The Impactful Parenting Podcast helps parents turn their chaos into connection with their children. Through meaningful stories, the podcast provides parenting tips for making family life easier! Why? Because school-aged children bring different challenges to parenting that younger kids don’t! The Impactful Parenting Podcast provides help for raising your adolescent child. So if you’re asking yourself questions like: • ”Is this normal?” • ”Why is my teenager doing this?” • ”How do I get my child to stop?” • ”I am so frustrated. What do I do?” • ”Is anyone else experiencing this? I can’t be the only one.” • ”I am worried. What can I do?” Then YOU HAVE FOUND THE RIGHT PLACE! Hi! I am Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent and my passion is creating better relationships between parents and their children. I am a parenting coach, a teacher who has taught every grade level from Pre-K through high school, and most importantly, I am a mom of 4 kids! (Yep, those are my kiddos in the podcast photo). The teen years don’t need to be difficult. Teenagers CAN have a special bond with their parents! Listen and discover the tools and techniques you need to create connections, build trust, and have a stress-free household. This is only the beginning! Let’s get started, together! -Kristina Campos Founder of The Impactful Parent
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Wednesday Jul 20, 2022
Wednesday Jul 20, 2022
How Online Predators Bait Children
💻🎣6 WAYS online predators bait and attack your child online and 10 simple things parents can do to help keep their child safe.
😱Stolen private information, blackmail, damaged reputation, credit card compromised,... Online predators CAN and WILL attack your child if they are given the chance.
📲Parents need to know HOW predators are baiting children so they can properly make their online rules and teach their children steps to safety.
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How Online Predators Bait Children Transcript:
How are my kids getting scammed?!?!
"What, Mom? I didn't know," says the kids.
Extra charges on the bill, suspicious emails, photos of half-naked young people, the credit card being compromised, the computer has a virus or is hacked, crying teenagers, damaged reputations… HOW DOES THIS HAPPEN?
Today I will tell you HOW your child is getting scammed online right now, and they don't even know it.
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
Today, I will talk to you about the most common online dangers. I will explain the tactics these bad-intentioned people are using to victimize your child because these manipulative and sneaky tactics are completely unexpected by the average teen. Then stick around to the end because I will also give you steps for keeping your child as safe as possible! Let's get started!
Online poses many dangers and exposure to things our kids shouldn't see. I have broken down most of the online dangers into 5 categories:
- Cyberbullying
- Damaged reputations
- Sexual Predators
- Exposure to sexual content
- Private information compromised
Most parents are aware of these dangers, but it is also important for parents to know HOW kids are getting compromised so that you can set parental controls, and rules, teach children the dangers, and know what to look out for as a red flag. In my opinion, it is NOT wise to cross my fingers and hope that a predator won’t find my kid. Instead, impactful parents are proactive about avoiding dangers. So, let's talk about HOW online predators are baiting children to get them to do what they want.
How Online Predators Bait Children #1: They pose as a child your child's age or a little bit older.
Whenever we meet someone new online, we have no idea who is on the other side. These people are lying to your children because it's easy, and they can. Your child is vulnerable because kids feel invincible and trust too easily. The perpetrator will start off slow and manipulate your child by gaining trust before they start to ask anything that would set off a red flag. However, with time your child trusts the relationship more and more. Predators will send fake or real nude photos and ask for photos back. They may pressure your child to engage in cyber sex and secretly record the conversation. The perpetrator may use photos and conversations that your child has given to blackmail your child into sending money, more images, or to meet the perpetrator for sexual acts.
The scariest thing about a stranger posing as a young person to manipulate children is that many of the perpetrators acquire the sexual images by deceit or even without the victim's consent. That means that your child doesn't even realize they are being used and being victimized.
Another important fact is that most sex exploitation threats come from people your child already knows. That means don't take comfort in thinking your child is safe if they only talk to people they know online. The danger for strangers versus familiars is the same.
How Online Predators Bait Children #2: They get your child to click on a link.
