The Impactful Parenting Podcast helps parents turn their chaos into connection with their children. Through meaningful stories, the podcast provides parenting tips for making family life easier! Why? Because school-aged children bring different challenges to parenting that younger kids don’t! The Impactful Parenting Podcast provides help for raising your adolescent child. So if you’re asking yourself questions like: • ”Is this normal?” • ”Why is my teenager doing this?” • ”How do I get my child to stop?” • ”I am so frustrated. What do I do?” • ”Is anyone else experiencing this? I can’t be the only one.” • ”I am worried. What can I do?” Then YOU HAVE FOUND THE RIGHT PLACE! Hi! I am Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent and my passion is creating better relationships between parents and their children. I am a parenting coach, a teacher who has taught every grade level from Pre-K through high school, and most importantly, I am a mom of 4 kids! (Yep, those are my kiddos in the podcast photo). The teen years don’t need to be difficult. Teenagers CAN have a special bond with their parents! Listen and discover the tools and techniques you need to create connections, build trust, and have a stress-free household. This is only the beginning! Let’s get started, together! -Kristina Campos Founder of The Impactful Parent
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Thursday Nov 02, 2023
Thursday Nov 02, 2023
The Truth About Mom Wine Culture
Society has normalized moms drinking wine. Heck- they even encourage it with merchandise and commercials. But what happens when the stresses of motherhood become too much and the consumption of wine gets unhealthy? Learn how one mom beat the "Mom Wine Culture" and started coping with stress and anxiety in other ways. Celeste Yvonne's story is heartfelt, honest, and SO SIMILIAR to millions of moms everywhere. Watch it today inside the Impactful Parent!
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Thursday Oct 26, 2023
Thursday Oct 26, 2023
Parenting A Dyslexic Child
Two moms of dyslexic children, founder of the Impactful Parent Kristina Campos and children's book author Lynn Greenberg, discuss their own parenting journeys of raising a dyslexic child to success. This candid interview gives tips to parents and will leave you feeling inspired. Discover how you too, can raise a dyslexic child to success!
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Thursday Oct 19, 2023
Thursday Oct 19, 2023
Keep Track of Kids After School Dismissal
If your child has ever taken the wrong bus home, gotten picked up by the wrong adult from school, or had to walk home from school alone- THEN THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU! Discover Keeping Your Kids Safe (or KYKS for short) can bring peace of mind to your afterschool routine with your child. Learn how schools can implement this simple program to make sure ALL students are accounted for and never take the wrong bus again!
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Thursday Oct 12, 2023
Thursday Oct 12, 2023
I Caught My Teenager With Porn
How do you confront and address this uncomfortable conversation? I got you! Learn 5 reasons pornography is bad for the adolescent brain, discover 8 strategies for having this conversation with your child, and 6 ways to prevent your child from watching pornography again!
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Transcript for: I Caught My Teenager With Porn
"OH CRAP!"
When I caught my child watching porn, my heart sank. How long has this been going on? Did someone show him this, or did he stumble upon it? How am I going to block this? And crap- now I must have another uncomfortable conversation with my kid. UGH!
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week, I give you parenting videos to help your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
Today, I am talking about porn. You will have to talk about porn, too, eventually. Impactful parents can't avoid it because our children can't avoid it either. You can be a naïve parent and think everything will be okay because you have parental control and an innocent child. But research shows that 73% of teens saw porn before age 17. More than half of the kids that have seen before age 17 reported first seeing porn before age 13! This is why parents must understand the harmful impact of pornography on kids, have a plan for discussing porn with children, and even a game plan for keeping porn away from their children for as long as possible. So that's what I will address today on this episode of The Impactful Parent. Let's get started!
Why Is Pornography Bad for the Adolescent Brain?
Pornography, although easily accessible in the digital era, can have detrimental consequences on the young and impressionable adolescent brain. Here are a few key reasons why parents should be concerned:
- Distorted Perception of Sexuality: Exposure to explicit content may lead to unrealistic expectations and distorted views of healthy relationships and consensual sexual encounters. Children can develop an inability to distinguish between fantasy and reality.
- Emotional and Psychological Effects: Frequent exposure to pornography can desensitize an individual, potentially hindering their ability to form meaningful connections and fostering unrealistic expectations.
