do you think?" Let her have a voice and speak her mind and then consider her opinions. This is important. You can't ask for her opinions and then dismiss them. She will see right through that! You have to allow her to speak her mind, consider those suggestions, and NOT respond negatively to her suggestions.
Another thing you can do is roleplay different scenarios where she can practice assertive communication. If she has difficulty speaking up in class, roleplay a classroom setting where she asks questions. If she is having trouble standing up to a friend, roleplay what she wants to say to that friend and help her practice the appropriate body language that should go with those words so that she is getting practice standing up for herself and setting boundaries effectively. Encourage her to use "I" statements to express her feelings and reinforce that her voice and body language matter!
Special note to dads: Do not treat your daughter like a distressed damsel. If you treat your daughter as fragile and helpless, she will think she is weak and helpless! Instead, give her the knowledge to care for herself and the confidence to feel capable.
Those are the top 5 big concepts to work on, but there is always more we can do as parents! Here are some quick tips to keep in mind while you work on building your daughter's self-esteem.
Boosting Self-Esteem in Girls Quick Tips:
- Recognize and focus on your daughter's strengths.
- Organize playdates or encourage friends that are also positive girls who uplift her mood.
- Mothers, don't borrow your daughter's clothes.
- Help her set realistic goals and break down big tasks into smaller, more manageable projects she can be successful with.
- Supply healthy food in your home. Chips, soda, and processed foods make everyone unhealthy and gain weight. You are in charge of the grocery shopping and what is available inside your home. Take responsibility for that and provide food that will keep your daughter healthy.
- Watch how you talk about other people. Are you comparing? Are you putting others down? Don't trash-talk other women.
- Tell your daughter you love her no matter what and prove it to her by telling her, "I love you," even when you are angry, she messes up, or she is being difficult.
- Encourage positive self-talk by complimenting her often and saying, "You deserve respect. You are loved. You are capable." And simultaneously discouraging any self-loathing or negative comments you may hear her say occasionally.
- Don't go into fix-it mode and try to give unsolicited advice or fix all her problems when your daughter might need a listening ear and some space to vent.
- Be patient. Building self-esteem takes time.
By implementing these empowering tips, parents can play a pivotal role in boosting their daughters' self-esteem. Remember that building self-esteem is an ongoing process, requiring patience, empathy, and consistent support. You can do this! You equip your daughter with the confidence to navigate life's challenges and pursue her dreams with resilience.
If this information was valuable for you today, BECOME a more impactful parent by downloading The Impactful Parent App. The Impactful Parent app is FREE and full of episodes like this one to help you in your parenting journey. Investing in your family looks like learning the warning signs of certain behaviors so you can stop bad things before they start, discovering new parenting techniques to make your parenting more effective, and joining a community of like-minded parents who want to be the best parent they can for their child. All of this, plus so much more, can be found inside The Impactful Parent app, so download it today. You got nothing to lose with this free parenting resource. Go to theimpactfulparent.com and discover how to step up your parenting game and be more impactful.
But until next time, you got this, parents. I am just here to help.
Thursday Jun 08, 2023
Thursday Jun 08, 2023
Is My Child Smart Or Lazy? Discover Gifted Children
Dr. Mary Grace Stewart and I talk about gifted children that underachieve in this amazing episode of The Impactful Parent. We discuss questions like:
- What does gifted look like?
- Why do smart children underachieve?
- What do gifted kids need from schools to be successful?
- What is twice exceptional giftedness and how can parents support these kids?
- MUCH MORE!
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Thursday Jun 01, 2023
Thursday Jun 01, 2023
How To Be A Compassionate Parent
This video focuses on the 5 levels of compassion and why reaching level 5 should be an impactful parent's goal! Discover the 5 levels of compassion and how you can be a better parent by being more compassionate. Examples for each level are given.
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Thursday May 25, 2023
Thursday May 25, 2023
How To Teach Kids To Be Grateful
Stephanie Jones is on a mission to inspire others to give and practice gratitude daily. In this episode of The Impactful Parent, Stephanie gives parents tips for teaching gratitude to children and incorporating gratitude into their everyday lives.