Phishing is when an attacker sends a fraudulent email, text, or direct message to trick a person into giving out their personal information or to deploy malicious software on the victim's electronic device. Your kid doesn't have to be dumb, naïve, or clueless to fall for this. In fact, many people fall victim to phishing tactics because these manipulative messages look legit. It might appear that the message came from a friend even though it did not. The attacker will pose as someone you know. The messages themselves are very professional looking, may have logos, or have manipulative language that says things like, "I think you're in this video!" These emails or messages have wording that sparks kids' attention and activates their emotions such as fear, excitement, and wonder. Since kids act upon their emotions more easily than their logic, many children don't think twice before clicking on the link that will send them to a legitimate-looking login page requesting their information or a dummy site that allows hackers access to their electronic device.
How Online Predators Bait Children #3: They promise gifts.
This tactic is used by sexual offenders, cyberbullies, and even big corporations. Your child will get an email, text, or social media message offering them free products or services. Maybe they bait your child with free music downloads, discounts on their favorite purchases, free porn, something to level up their game, … whatever they think your child would like. The predators will ask your child to click a link or give their personal information to retrieve their free gift. The malware the predator installs when your child clicks can steal files, track their actions, access their device camera, and take their personal information. The result is personal information stolen or a hacked electronic device.
Another thing to consider is how social media manipulates your child’s personal information as well. To sign up for social media accounts, you must give basic personal information. From there, most social media companies will put products your child might like into their social feed and lure them into clicking on their interests. Once your child clicks, the social media companies will track how often your child pauses, clicks, and scrolls. This information is extremely valuable, and companies will sell this information to advertisers who pay for the chance to get in front of your child's eyes. All these companies want your child to stay on their device indefinitely and will purposefully create content and algorithms that spark social media addiction. These companies are targeting your child purposefully for their own gain, and some of the content they are putting in front of your child is inappropriate.
How Online Predators Bait Children #4: They will claim to have hacked you.
Could it be true? Yes. Suppose your child has already given them personal information and have clicked a link. In that case, the threat might be real, but other predators just pretend to have hacked the child's computer or phone to blackmail the child for money, sexual photos, threats, or whatever the perpetrator might want. Sometimes it's difficult to tell if the predator is lying or telling the truth because they have already gotten enough personal information from your child to get a password. Then perpetrators use the password as evidence of their hacking threat. The predator uses the hacking lie to pressure your child into doing things they shouldn't.
How Online Predators Bait Children #5: They claim to be a modeling agency.
This tactic works more often than you might think. Many kids dream of fame, the opportunity to be a model, money, acceptance, and teens especially love to hear they are beautiful because deep down inside, they are very insecure. The perpetrator might ask for more photos from your child to build a modeling portfolio. They will flood your child with compliments and empty promises. In the end, your child might give the predator revealing photos, or the predator may edit innocent photos to make them sexually explicit.
How Online Predators Bait Children #6: They take the first step and hope your child will follow their lead.
This tactic is very popular among predators, hackers, and cyberbullies. The perpetrator will encourage your child to reciprocate an act. This tactic is oddly effective because the perpetrator gains your child's trust by doing the act first. For example, a perpetrator may send a semi-nude photo over to your child and ask for one in return. (I will show you mine if you show me yours.) The perpetrators' requests usually start small and innocent. When there are no repercussions from the first act, the perpetrator makes the next request. Your child might be getting groomed for dangerous and illegal acts, and they don't even realize it because the progression seems innocent.
Remember that this tactic is often used between boyfriends and girlfriends in relationships too. "I will show you mine if you show me yours" is a common way to flirt and explore sexuality for kids. But what happens when the relationship has ended?
How can parents prevent their children from becoming a target?
- First of all, stop asking, "What age is the best time to give my child a phone?"
It isn't about the age of your child that tells you about the readiness for your child to have a small computer in their pocket. Instead, look at the child's maturity and when YOU, the parent, are ready to start monitoring and teaching your child about the online world.
I know 9-year-olds that can handle the responsibility of phones and 16-year-olds that can't. You must gauge your child's maturity to follow the rules and make good choices. The first mistake many parents make is exposing their children to the online world before the child, or the parent is ready.
- Teach children to never send nude or sexy images/videos to ANYONE.
- Teach children the red flags of clicking and putting their email or personal information into a website, app, or landing page.
- Teach children to be suspicious of any link that asks them to just click here.