- Increased sexual behaviors: A curiosity to try oral sex, anal sex, and group sex.
- Addiction Potential: Pornography consumption can become addictive over time, leading to dependency and an unhealthy preoccupation with sexual fantasies, potentially interfering with academic performance, social activities, and overall mental well-being.
- Insecurities: Girls tend to get body image insecurities, and boys get insecure about their sexual performance.
Strategies to Engage in Open Conversations about Pornography:
Recognizing the need for dialogue and education, here are a few strategies for parents to consider when discussing pornography with their children:
- Establish a Safe and Non-Judgmental Environment: Create an atmosphere where children feel comfortable discussing their questions and concerns without fear of punishment. No teasing, laughing, talking around the subject, or turning your eyes away. I know this may be uncomfortable for you, but if you act uncomfortable with your body language even though your words say, "You can talk to me." Your child still won't believe you are in a safe place. PRACTICE looks natural if you have to. Give yourself a pep talk before hand. Whatever you need to do to be approachable.
- Start Talking About Healthy Relationships Early: Begin age-appropriate conversations about what a healthy relationship looks like, consent, and sexuality from an early stage. This will open the door for further discussions about explicit material when right.
- Make your expectations clear: Children with access to cellphones or other devices with cameras need to know your rules about taking photos and videos. You need to tell your child point blank that it is not OK for them to take pictures or videos of their or anyone else's private parts. Explain to your child that this is a LAW and that no one should ever ask them to give out nude photos.
- Stay calm and ask questions: This is the most challenging part if you ask me. Maybe you want to ask your child where they found their porn. Perhaps you want to ask them how long this has been going on? Or maybe you want to ask your child how it made them feel? No matter what you ask, it would be best to be prepared for their answer and not overreact. Also, be sure to ask their most important question: Do you have any questions for me? This will show your child that you are open to discussion and are a place where they can come get answers.
- Explain the difference between what they saw and real life: Your child doesn't know the difference yet, so you must explain it. Suppose the only sex they have seen or experienced is porn. In that case, they already have a skewed view of what sex is, how it starts, how long it lasts, the roles people play, what is pleasurable and what is not, and what intimacy really is. A parent needs to step in and set things straight or give them a different perspective.
- Encourage Critical Thinking: Teach children to critically analyze media and question portrayals of sex and relationships they encounter online. Please encourage them to consider the differences between fantasy and reality.
- Make your child feel normal: Make sure your child knows that sexual curiosity and sexual feelings are normal. (You may want to take this opportunity to also talk about masturbation.) Let your child know that they aren't feeling anything wrong.
- Repeat the conversation: You cannot have this conversation once and let it go. You must revisit this conversation throughout adolescence if you want it to stick.
The bottom line is that you can't avoid this conversation, so you need to prepare for it.
Advice on Preventing Children from Consuming Pornography:
While open communication is vital, proactive measures can also help mitigate the chances of children accessing pornography:
- Establish Internet Safety Rules: Set clear guidelines on Internet usage and implement parental controls and filters to block as much inappropriate content as possible.
- Warn your child: As soon as you give your child a phone or computer, tell them about porn so THEY know that YOU know it's out there and something they can talk to you about.
- Tell them what you want them to do: Many parents forget this step. What do you want your child to do when they come across porn? Do you want them to report it to you? Do you want them to ignore it? If you don't tell your child what to do, they will watch the porn out of curiosity and fill in the blanks with their own narrative. Be specific with your expectations.
- Monitor Online Activities: Regularly check your child's browsing history, social media interactions, and online contacts. Encourage healthy digital habits while respecting their privacy. In addition, make rules around electronics that would discourage watching porn. For example, no computers in the bedroom. No electronics after 9pm. No chat rooms.
- Encourage Healthy Hobbies and Engagement: Foster meaningful offline activities and ensure children access enriching experiences that capture their interest and keep them occupied.
- Teach Critical Media Literacy: Equip children to differentiate between explicit material and content that aligns with their values and aspirations.
Addressing the issue of pornography is a challenging task for parents. By understanding the potentially harmful effects of pornography on the adolescent brain, initiating open conversations, and implementing preventive measures, parents can empower their children to make informed decisions and navigate a healthy path toward adulthood.
