The Impactful Parenting Podcast helps parents turn their chaos into connection with their children. Through meaningful stories, the podcast provides parenting tips for making family life easier! Why? Because school-aged children bring different challenges to parenting that younger kids don’t! The Impactful Parenting Podcast provides help for raising your adolescent child. So if you’re asking yourself questions like: • ”Is this normal?” • ”Why is my teenager doing this?” • ”How do I get my child to stop?” • ”I am so frustrated. What do I do?” • ”Is anyone else experiencing this? I can’t be the only one.” • ”I am worried. What can I do?” Then YOU HAVE FOUND THE RIGHT PLACE! Hi! I am Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent and my passion is creating better relationships between parents and their children. I am a parenting coach, a teacher who has taught every grade level from Pre-K through high school, and most importantly, I am a mom of 4 kids! (Yep, those are my kiddos in the podcast photo). The teen years don’t need to be difficult. Teenagers CAN have a special bond with their parents! Listen and discover the tools and techniques you need to create connections, build trust, and have a stress-free household. This is only the beginning! Let’s get started, together! -Kristina Campos Founder of The Impactful Parent
Episodes
Thursday Apr 07, 2022
Thursday Apr 07, 2022
Turn Phone Photos Into A Legacy
Ken Wimberly tells a personal story of how he overcame his past to focus on being a good father. He talks about how he values documenting his parenting journey and more importantly, the life of his children. With his invention of the Legacy App, Ken developed a way for parents to take their phone photos, journaling, and other memories and store them in one safe place to keep a timeline of documentation for his children. Free resources included in this video can be found inside the Impactful Parent App. Links to the app are found in the comments below.
LINKS MENTIONED IN THE RECORDING
https://theimpactfulparent.com/app Download the FREE Impactful Parent App! Available on Apple and Android App Stores. FREEBIES from episodes included!
Apple Store: https://theimpactfulparent.com/ios
Android Play Store: https://theimpactfulparent.com/android
https://theimpactfulparent.com for more FREE Resources and paid programs.
https://legacyjournal.app/theimpactfulparent For your Legacy App Discount
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- Get The Impactful Parent App! Everything you need in your parenting journey in one spot! Available on the Android Play Store and the Apple Store. Search Impactful Parent (direct links listed above under Links in Episode).
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- Subscribe to the PODCAST
- Check out the official website of The Impactful Parent for FREE RESOURCES, parenting classes, mom’s groups, and so much more! Click here to check it out!
- Discover how you can work with Kristina! Sign up for a FREE 30-minute discovery call! Click here to find a time that works best for you!
Bottom Line... I am here for YOU! Contact me at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com
Monday Apr 04, 2022
Monday Apr 04, 2022
Help! We have a narcissist in the family!
A Clubhouse Replay: Clubhouse is an app available on Android and Apple that is an AUDIO only community. Think podcasting meets Radio... and on it there is lots of opportunities to learn and connect with others.
In this episode, Kristina talks with narcissist survivors. She asks them questions about co-parenting and surviving their narcissistic ways. This is a must-listen episode!
Guest Speakers:
- Sally Pauley Hershey
- Instagram @salley_pauley_hershey
- Clubhouse @shershey7
- Nikki G
- Instagram @nikki_g_speaks
- Clubhouse @nikkispeaks
- Website www.nikkigspeaks.com
- Vanessa Moretto
- Kristina Campos
- Instagram @theimpactfulparent
- Clubhouse @impactfulparent
- Website www.theimpactfulparent.com
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- Subscribe to the PODCAST
- Check out the official website of The Impactful Parent for FREE RESOURCES, parenting classes, mom’s groups, and so much more! Click here to check it out!
- Discover how you can work with Kristina! Sign up for a FREE 30-minute discovery call! Click here to find a time that works best for you!
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Monday Apr 04, 2022
Monday Apr 04, 2022
Helping Kids With Anger Management
Kristina Campos, the founder of The Impactful Parent, talks to parents about helping their children control their big emotions and specifically, how to get kids to control their temper. 2 FREEBIE RESOURCES are included in this video to help parents implement suggested techniques.
LINKS MENTIONED IN THE RECORDING
https://theimpactfulparent.com/app Download the FREE Impactful Parent App! Available on Apple and Android App Stores. FREEBIES from episodes included!