- Teach children to bring any suspicious activity or messages to you or another trusted adult for help. Parents can look at the website and help kids determine if the links are safe or a scam.
- Teach children to screenshot and save anything that feels off. Tell your child to trust their gut and NOT to delete. Suppose blackmailing or cyber bullying occurs in the future. In that case, you and your child will be grateful that they didn't delete the evidence.
- Encourage your child to make all their social media accounts private.
- Use parental controls and monitoring tools to help filter inappropriate content, unsafe websites, malware links, and other destructive content.
- Teach kids that nothing is free. Encourage kids to ask themselves, "What do they really want from me?" Not everyone is a scammer, but it's important to teach kids to be cautious. Many kids are simply too naïve. They either think they are invincible, "this won't happen to me," or they don't see the danger. We want to encourage our children to ask questions, be observant, and figure out the angle.
- Give your child a phone that doesn't have social media or internet access. I recommend the Gabb Wireless phone and watches. These devices look like a smartphone but without the dangers of online strangers. I have Gabb Wireless devices for my own children. If you want to know more, check out gabbwireless.com/promo/IMPACTFULPARENT, and the best part is- that link will also give you a discount code if you decide to get one for your own kiddo too.
I hope this episode brought you value. Keep your child safe by talking to your child about what was said today. I make my kids hear this lecture too.
"Give me back my phone," my child will scream, but I won't give it back until they hear me out.
Of course, this lecture comes with a price of lots of moans and groans and "I know this! Don't worry. Not me, Mom! I got this." But the truth of the matter is- Impactful Parents tell their kids the facts and educate their children so that the child can make better choices. And yes, most of the time, that "telling" is through the weeds of crossed arms and eye rolls, but I sleep better at night knowing I did my best to educate my children and keep them safe.
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But until next time, you got this, parents. I am just here to help.
Thursday Jul 14, 2022
Thursday Jul 14, 2022
Teaching Kids To Live Authentically
Karsta Hurd talks about her personal experience of living an unauthentic life. Like many, Karsta spent many years living up to the expectations of society, her family, and how she was taught things were suppose to be. Eventually, Karsta found freedom when she started living in a way that was fulfilling to her. Today, Karsta helps others find their authentic self and coaches them to live a life that will make them happy.
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Thursday Jul 07, 2022
Thursday Jul 07, 2022
Red Pill Or Blue Pill: Pill Culture Explained
Episode 3 of 3 in the series: How Do We Stop Gun Violence And School Shootings?
This is a replay of a LIVE Chat rooms on Clubhouse. Clubhouse is an auto app where I host a parenting room each Friday at 12pm EST.
Rodrigo Bravo (certified mediator), Dali Rivera (bully prevention coach), and myself, decided to host a 3 part series of discussions to bring awareness and prevention to gun violence and school shootings. This series was inspired by the unfortunate events in Uvalde, Texas on May 24, 2022 where an 18 years old boy fatally shot nineteen students and two teachers at Robb Elementary School.
If you want to join me on Clubhouse, you can! Download the Clubhouse app and search for me @impactfulparent. The app is free and so are the discussions I hold. You are welcome to come and join the next conversation!
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Thursday Jul 07, 2022
Thursday Jul 07, 2022
Loner, Introvert, or Warning Sign?
Episode 2 of 3 in the series: How Do We Stop Gun Violence And School Shootings?
This is a replay of a LIVE Chat rooms on Clubhouse. Clubhouse is an auto app where I host a parenting room each Friday at 12pm EST.
Rodrigo Bravo (certified mediator), Dali Rivera (bully prevention coach), and myself, decided to host a 3 part series of discussions to bring awareness and prevention to gun violence and school shootings. This series was inspired by the unfortunate events in Uvalde, Texas on May 24, 2022 where an 18 years old boy fatally shot nineteen students and two teachers at Robb Elementary School.
If you want to join me on Clubhouse, you can! Download the Clubhouse app and search for me @impactfulparent. The app is free and so are the discussions I hold. You are welcome to come and join the next conversation!