If this information was valuable for you today, BECOME a more impactful parent by downloading The Impactful Parent App. The Impactful Parent app is FREE and full of episodes like this one that will help you in your parenting journey. Investing in your family looks like learning the warning signs of certain behaviors so you can stop bad things before they start, discovering new parenting techniques to make your parenting more effective, and joining a community of like-minded parents who want to be the best parents they can for their child. All of this, plus so much more, can be found inside The Impactful Parent app, so download it today. You have nothing to lose with this free parenting resource. Go to theimpactfulparent.com and discover how to step up your parenting game and be more impactful.
But until next time, you got this, parents. I am just here to help.
Thursday Sep 28, 2023
Thursday Sep 28, 2023
Teaching Kids How Money Works
Teaching kids about money has to be so much more than just handing out an allowance for chores! Financial and money literacy can start early and Jorge Loyo (financial advisor), gives parents tips for teaching kids how money works! It doesn't matter if your child is 6 or 16. It is time to talk MONEY with your child. Discover WHAT you need to talk about and HOW is the best way to teach financial literacy to kids. *This Episode also includes a FREE PDF for parents! Get it inside the Impactful Parent app!
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Thursday Sep 21, 2023
Thursday Sep 21, 2023
Unlocking Success: 8 Essential Lessons Every Parent Should Instill in Their Children
Here is your *Secret Sauce Formula* for RAISING SUCCESSFUL CHILDREN! The new episode of The Impactful Parent gives 8 lessons parents should teach their children (and HOW to teach those lessons) to grow a successful and well-balanced child!
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Thursday Sep 14, 2023
Thursday Sep 14, 2023
10 Things I wish I knew when I was going through a divorce
Divorce SUCKS! This episode of the Impactful Parent is raw, truthful, and OH SO HELPFUL! Kristina Campos, founder, gives her top 10 tips for the newly divorced so that you can do more than just survive this stage of your life, but THRIVE!
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Transcript for 10 Things I wish I knew when I was going through a divorce
"Put the kids first" is what everyone says when you are going through a divorce, but what about everything else? I've been divorced. I know. It not only sucks, but it's scary, stressful, and embarrassing. Divorce can feel overwhelming, and then you throw kids into the mix- and your stress levels skyrocket. You can barely hold yourself together. Now, you have to think about the well-being of the kids, too.
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week, I give you parenting videos to help your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
This is part 2 of the Impactful Parent Divorce series. In part one, I gave you 10 pieces of advice that were surveyed by several of my own divorced friends and relatives. Today, I give you my top 10 pieces of advice I wish I had known during my divorce.
I was married for 13 years. All 4 of my children are from my ex-husband. I met him when I was 18, and we married when I was 24. Not every year of my 13-year marriage was a fairytale. Still, I was as happy as a peach for most of my marriage. 😊 Then, after my 4th child, and sometime between my 37th and 38th birthdays, things fell apart. I was heartbroken. I was so out of my mind with sadness that I could barely function, let alone take care of my children, but somehow, I found a way (just as most parents do.) I could hardly think straight during those emotional times. I wish I had someone to advise and lead me in the right direction. Unfortunately, I am one of the only divorced people in my family, and my friend group at the time was also happily married.
So, if you can relate to a similar feeling and situation, this episode is for you. Today, I am giving you my top 10 pieces of advice I wish I had when I was newly divorced. Let's get started.
Newly Divorced Advice 1: Prepare Yourself To Eat Shit
Call it "taking the high road" or "Doing what is best for the children." Still, either way- this usually means feeling like you are the one always compromising, always giving in, always holding your tongue, and basically, eating shit.
You see, doing what is best for the children and taking the high road looks like this:
- Not talking badly about your ex even when they have told your children lies and they are openly talking crap about you.
- It means spending many nights alone and missing special events because your ex has the kids.
- Sometimes, it means keeping the kids longer, canceling your plans, and being held on home arrest because the ex can't take them even though they said they would.
- This often means talking to your ex and communicating well with them, even though you never want to speak to them again.