Apple Store: https://theimpactfulparent.com/ios
Android Play Store: https://theimpactfulparent.com/android
https://theimpactfulparent.com for more FREE Resources and paid programs.
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Also, if you haven't done so already, subscribe to the podcast. I'm adding a bunch of bonus episodes to the feed and, if you're not subscribed, there's a good chance you'll miss out. Subscribe now!
What to do next:
- Get The Impactful Parent App! Everything you need in your parenting journey in one spot! Available on the Android Play Store and the Apple Store. Search Impactful Parent (direct links listed above under Links in Episode).
- Follow The Impactful Parenton social media if you don’t already! Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, & Pinterest
- Subscribe to the PODCAST
- Check out the official website of The Impactful Parent for FREE RESOURCES, parenting classes, mom’s groups, and so much more! Click here to check it out!
- Discover how you can work with Kristina! Sign up for a FREE 30-minute discovery call! Click here to find a time that works best for you!
Bottom Line... I am here for YOU! Contact me at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com
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Transcript: Helping Kids With Anger Management
"What the heck just happened?" I say to myself because I am shocked that my child just took one of my simple requests to start their homework, the same as I do every day when they get home, and my child just blew up at me.
"Why won't you just leave me alone already?!?!" my child yelled at me, along with some other choice words. My kid threw down their backpack and stormed up the stairs stomping without even looking at me. By that reaction, you would have thought that I asked them to clean the bathroom or had just given them a 20-minute lecture. What was going on?
Has this happened to you? Does your child overreact with anger, and you don't know what you did to set them off? Or maybe they get angry daily, and you don't know where the anger is coming from? Or maybe screaming matches have become a regular occurrence in your home?
Well, you're not alone. Many parents ask their kids' seemingly minor requests to be met with a major emotional response or meltdown.
Welcome Impactful Parents. Today, we will talk about children's ANGER and how parents can help their children gain control over their big emotions.
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. I am the host of the Impactful Parenting podcast and have a free parenting app you can download on Apple or Android devices, also called Impactful Parent.
First, parents need to understand that matching their child's rage and big emotions does little for improving the situation. In fact, it just damages the parent-child relationship. Although it's natural for parents to want to yell back and command compliance when our kids are being disrespectful in their anger, it's not what we should do. Instead, I will encourage you to take a new 5 step process to deescalate the situation and bring understanding into your household.
Step 1: Remain Calm. Take a few deep breaths, count backward from 5 to 1, or do whatever you need to do to NOT yell back. Kids feed off us. They react to our reactions. Yelling back just provokes more yelling. A calm, soothing presence is the most effective way for a parent to help their child regain their composure. This will enable your child to begin dealing with the problem logically, and constructively.
Step 2: Understand That Your Child Needs Your Help. A handful of times, our kids' anger and outburst have nothing to do with us. Still, kids need a place to take out all the sadness, frustration, nervousness, and doubt. Whatever big emotion they might feel, the child subconsciously feels like home is the best place for them to do this. Parents are supposed to be a safe place. Parents are supposed to love their children no matter what, even if they are acting like an animal with rabies. Parents don't deserve to have their child's bad mood explode on them, but try and remember that your child needs your help to process these big emotions, and yelling back at them isn't teaching them anything. Instead, we need to help our children identify where their anger is coming from and how to deal with it.
Anger protects us from being vulnerable. Even when anger appears to be instantaneous, there is always some other feelings or reason that give rise to the anger. Children will avoid dealing with their fears, sadness, or anxiety by stuffing down those emotions instead of projecting anger. Why?
- Anger empowers us with a sense of control. It allows us to feel empowered instead of a victim.
- Anger can be used to seek attention. Anger outbursts can be a cry for help, even subconsciously.
- It is easier to be angry than to feel the other emotions that the anger is suppressing. Anger can be used as a way to soothe other pains.
Step 3: Help Your Child Calm Down So You Can Talk To Them. You can't help your child until they are ready to talk, and sometimes we need to help the child calm down. Learning to cope with big emotions and keep your cool does NOT happen overnight. This is a skill your child needs to develop with practice. Imagine how difficult it is for us, as adults, to keep our composure when someone gets us angry. Children have that same difficulty plus more because they are less practiced at it. Coping isn't intuitive, and as parents, it is important to understand that we probably have to help our children learn to cope.