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Bottom Line... I am here for YOU! Contact me at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com
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Thursday Jul 07, 2022
Thursday Jul 07, 2022
Warning Signs Of Troubled Teens
Episode 1 of 3 in the series: How Do We Stop Gun Violence And School Shootings?
This is a replay of a LIVE Chat rooms on Clubhouse. Clubhouse is an auto app where I host a parenting room each Friday at 12pm EST.
Rodrigo Bravo (certified mediator), Dali Rivera (bully prevention coach), and myself, decided to host a 3 part series of discussions to bring awareness and prevention to gun violence and school shootings. This series was inspired by the unfortunate events in Uvalde, Texas on May 24, 2022 where an 18 years old boy fatally shot nineteen students and two teachers at Robb Elementary School.
If you want to join me on Clubhouse, you can! Download the Clubhouse app and search for me @impactfulparent. The app is free and so are the discussions I hold. You are welcome to come and join the next conversation!
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Android Play Store: https://theimpactfulparent.com/android
https://theimpactfulparent.com for more FREE Resources and paid programs.
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What to do next:
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- Subscribe to the PODCAST
- Check out the official website of The Impactful Parent for FREE RESOURCES, parenting classes, mom’s groups, and so much more! Click here to check it out!
- Discover how you can work with Kristina! Sign up for a FREE 30-minute discovery call! Click here to find a time that works best for you!
Bottom Line... I am here for YOU! Contact me at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com
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Thursday Jun 30, 2022
Thursday Jun 30, 2022
Why Children Need To Be Outside
Sandi Schwartz gives 5 reasons why parents need to encourage their children to get outside! Sandi also gives parents tips for encouraging kids to be outdoors and even gives a FREE PDF Calendar that provides parents daily ideas for outdoor engagement.
Sandi Schwartz is the founder of Ecohappiness Project, author of Finding Ecohappiness: Fun Nature Activities to Help Your Kids Feel Happier and Calmer, and co-author of Sky's Search for Ecohappiness.
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What to do next:
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- Check out the official website of The Impactful Parent for FREE RESOURCES, parenting classes, mom’s groups, and so much more! Click here to check it out!
- Discover how you can work with Kristina! Sign up for a FREE 30-minute discovery call! Click here to find a time that works best for you!
Bottom Line... I am here for YOU! Contact me at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com
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Podcast Summary of Why Children Need To Be Outside
Sandi Schwartz gives 5 reasons why parents need to encourage their children to get outside! Sandi also gives parents tips for encouraging kids to be outdoors and even gives a FREE PDF Calendar that provides parents daily ideas for outdoor engagement.
About Sandi: Sandi Schwartz is the founder of Ecohappiness Project, author of Finding Ecohappiness: Fun Nature Activities to Help Your Kids Feel Happier and Calmer, and co-author of Sky's Search for Ecohappiness.
5 Reasons Why Children Need To Be Outside
- Getting kids off screens.
- Improving physical health
- Improving mental health
- Boosting academic performance
- Better sleep
Sandi also discusses ways that parents can encourage their children to get outside when they are resisting. She even provides the audience with 2 free resources. Watch the episode and get your free parenting resources today!
Become a more impactful parent!
Thursday Jun 23, 2022
Thursday Jun 23, 2022
What is inside that VAPE PEN: nicotine or marijuana?
Kristina Campos, the founder of The Impactful Parent, talks to parents about the popularity of adolescents vaping.... but do you know what is inside that vape pen? It could be nicotine. It could be marijuana. This episode talks about the vape pen, why you don't want your childing vaping any substance, and what parents can do to encourage kids to make a better choice.
LINKS MENTIONED IN THE RECORDING
https://theimpactfulparent.com/app Download the FREE Impactful Parent App! Available on Apple and Android App Stores. FREEBIES from episodes included!
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Rate, Review, & Subscribe!
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Also, if you haven't done so already, subscribe to the podcast. I'm adding a bunch of bonus episodes to the feed and, if you're not subscribed, there's a good chance you'll miss out. Subscribe now!
What to do next:
- Get The Impactful Parent App! Everything you need in your parenting journey in one spot! Available on the Android Play Store and the Apple Store. Search Impactful Parent (direct links listed above under Links in Episode).