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Thursday May 18, 2023
Thursday May 18, 2023
What Does Bad Parenting Look Like?
The Impactful Parent's 10 NO-NO's of parenting. Discover 10 things parents should NEVER do! How do you score?
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Transcript of What Does Bad Parenting Look Like:
Parenting is a tough job; even the best of us can make mistakes. However, some behaviors and actions can negatively affect a child's development and well-being. In this episode of The Impactful Parent, we'll explore what bad parenting is and provide examples so that you can recognize it and avoid it.
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
Today, we are going to talk about BAD PARENTING! Just because you may recognize some of the 10 bad parenting moves I will tell you today doesn't mean you are a bad parent. We all make mistakes. But if you're trying to be the best parent you can, want to learn from your mistakes, or just need assurance that you're doing things right, this episode is for you! Let's get started!
Bad parenting #1: Scolding your child with an audience.
Scolding a child in front of an audience can be bad for several reasons. According to Psychology Today, shaming and humiliating children is emotionally abusive and can negatively affect a child's mental health and self-esteem. In fact, research has shown that scolding can make a child feel fearful, defiant, or aggressive.
Bad parenting #2: Reprimanding a child harshly even if they spoke the truth.
I get it. Maybe your child did something without asking and is only telling you the truth because they got caught. But, reprimanding a child when they told the truth teaches the child that honesty is not valued or appreciated, which can lead to future lying. This is where you must find a way to hold your child accountable for their actions WITHOUT having the offense against them. Suppose you reprimand a child and don't give them some sort of resolution for being truthful. In that case, you can create a cycle of dishonesty and mistrust. Instead, focus on teaching your child the importance of honesty and how being honest can make things easier or better for them.
Bad parenting #3: Comparing your child to someone else.
Comparing children to others can negatively impact a child's self-esteem, cause feelings of insecurity, and breed unhealthy competition among siblings or peers. For instance, a child constantly compared to their siblings in a negative light may feel inadequate, break trust and make the child feel like they are not good enough. Moreover, compared to other children, they may feel intimidated, leading to aggressive behavior and bullying others to feel better about themselves. This is why parents should try not to compare their child to anyone who accepts the child's past self. According to a study, children who compare themselves with their past selves are likelier to have healthy self-esteem and not compete with others.
Bad parenting #4: Neglect
Neglect is one of the most damaging forms of bad parenting. It involves failing to provide a child with food, shelter, clothing, medical care, and emotional support. Neglect includes leaving a child alone for extended periods, failing to seek medical attention for a sick child, not providing adequate supervision, and even not giving your child enough attention or affection. Kids need their parents. So, examine your schedule and if you are leaving your child home alone for too long.
Bad parenting #5: Physical abuse
Physical abuse involves intentionally causing harm to a child's body. Most parents know that hitting, kicking, slapping, or burning a child is unacceptable. Still, more common examples of physical abuse include shaking a child, hitting a child with an object, or locking a child in a closet. Physical abuse can also be holding your child to a particular weight standard. Making a child overeat (like insisting they finish all the food on a plate when it's loaded to the brim.) Or depriving your child of nutritional food (like having a household full of potato chips and canned foods. This type of physical abuse is more common than most people realize.
Bad parenting #6: Role modeling behaviors you don't want to pass down.
Yes, what YOU do in front of your child matters. Kids look to their parents for how to act. If you drink a glass of wine every night after dinner, your child is more likely to grow up and mimic that behavior. Children who witnessed domestic violence were more likely to repeat the behavior as adults. You can tell kids not to do what you do, but actions speak louder than words. Kids learn much more from their eyes and life experiences than what they are told.
Bad parenting #7: Avoid understanding and listening to your child's feelings.
Not listening to a child's feelings can damage mental health and self-esteem. So, if you catch yourself saying, "Don't worry about it. You're making a big deal out of nothing!" or "Stop crying. There is nothing to cry about," then consider how you are devaluing and belittling your child's emotions. This can result in the child feeling like their feelings are unimportant, leading to long-lasting effects on their emotional well-being.