- And in the beginning, sometimes this means getting out of bed, making 3 meals a day, taking the kids for a walk, and exercising, even though all you want to do is bury your head in bed pillows.
The beginning is tough. I am not going to sugarcoat this. To make matters worse, it is difficult to feel confident and empowered when you constantly feel like YOU are the one compromising, losing out, or getting the short end of the stick.
*Extra tip: Be wary of friends and family who try to build you up by putting your ex down. This isn't going to be helpful in the long run. It will just make you even more bitter and vengeful. Instead, take comfort in knowing that if you feel like you are the one eating shit all the time, you are probably doing what is best for your kids (and not yourself.) To that, I say, Good Job. It's not easy.
Newly Divorced Advice 2: You Have to Forgive or At Least Make Peace With It
Forgiveness does not mean condoning your ex's behaviors or saying the divorce is okay. Forgiveness is for yourself. Not for them. The sooner you can accept your new reality, the sooner you can move forward and leave the past behind you. At least make peace with what happened and how you got here. Even better, if you can do this with your ex through mediation or counseling, resolving what happened to yourself is more important. Holding on to hurt feelings will only make you bitter and vengeful. Neither of these is good for you or the kids.
Newly Divorced Advice 3: You Just Lost Control, So Let It Go.
You've heard it before from your own divorced friends. They will say things like, "I can't believe the ex is letting the kids stay up past 10 p.m., or I hate how my ex handled things when my daughter hurt." I think exes will always complain about how the other is doing things.
The truth is: You don't have any control over what happens to the kids when they are on your ex's time, so don't sweat the small stuff and let it go.
It is okay to parent differently from your ex. After a divorce, it is common for parents to have different parenting styles. Remember, you can only control what is happening in your home, so instead of trying to micromanage your ex's parenting (which is impossible now,) get hyper-focused on being the best parent YOU can be for your child.
Don't sweat the small stuff. After a divorce, it is easy to get caught up in minor disagreements and conflicts. Remember that not everything is worth fighting over. Choose your battles wisely and focus on the big picture: your child's well-being.
Newly Divorced Advice 4: Your Kids Are Not the Mailman or the Messenger
Don't put your child in the middle. It is essential to avoid putting your child in the middle of any conflict between you and your ex-partner. Children should not be used as messengers or spies. They should not be forced to take sides or choose between parents. Doing so can cause emotional distress and damage the child's relationship with both parents.
I get it. The last thing you want to do is talk to your ex about anything, but just because you loathe having a dialogue with them doesn't mean you should hand off that responsibility to your kids. This brings me to Number 5…
Newly Divorced Advice 5: Figure Out The Best Way To Communicate With Your Ex
You are stuck with this person for the rest of your life. Even after your kids are 18, there will be future weddings and celebrations where you will see your ex again and again. Figure out how to communicate with them NOW so that you don't become one of those couples that refuse to be in the same room. Again, this only hurts the children. Find a mediator. A mediator can help you discuss the big stuff with the ex so things don't get overheated. Use parenting apps to communicate schedules, drop-offs, pick-ups, and everything logistical about the children. The great thing about parenting apps for the divorced is that it documents and keeps all communication logs. This allows you to refer back to past conversations or even use those conversations to settle arguments if you have an ex who says one thing and does another.
Set hurt and anger aside and figure out how to co-parent. The beginning of this journey starts with finding an excellent way to communicate.
Newly Divorced Advice 6: Cry, Kick, and Scream NOW
Stuffing down emotions is only temporary. Eventually, all that anger, frustration, embarrassment, sadness, and fear will surface. Allow yourself to grieve the loss of your marriage. Seek support from friends, family, or a therapist to help you process your feelings. Allow yourself to FEEL. The quickest way to happiness is through sadness. There are no shortcuts.
Newly Divorced Advice 7: Routine Will Be Your Saving Grace
Figure out a routine for each day and stick with it! When you feel like you can't get out of bed, the routine will give you purpose and something you must do. A routine also provides predictability and security for children when everything feels unhinged to them. Create consistency for your child. It will reduce their anxiety and stress caused by the divorce. Routine can also reduce how much pressure, planning, and things you have to think about. This was especially helpful when I felt like I couldn't even find my car keys most days. And lastly, the routine will reduce your child's urges to act out. Your children are stressed and uncertain, so you can't eliminate all unwanted behaviors. Still, you can reduce naughty behaviors by giving your child a predictable schedule that allows them to go on auto-pilot during this turbulent time.