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- Subscribe to the PODCAST
- Check out the official website of The Impactful Parent for FREE RESOURCES, parenting classes, mom’s groups, and so much more! Click here to check it out!
- Discover how you can work with Kristina! Sign up for a FREE 30-minute discovery call! Click here to find a time that works best for you!
Bottom Line... I am here for YOU! Contact me at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com
Podcast Transcript: What is inside that VAPE PEN: nicotine or marijuana?
Is this nicotine, or is this marijuana? Many parents don't know. You're not alone. They look the same. They smell similar.
As if having a teenager wasn't stressful enough, gone are the days when parents used to primarily worry about their teen drinking and smoking cigarettes. Now, there are more concerns. Vaping and marijuana use are very popular, and if you are thinking, "Not my kid," you need to pull your head out of the sand.
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
Today, I will talk to you about vaping and marijuana. I will explain why YOU need to get educated on this subject, how you can tell if your child is partaking in these substances and stick around to the end because I will also give you tips for preventing and stopping your teenager from using them. Let's get started!
Vaping is nicotine consumption. Marijuana is a drug. Why am I grouping these two substances together if they are two completely different things? For 2 reasons. The first is that both substances are extremely popular among our young people. Second, from the outside, they look the same. The smoking cartridges of nicotine and marijuana appear the same from the outside, so if you find one of these devices in your house, you won't know what's inside unless you smoke it yourself or have enough knowledge to open up the cartridge and understand the differences. Here are some of the most common types of vape pens you might find.
One of the most common questions I get from parents is, "Why is my child doing this?" Aside from peer pressure, there is a popular misconception among young people that these substances will not hurt them. This couldn't be farther from the truth. Kids also love vape pens (whether nicotine or marijuana inside) because when you smoke them, they taste sweet and smell nice. Additives are put inside the smoking devices resulting in a more pleasurable experience. Marijuana and cigarettes don't smell stinky anymore. Now they smell and taste like bubble gum, grape, and various flavors. Children think, how can anything so nice be harmful? Couple this with the tobacco industry spending billions and billions of dollars annually to market their products to your child. It is no surprise that kids love vaporizing pens.
But let's get out of la-la land and into reality. You don't want your child consuming nicotine or marijuana, especially today, because these are not the same "cigarettes and weed" of our day. They are much more potent, and that means much more dangerous. So, if you're a parent thinking, "I know it's bad, but we all did it when we were younger. I smoked cigarettes, and I smoked a bowl here and there when I was young, and I turned out ok." You need to understand that the substances of today are not like what you were smoking when you were a kid. One cartridge of nicotine in a vape pen is equivalent to 13-30 traditional cigarettes. That means that vaping nicotine is much more addictive. Marijuana has also evolved into a potent drug. Sure, kids can still smoke the flower, but now there are so many other options.
Marijuana edibles can easily be overdosed and make you sick because their effects don't hit you immediately. This means, many kids take one. When they don't feel anything after an hour, they take another. Before you know it, they are so high they can't walk and throw up. Or another way to consume marijuana is through concentrates. Concentrates are found in vape pens and in a smoking method called dabbing. Concentrates have an extreme amount of THC content. For example, a top-shelf flower that you may have smoked from a bowl, bong, or pipe has about 20% THC. Dabbing and vape pens have 40-80% THC concentrations. This means you can get much higher in one hit and also get the negative effects of the drug more easily.
The next common question I get from parents is, "How can I tell if my teen is using these substances?" Aside from finding the physical evidence of vape pens, pipes and lighters, I tell parents that they need to know their children well and notice behaviors when they start to change. Unfortunately, the most common signs of drug use are signs of normal teenage behavior, but drug use signals are amplified. Most teens will go through a phase of mood swings, agitation, and impulsivity, but drug use will make these warning signs more apparent. Don't dismiss these behaviors as "normal" unless they are subtle, few, and far between. I suggest airing on the side of caution, not dismissal. This is why a good relationship with your adolescent is critical to catch early warning signs. You need to know your teen well and be on the alert.