A mistake that many parents make during this step is assuming what works for them will work for their child. This is not necessarily the case. Kids have to find what works for them on their own, and although your way of coping might work for them, it also may not. Teach your child to cope by giving them lots of options for coping and letting them try each technique out one by one. Let them discover what works for them and what doesn't through practice and the process of elimination.
To help aid in this process, I have a free PDF for you called 20 Ways To Cope. This free resource gives parents over 20 different coping ideas to teach their children. Once several coping techniques that work for your child are identified, I suggest you make a coping box to keep those ideas in one place. When you are done, the box might contain papers with reminders of activities your child can do, different fidget toys, books, journals for your child to write in, coloring books, soft fuzzy blankets, … the idea is to have a box that contains varies options for coping readily for your child to use when they need it. Get the 20 Ways To Cope FREE resource inside the Impactful Parent App alongside this video. https://theimpactfulparent.com/app
Step 4: Identify the REAL source of the stress. Now that you and your child are calmer, you are ready to start figuring out what is really the underlying issue of all that anger. The best way to do this is to ask your child lots of questions. Kids learn best if you don't tell them the answers, but you let them figure out the answers themselves. Let your child discover the root of their feelings, even if you think you know the answers already. Start by saying something like, "I can see you are upset today. Can we talk about what is going on? I would like to help." Then follow up with LOTS of questions about their feelings and the incident that made them angry. Remember, even if you think you know the answers, you want to lead your child to discover those answers themselves. Ask questions like:
- What might be causing that?
- What was your reaction?
- What could you have done better?
- Why do you think that happened?
- How did that make you feel?
- Why do you think they did that?
- Is there any truth in what that person said, or was it false?
- Why does it bother you?
To help you in this process of asking the right questions, I have another FREE PDF for you. These FREE resources give parents questions to ask their children to help them process what happened and learn from their choices. Get it inside the Impactful Parent App alongside this video. https://theimpactfulparent.com/app
Approach your child with empathy and understanding. You want to acknowledge their anger and validate their feelings. You can say something like, "You seem angry today. I bet something crappy happened. I have mad days too." You don't want to solve your child's problems for them. Instead, the intention is to listen and ask questions.
Remember, sometimes children have angry outbursts because they lack the skills to behave any other way. When parents take the time to help their children process and learn from their experiences, they also empower their children to grow and learn.
Step 5: Repeat Don't expect to go through this process once and have your child come out of a Rock Star of Emotional Control. This is going to take practice. Remember, progress is sometimes two steps forward and one step back. Some days your child will want to talk, and other days your child doesn't even want to calm down. You are going to have to stay consistent and patient! Don't give up!
Remember my child stomping up the stairs? Well, I found out that they failed a quiz. Not just any quiz, but one they studied for a lot, and we're hoping to ace and bring their B+ to an A-. To make matters worse, on the walk home, their backpack zipper broke. Papers, notebooks, pencils, and books fell to the ground, were moist and puddly from the afternoon rain. My child felt defeated by the day and was frustrated with his quiz score.
I could have matched my child's behavior with my own anger. It certainly would have been justified because my child's tone and words could be considered disrespectful. I could have yelled at them, given them a punishment, or demanded they start homework immediately. But I didn't. I didn't respond at all. I let them storm to their room. 10 minutes later, I knocked on their door with popcorn in my hand. "Hey, kiddo. It seems like you're angry. Are you ok? I bet something bad happened at school today. What's going on?"
And that was the start of the conversation.
To grab your free resources mentioned in this video today and if you want to become a more Impactful Parent, download the Impactful Parent app! Available for FREE on Apple and Android app stores. Also, check out all that my website has to offer! I have parenting courses, family coaching, and lots of free resources. But until next time, you got this, parents. I am just here to help.
Thursday Mar 24, 2022
Thursday Mar 24, 2022
Nerissa Bauer gives tips to parents on how they can help their child with ADHD to be their best selves. Nerissa's tips are practical and useful PLUS- Nerissa gives the audience a FREE E-BOOK! Her free e-book, "Getting the care your child needs with an ADHD Care Plan," helps parents navigate help, treatment, and the weeks ahead after a diagnosis. Get your FREEBIE by downloading the FREE Impactful Parent App!
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LINKS MENTIONED IN THE RECORDING
https://theimpactfulparent.com/app Download the FREE Impactful Parent App! Available on Apple and Android App Stores. FREEBIES from episodes included!