Newly Divorced Advice 8: The Kids Are Watching, So Be Careful
Kids will see EVERYTHING. Here is your opportunity to be a positive role model.
Remember that the kids are unhinged right now, too. They don't know how to feel or behave. Children will silently look to their parents for guidance. You teach your kids a lot through this process, even if you don't realize it or want to. They are watching.
You are role modeling:
- how to deal with people you don't get along with,
- how to handle a breakup,
- how to recover and get back on your feet after a breakup,
- what to say and do when you are full of emotions,
- The best way to cope with sadness, fear, and anger,
- how to move on,
- how to forgive,
And more. Take this role modeling seriously, and be careful about everything you say and do in front of your kids.
Newly Divorced Advice 9: Create New Traditions
Consider how you want the weekly routine to look. What new traditions do you want to implement for special holidays? Is there anything you want to implement into your family life that you never did before because the ex wasn't onboard? Now is the time.
Creating family traditions helps children adjust to the new family dynamic and provides a sense of continuity and stability. It shows kids that life continues and unique activities that unite families remain important.
For example, you can start a new tradition of going to the park every Saturday or having a family game night every Friday. Whatever your new traditions look like, begin implementing those now.
Newly Divorced Advice 10: Prioritize Yourself
The bottom line is you can't take care of the kids when you are tired, stressed, and run down. This is not the best version of yourself. To be a good parent, you need to prioritize yourself. It may feel counterintuitive, but consider the old airplane saying, "Put your own oxygen mask on first so you don't pass out before you put the oxygen mask on your child."
To use another metaphor, you can only be a half-ass parent when your glass is half empty. You need a full cup to pour your kids your love and energy.
You do NOT need to prioritize yourself all day, but it does mean you need to prioritize yourself sometime during the day. Laying in bed and resting may be all you want to do. Still, hopefully, you know when that inner voice is telling you to get up because you have been lying horizontally too long.
For me, prioritizing myself looked like,
- getting 8 hours of sleep,
- exercising 3 times a week,
- talking on the phone with the bestie at least once a week,
- slipping out of my yoga pants and actually getting into jeans to lift my spirits every once in a while,
- getting a babysitter so I could have some extended time alone once a month,
- being intentional about making NEW friends,
- and joining a volleyball league.
These all made me release anger, sadness, and frustration OR make me forget my situation and feel like myself again for a few hours.
Whatever your self-care looks like, start your regime ASAP. Do it to be a better parent. Do it because the kids are watching. They need to see their parents prioritize health and wellness so they will do the same.
Divorce is tough, but you can do this. Prioritize your child's well-being and work with your ex to make the transition as smooth as possible. Following these tips can help your child adjust to the new family dynamic and ensure they continue feeling loved and supported.
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Thursday Sep 07, 2023
Thursday Sep 07, 2023
College Abroad: Why University in Europe May Be Better
*Cheaper Tuition
*An amazing life experience
*A career even faster
And these are just a few things that a European University can do for your child! Michael Leppo, helps families find their perfect European University for college. He says, "It's not for everyone, but it can be a great choice for many students and their families! There are many advantages to Universities abroad" Watch and discover how a University in England, France, Spain, and beyond... Can be a good fit for your family!
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Thursday Aug 31, 2023
Thursday Aug 31, 2023
How To Teach Critical Thinking: A Look at the Socratic Method
The secret sauce for a successful future in ANY field of discipline is CRITICAL THINKING! I was blown away by Michael Strong, founder of Socratic Experience when he explained HOW and WHY we need more kids thinking critically for future jobs and academic success. Discover how YOU can teach critical thinking at home! Learn how the Socratic Method might help your child become a better student and learner!
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Monday Aug 28, 2023
Monday Aug 28, 2023
Starting School Parenting Hacks
Get tips and tricks for an easier school year! Ashley Bartley, a school counselor, gives recommendations for simple things you can do to make the morning easier, weekly routines better, and a better connection with your child. Watch it this week inside the Impactful Parent app!
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