In addition, you can be aware of changes in your child's behaviors such as carelessness with grooming, changes in grades, skipping school, losing interest in favorite activities, and changes in eating and sleeping habits. Look out for relationship problems with family and friends also. Suppose your child has recently smoked marijuana and is trying to come down from their high when you see them. In that case, you may be able to spot their bloodshot eyes and have a smell of sweet fragrance on their clothes. Your child may appear dizzy or uncoordinated. They may seem silly and giggly for no reason and have difficulty remembering things that just happened.
Many kids who try to cover up vaping nicotine or marijuana use incense and other deodorizers to mask the smell of their vape pen. They could also be buying eye drops for their backpack and medicine cabinet. Look out for these items and start taking notice. One easy sign many parents miss is the child wearing graphic tees promoting drugs.
Lastly, let's talk about prevention. It isn't easy, but it is the most important thing you can do. Here are 5 steps parents can take to prevent their child from vaping marijuana or nicotine.
- Be a good role model. Your child will never listen to you if you smoke or don't walk the walk yourself. They just won't. Kids are watching and learning more by what you do than by what you say.
- Talk about the risks of partaking in vaping any substance. Don't just leave this conversation to the schools. You must have this conversation yourself, even if they roll their eyes and count down the seconds until you're done with your spill. Tell them how marijuana actually reduces their cognitive function PERMENTANTLY because their brain is still developing, and smoking kills brain cells. Tell them how 1 in 6 teens will develop a substance use disorder. Discuss the statistics that show that adolescents who use weed are more likely to try other risky drugs and have risky behaviors that can ruin their life.
- Talk to your child about the myths about vaping. Discuss how marijuana and nicotine are addictive and harmful to their health. Just because marijuana is a plant and perhaps even considered 'natural' doesn't mean it can't harm them. Discuss how not everyone is using these substances even though they may feel like it. And dispel any other false beliefs they might have.
- Have these conversations at least once a year. Don't talk about it once and think you did your due diligence. Revisit these topics every year or when the need arises.
- Roleplay and discuss ways your child can say no when facing peer pressure. Help them think of good 'one-liners' that will get them out of a situation they don't feel comfortable with, and then rehearse these lines often. Also, practice talking with body language by rehearsing those excuses with a confident posture and strong voice infliction. Consider talking about what will happen if they make a wrong choice and find themselves in a compromised state. What should they do? Who should they call? Where should they go?
Many teenagers will experiment and do what they are going to do. Still, suppose you can arm them with the right information and the ability to make a better choice more easily. In that case, you are increasing their chances for success.
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Thursday Jun 16, 2022
Thursday Jun 16, 2022
How Essential Oils Can Help Your Family
Georgia Mulliss, mom of 3, tells her personal story of how essential oils helped her family get out of crisis mode. Georgia was a non-believer when she started using essential oils in a "grasping at straws" attempt to help her family, and was amazed when using essential oils really worked!
Today, Georgia is a believer in the power of essential oils and she speaks about how every parent can incorporate essential oils into their home to improve the wellness of their family. This videos comes with a FREEBIE by Georgia Mulliss found inside the Impactful Parent app! The app is free to download and available on the Google & Apple App stores.
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Thursday Jun 09, 2022
Thursday Jun 09, 2022
How To Get A Teenager To Listen
Kristina Campos, the founder of The Impactful Parent, talks about Mathew Hussey's 7 tips for making a bigger influence. Kristina translates Mathew's suggestions to share how parents can get their teenager to listen. This is a MUST-SEE episode for anyone wanting to create a bigger influence in their teen's life and well being.
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Transcript for How To Get A Teenager To Listen
Oh man, my teenager is making bad choices. Stupid choices, actually. When are they going to learn? I tried giving my teen advice, but all they do is roll their eyes and look the other way. It's like I'm talking to a wall. Mistake after mistake… one of these days, their mistake will be really bad, which terrifies me. How can I get my teenager to listen to me?
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
Most parents are bracing themselves for those teenage years. Those years when you expect rebellion and bad choices. But let me tell you a little-known secret…. Your child doesn't have to rebel. Adolescent years are about finding your own way and discovering the world through experiences. Your child doesn't want to rebel against you, but they want some say in their own lives. They want the power to make their own choices. If you don't allow your child to make their own choices, this is when rebellion rears its ugly head.