Bad parenting #8: Emotional abuse
Emotional abuse involves harming a child's self-esteem. It can take many forms, such as belittling, insulting, threatening, or isolating a child. Emotional abuse can have long-lasting effects on a child's mental health and ability to form healthy relationships. Examples of emotional abuse include constantly criticizing a child, withholding affection, or blaming a child for problems in the family. Many parents that are emotional abusers don't even do this intentionally. Usually, these parents were also parented with emotional abuse growing up. They didn't realize they passed down the same behaviors to their children. So, watch that you don't always have a criticizing tone or are correcting your child consistently (making them feel like they can't do anything right.)
Bad parenting #9: Inconsistent discipline
Inconsistent discipline can confuse a child and make them feel insecure. It can involve punishing a child for one behavior one day and then ignoring it the next. It can implement rules one day but ignore the same rule later. This makes it difficult for a child to understand the consequences of their actions. They are always playing a guessing game of whether or not they can get caught, and this also creates feelings of instability and anxiety and teaches kids to be manipulative. Stay consistent with your discipline, rules, and expectations.
Bad parenting #10: Overprotection
Overprotection can limit a child's ability to develop independence and self-reliance. It can involve shielding a child from any potential harm or failure, which can prevent them from learning important life skills and coping mechanisms. Whether you are a helicopter parent (hovering over your child, ready to catch them before they fall) or a lawn mower parent (mowing down all the obstacles that can be in their way), both kinds of parents can lead to childhood anxiety and other mental health problems. Examples of overprotection include not allowing a child to play outside, pampering a child too much, or simply taking the stand that you know better ALL OF THE TIME. Instead, it is important to allow your child to have choices. Give them as many choices as you can within the boundaries of your rules. Allow your child to make mistakes, even if you know the mistake is stupid. Sometimes kids need to learn for themselves the hard way before they will learn at all.
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If this information was valuable for you today, BECOME a more impactful parent by downloading The Impactful Parent App. The Impactful Parent app is FREE and full of episodes like this one to help you in your parenting journey. Investing in your family looks like learning the warning signs of certain behaviors so you can stop bad things before they start, discovering new parenting techniques to make your parenting more effective, and joining a community of like-minded parents who want to be the best parent they can for their child. All of this, plus so much more, can be found inside The Impactful Parent app, so download it today. You got nothing to lose with this free parenting resource. Go to theimpactfulparent.com and discover how you can step up your parenting game and be a more impactful parent.
But until next time, you got this, parents. I am just here to help.
Thursday May 11, 2023
Thursday May 11, 2023
Helping Kids With Reading Comprehension
Dr. Claire Rubman, a developmental psychologist and author of a new book called This May Be Difficult To Read, gives parents tips and tricks for teaching better reading comprehension to ALL ages of children.
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Thursday May 04, 2023
Thursday May 04, 2023
Supporting Bisexual Teens When They Come Out
If you want to support your teen but need help navigating the tricky waters of parenting an LGBTQ child, THEN THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU! Discover 6 easy steps for supporting your bisexual child when they come out.
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Transcript:
My Teenager is Bisexual
Your teen came out as bisexual, and now you feel like a deer in headlights. You knew it was a thing with kids nowadays, but you didn't see this coming.
How you feel is not uncommon! We are the first generation of parents learning to navigate how to parent the LGBTQ teen. In past generations, most LGBTQ kids didn't feel comfortable coming out. Today, more and more kids publicly identify with the LGBTQ community.
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
As a parent, it's hard to know how to support your child when they come out as bisexual. After the initial shock wears off, AND if you choose to take the supportive path of parenting, I want to help you navigate what support might look like. You may have many questions running through your head, but you can do this- even if you still feel like your child is going through a phase or you have no clue how to move forward. Supporting your bisexual child doesn't have to be complicated.
How to support your bisexual teen: Be there for them.
You might have a million questions running through your head, but the best thing you can do right now is listening. You can ask your teen questions but don't make any comments back. Just listen. Ask questions to LISTEN and NOT to respond. It is essential to hold back from going into "fix it" mode. If your child is bisexual and you're struggling with this, that's ok. If you're not sure what to say, keep it simple. You can be supportive and understanding by listening to them without judgment, asking how they feel, and letting them know you are there for them. Be careful not to project your own fears onto your child. Instead, understand your child's feelings, so be a good listener and let them know you care.