Apple Store: https://theimpactfulparent.com/ios
Android Play Store: https://theimpactfulparent.com/android
https://theimpactfulparent.com for more FREE Resources and paid programs.
www.letstalkkidshealth.org for more from Nerissa
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What to do next:
- Get The Impactful Parent App! Everything you need in your parenting journey in one spot! Available on the Android Play Store and the Apple Store. Search Impactful Parent (direct links listed above under Links in Episode).
- Follow The Impactful Parenton social media if you don’t already! Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, & Pinterest
- Subscribe to the PODCAST
- Check out the official website of The Impactful Parent for FREE RESOURCES, parenting classes, mom’s groups, and so much more! Click here to check it out!
- Discover how you can work with Kristina! Sign up for a FREE 30-minute discovery call! Click here to find a time that works best for you!
Bottom Line... I am here for YOU! Contact me at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com
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Transcript for How To Work With A Child With ADHD
Kristina: Welcome, impactful parent. Today, we will talk about four high-yield tips for parents to nurture kids with ADHD.
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I'm the founder of The Impactful Parent. I help parents of school-aged children turn their chaos into connection with their adolescence. I offer parent education videos every week, online courses, and coaching. And if that wasn't enough, I bring experts in other fields to The Impactful Parent stage to teach you even more. Today I have a special guest. Her name is Dr. Marissa Bower. Dr. Bower is a behavioral pediatrician and CEO of Let's Talk KidsHealth and creator of Teach Me ADHD. She is passionate about helping families become confident in navigating the road ahead after a diagnosis of ADHD.
Marissa: Thank you so much, Kristina, for having me.
Kristina: Well, let's start with the basics. What is ADHD?
Marissa: So basically, it's a very common neurobehavioral condition that affects how kids think and learn. And it just means that this population thinks and learns a little differently. It just means they need help with their attention and executive functioning.
Kristina: What should parents do if they suspect that their child has ADHD?
Marissa: I would talk to your pediatrician or primary care provider. Have a discussion about what you're seeing, what you're thinking, and then bring in any documentation from the teacher, any schoolwork, anything like that that is causing you some concern.
Kristina: What should parents be looking for? What are some signs of ADHD?
Marissa: There are 3 different types of ADHD.
- Hyperactive impulsive- This one typically is discovered early on, especially in younger kids. Kids are climbing all over. They're disrupting class.
- Inattentive ADHD- This one usually comes to parents' attention around third-fourth grade because, at that point, kids are not no longer just learning to read. They're reading to learn. That's a very different skill set. They have to draw on their working memory. We know that these kids, especially girls, can be missed until later on as the demands at school get more difficult.
Kristina: Let's say a parent goes and gets a diagnosis. Their child has ADHD. Now what? What can parents do to support their children?
Marissa: We know that medication can decrease overall ADHD symptoms in children. This doesn't mean that medication is the right fit for your family, but it will be an option. First of all, we have to understand the mechanics of what ADHD is and what it isn't. It is a brain-based condition. ADHD affects the frontal lobes of a child's brain. The part of the brain that is responsible for executive functions, such as organizing, prioritizing manager time, sustained attention, regulator, emotions, all of these different things. It is also important to talk to the child to understand their body. Some kids get scared when they are diagnosed. They have lots of questions too. We don't want our kids to fear this. We want them to be proud of who they are because it's a part of who they are. There are going to be things that will be challenges for them. Other things will be strengths.
So I think, first of all, having a conversation after the diagnosis is important. Also, revisit issues as your child gets older.
Kristina: Anytime you can start a conversation with your child and start asking questions, you're displaying to your child that you care.
What's your second tip?
Marissa: We know that kids with ADHD often have a hard time regulating emotion. That's one of the executive functions. So as much as possible, we need to expand their emotional vocabulary. Parents can teach kids how to express themselves and expand their emotions-words vocabulary. We experience as humans a whole range of emotions. That's what makes us human. Also, provide verbal encouragement to your child and acknowledge their frustration and efforts.
Kristina: Good communication for kids is going to help them beyond ADHD.
What is tip number three?