As children grow older and the exchange of power shifts from parent to child, the parent will eventually lose total control. INFLUENCE is the only thing that remains after the child is old enough to rebel and take care of themselves. Yep, I said it. Parents can not force their children to do anything they don't want to do after a certain age. Parents will lose control. The mom and dad may try to make the child's life so miserable that the only desirable choice for the adolescent is to comply; however, in the end, it is still the child's choice to comply.
So if influence is the parent's best "playing card" to have a say in a teenager's life and help them make better decisions, how can parents create the most influence? This is the golden question!
Today, I will tell you HOW to create the most influence when talking to your child and stick around to the end because this episode is a must-see for any parent with a school-aged child. Let's get started!
I was scrolling through my Instagram not too long ago, and I stopped on a video of one of my favorite relationship coach's posts, Mathew Hussey. Mathew Hussey helps women "Get The Guy" by coaching females in relationship advice.
In this episode, Mathew teaches 7 Powerful People Skills To Make You Stand Out. This episode is a little off the beaten path of Mathew's typical advice. Still, as I watched, I thought to myself, THIS IS EXACTLY what parents need to know to make a bigger influence on their teenagers. This is the essence of how you get a teenager to listen! So, the 7 steps I am teaching today are not my own. They are Mathew Hussey's 7 steps, but I will translate his advice into the parenting world for you today so you can make a difference in your household.
Mathew Hussey's Advice #1: Silence is a virtue. Too often, parents don't listen to their kids. They might THINK they are listening to their kids, but they are really listening to respond instead of hearing their child's point of view.
It is not easy to truly listen. You must sit in silence and allow the other person to talk, resisting the urge to say your two cents until the other person is completely done with their thoughts. Most teens don't talk to their parents much, but they have a lot to say when they do. So, listen to your teenager. The only way to do this is to sit in silence.
Mathew Hussey's Advice #2: Fight the urge to interrupt. This piece of advice goes along with advice number 1. How can you listen to your child if you interrupt their train of thought and start talking? You can't. You have to let them finish talking before you respond. Before you even open your mouth, let them get out the whole story, all their feelings, concerns, and ideas. Fight the urge to respond until they have paused for 5 seconds. 5 seconds is a long time when you're in the middle of a conversation. (pause for 5 seconds. Count in your head and feel how long it takes).
I will let you in on another little secret. Even when teens are talking to you, they don't really want your opinion at that moment. Instead, they want to be heard. They want someone to help them but not make choices for them. They need someone to tell them they will be ok, they are on the right track, and that someone cares about what they are going through. Many parents hear their child complaining and immediately want to "fix" everything. They go into advice mode or say, "when I was your age…." But stop. You will get your opportunity to speak, but that opportunity does not come until AFTER the teenager has spilled out all they had to say.
Mathew Hussey's Advice #3: Attack with humility. When it is time to speak, parents need to structure their advice to sound like a suggestion and not a command. Teens don't want to be told what to do. They want to make their own choices. So if you want your child to listen to you, it is best not to come off as aggressive. Instead, ask your teenager, "Would you like to hear my point of view?" or "Would you like some advice?" or "Can I tell you how it sounds from the outside?" Then, Mathew Hussey recommends you structure your opinion with these words, "I am going to lay out my opinion, and you tell me why I am wrong." I love this suggestion by Mathew because it allows you to express your own feelings and guidance and still gives the child an opportunity to take your advice or leave it. Also, it even keeps the door open for more conversation and opinions to be discussed. Now the teenager doesn't feel like you're trying to control them. Instead, they feel like you're trying to help.
Mathew Hussey's Advice #4: Don't be a know-it-all. This is one of the biggest turn-offs for teenagers and the quickest way to get ignored. Teens will even purposefully ignore your advice to prove you wrong if this is how they perceive you. Besides that, parents don't need to know all the answers! It's ok to not know what to do and not be able to give help. In fact, allowing your child to solve their own problems and learn to navigate tricky waters is a good thing! You are there to support them! That alone is enough. You don't have to fix everything and know all the answers!