How to support your bisexual teen: Create a safe space at home.
Not all teenagers will be proud of their bisexuality, even if they put up an exterior front of confidence. It's essential to create a safe space for expression in your home. If you don't make this safe space, your child will learn that expressing themselves at home is taboo and soon your child will "put on a facade at home," and secrets will start piling up.
To create a safe space for communication and expression at home, you need to create a home that is judge free. That means you can't tease your child about their sexuality, nor can you say things like, "This is just a phase," or say negative things about anyone in the LGBTQ community. No sly comments or even stank-eye, judgmental expressions on your face. Not creating a supportive and safe space environment at home will cause your child to pull away from your relationship with them. In the end, unsupportive parents may cause serious mental health issues in their children. In the long run, your child may never feel comfortable living authentically as themselves, which could result in depression or other mental health issues due to a lack of self-acceptance!
How to support your bisexual teen: Understand that bisexuality isn't a choice.
Can you help it that you're heterosexual? It's not your choice to see a beautiful person of the opposite sex and feel attracted to them. It is just how our body responds automatically. Your child is the same. They can't help it. It's a part of your child's identity, and they shouldn't have to explain this to anyone.
I will say that sexual curiosity and exploration are also natural and part of adolescent development. Sexual attraction can be fluid, meaning it may shift and change with life experiences; however, don't mistake these preferences for a phase. We all have different paths in understanding our sexuality and gender identity, which makes it important for parents to remember that these things take time.
How to support your bisexual teen: Ask your child what support looks like to them.
The most common mistake parents make when trying to support their child is guessing what support is. We inventory what we have seen on TV and our life experiences, and GUESS what we think support looks like.
Don't assume that what you do will come off as supportive in your child's eyes. Your child will likely have real, concrete expectations about what support looks like to them, and you need to ask them to tell you. Is it using new pronouns? Is it helping them tell the extended family? Is it going to pride parades with them? Is it keeping their sexuality a secret? YOU DON'T KNOW how your child wants you to support them until you ask them, "What does support look like to you? If you had everything your way, what kind of things should I do (as your mom or dad) moving forward?"
How to support your bisexual teen: Set new house rules and boundaries.
Now that you know your adolescent is bisexual, you may want to review your household rules around sleepovers and friends at the house when you are gone. A heterosexual teenager may have house rules about not having a friend of the opposite sex in their room with a closed door. Parents might also have to tweak the house rules moving forward. Set clear boundaries for behavior. This means establishing what behaviors are acceptable at home and which aren't. I have found that when parents ignore changing the rules, then teens interpret this as the parent being biased, in denial, or contradictory. Stay consistent with your rules and expectations. Change the rules in your home if you feel it is necessary to keep consistency. Along these same lines, don't assume that all of their friends are gay or straight, even if they are all from the same gender group.
How to support your bisexual teen: Remember that this is who they are now.
Will their sexuality change over time? Maybe. Maybe not. They're still young and finding out about themselves, so don't assume anything about who they might end up with or how long their relationships last - or if they want one at all. They may change their minds or experiment with different people during their teenage years. A bisexual teen might date guys and girls in the future, but that doesn't mean they aren't bisexual now! It's better to support your child than try to force them into a box you've decided is best.
Don't try to change them or make them straight. This is likely going to hurt your relationship. You can ask questions about how they see themselves, but trying to plant your own agenda onto your child is a bad idea. They need to discover themselves on their own. Trust me, your child already knows what you think about bisexuality. Kids are smart; if you push your agenda, you may push your child away.
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But until next time, you got this, parents. I am just here to help.
Thursday Apr 27, 2023
Thursday Apr 27, 2023
Teen drug and alcohol trends
Richard Caprioloa, a substance abuse counselor and author of The Addicted Child, comes onto the Impactful Parent stage to share the latest trends in adolescent substance abuse trends, warning signs, and things parents should know to stay ONE STEP AHEAD of their teen so they can stop the bad things from happening before they start!
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Thursday Apr 20, 2023
Thursday Apr 20, 2023
Helping Children When A Pet Dies
10 Tips for Parents
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