Mathew Hussey's Advice #5: Let your arguments wade in before you do. Mathew explains that sometimes when we disagree with what someone says, we immediately jump in and say, "I think this…." But the truth is, teens may not want to know what you think. Sometimes, our job as parents is to add value to the conversation by presenting to our teenagers a different perspective or the other side of the story, but NOT to put forward our own personal bias. Mathew suggests that one of the things you can say when you disagree with your teen is, "I think there's a couple of things worth considering here." This line allows your teenager to be open to what you're about to say because you haven't made them wrong by telling them other points of view. This is extremely important and brings me to #6.
Mathew Hussey's Advice #6: Argue with the argument, not the person. If your teenager thinks you are attacking their ideas, you will be immediately shut out. They will go into fight or flight mode, and now you might as well be the teacher in Charlie Brown's classroom, "Wha Wha Wha." Even if you completely disagree with your teen's perspective, you can't come out and tell them they are wrong. Instead, Mathew suggests you say something like, "Here is my issue with that." You have to make the argument your opponent meanwhile keeping your child as an ally. This means expressing your opposing opinions in the third person and not directing opposition at the child. No wagging fingers. No loud tone. No aggressive words. The bottom line is that your child can't feel attacked.
Mathew Hussey's Advice #7: Don't oversell your point. Mathew's last tip is about your victory. If you do all 6 steps correctly, your teen will actually hear you. They might even start nodding and say, "Thank you, you're right." When this happens, don't boost! That's going to revert you back to appearing like a know-it-all. You don't want that, remember!
It will also be your natural reaction to reiterate that "ah ha" amazing point. Don't do that! Repeating what your teen has already heard only annoys them! You don't need to repeat yourself. In fact, saying it only once is much more powerful and allows teens to let that idea sink into their heads. They need time to process your new idea and ask questions. If you start talking again, you aren't allowing them to do that.
If you thought today's advice was beneficial, I recommend you follow Mathew Hussey online. You can find him on Instagram @themathewhussey or his website at www.howtogettheguy.com. His work is brilliant, and his niche is helping single women find love and confidence.
But until next time, you got this parents. I am just here to help.
Thursday Jun 02, 2022
Thursday Jun 02, 2022
When Parenting Doesn't Go As Planned
Jodi Schilling tells her personal story about parenting not going as planned for her and her husband. She tells a story of having a child with autism, a child with learning challenges, and more challenges repeatedly coming her way. Jodi also tells a story of coping, loving her family for what it is, and rising together in love for success. This heart-felt episode is not only relatable but also inspiring. Jodi gives practical advice to parents facing adversity so that they too, can rise and triumph in their challenging parenting journey.
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Summary of When Parenting Doesn't Go As Planned
We all have this vision of parenting and what everything is supposed to be like. The minute we find out we are pregnant, we suddenly dream of walks in the park, weddings, and long hugs from little arms. It doesn't take long for us to realize that parenting is much more difficult than expected, and there will be times when parenting doesn't go as planned.
For Jodi Schilling, her parenting expectations were quickly challenged at her first ultrasound. From there, parenting became a challenge and journey that would teach her many life lessons. This is one of my longest interviews (47 minutes in length) and one of my most inspiring! When I was editing my footage, I couldn't cut out anything that Jodi said, nor did I want to.
Jodi Schilling tells her personal story about parenting not going as planned for her and her husband. She tells a story of having a child with autism, another child with learning challenges, and more challenges repeatedly coming her way. Jodi also tells a story of coping, loving her family for what it is, and rising together in love for success.
This heartfelt episode is not only relatable but also encouraging for any parent going through adversity, crisis, or simply disappointment that parenting hasn't gone as they planned. Jodi gives practical advice to parents facing hardship so that they, too, can rise and triumph in their challenging parenting journey. I hope you watch all 47 minutes because there is so much to learn and take in from beginning to end.
* This episode also comes with a freebie for parents, found inside the Impactful Parent app!
0:00 Intro
1:00 Jodi's story
13:29 Relatable ideas
14:36 Expectations in parenting
16:15 Challenges make you stronger
19:04 Go through it, not around it
19:51 Love conquers trauma
23:41 Mistakes parents make when in a family crisis
30:46 Parents want to control
32:43 Blame does nothing
34:22 Most important things to remember
44:50 FREEBIE Link
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