Marissa: Individuals with ADHD often need multi-sensory ways of learning information. Parents and teachers need to provide different outlets for learning the same content. Yes, kids with ADHD can hyperfocus on a topic when they find it interesting; however, they will also have trouble focusing when the topic is considered boring or difficult. Parents may need to help their children get started. To do this, a parent can put a gentle hand on their shoulder, make sure there is good eye contact, get down on their level, use their name, and give attention cues. Kids often have a hard time pulling attention away from a preferred activity to a non-preferred activity or just transitions.
Kristina: Another great tip! What's your tip number four?
Marissa: Treatment. This doesn't necessarily mean medication, but it can. We can start doing right off the bat by teaching our kids self-care strategies, getting enough sleep, putting healthy foods in their bodies, proper exercise, and physical activity.
Another option is behavioral therapy. Get help from a health care professional to help your child learn and develop skills that will serve them as they grow. This is best done with a professional because kids need that outside help sometimes. Parents can't do it all. Different therapists specialize in this and are trained to help your child.
Kristina: This is great information, and that's not all! I hear you have a freebie for my audience.
Marissa: I'm giving your audience my ebook! It's about creating a care plan for your child. The book is written for parents after diagnosis. It talks about how to begin navigating the road of ADHD because you will hear things like IEP and 504. What is all this alphabet soup? It can be overwhelming. I hope that this freebie will help families understand the different pillars of the care plan so when you go to your child's pediatrician, you can advocate for your child.
Kristina: If people want to come to you and get your advice, where can they find you?
Marissa: You can go to my website: www.letstalkkidshealth.org
I also have a weekly show where I bring guests to break down the stigma around behavioral health. I also offer my ADHD Course three times a year. The course is for kids with ADHD to take with their parents. Kids can see that they're not alone, and the course is taken online. The course helps you bridge the gap and build up your toolbox of resources to be empowered and confident as you walk the road ahead.
Kristina: Thank you for being here, Marissa! The audience can pick up that eBook freebie by downloading the FREE Impactful Parent App at https://theimpactfulparent.com/app; I hope parents get these free resources today and start becoming more impactful parents.
Thursday Mar 17, 2022
Thursday Mar 17, 2022
Narcissism In Children Can narcissism be hereditary? Can genes pass this trait down to our kids? Impactful Parent founder, Kristina Campos, talks about the signs of narcissism in children, causes of narcissism, red flags and signs of narcissistic tendencies, and tips for parents to prevent a growing narcissistic kids. Watch today!
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LINKS MENTIONED IN THE RECORDING
https://theimpactfulparent.com/app Download the FREE Impactful Parent App! Available on Apple and Android App Stores. FREEBIES from episodes included!
Apple Store: https://theimpactfulparent.com/ios
Android Play Store: https://theimpactfulparent.com/android
https://theimpactfulparent.com for more FREE Resources and paid programs.
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Rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!
Also, if you haven't done so already, subscribe to the podcast. I'm adding a bunch of bonus episodes to the feed and, if you're not subscribed, there's a good chance you'll miss out. Subscribe now!
What to do next:
- Get The Impactful Parent App! Everything you need in your parenting journey in one spot! Available on the Android Play Store and the Apple Store. Search Impactful Parent (direct links listed above under Links in Episode).
- Follow The Impactful Parenton social media if you don’t already! Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, & Pinterest
- Subscribe to the PODCAST
- Check out the official website of The Impactful Parent for FREE RESOURCES, parenting classes, mom’s groups, and so much more! Click here to check it out!
- Discover how you can work with Kristina! Sign up for a FREE 30-minute discovery call! Click here to find a time that works best for you!
Bottom Line... I am here for YOU! Contact me at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com
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Transcript for Narcissism In Children
Welcome Impactful Parents. Today we are going to talk about narcissism.
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I come on and answer one of your questions LIVE. If you have a question for next week, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
Today's question from the audience is asking about narcissism. Is narcissism hereditary? The audience member thinks their parent is a narcissist and worry that their child might have inherited the personality flaw. So, these parents ask, "Can genes pass on this disorder to kids?"
Thank you for submitting this question! Today I will talk about narcissism, its causes, and red flag warning signs. And stick around to the end because I will explain how parents could be making narcissism worse. Let's get started!
Narcissism is characterized by a sense of grandiosity, they want admiration by others, the need for attention, superficial interpersonal relationships, and a lack of empathy. Typically, narcissism is not diagnosed in children as personality changes and evolves until adulthood. Throughout development, children go through phases that include self-centered tendencies or inflated views of themselves. This is normal. It is more concerning when these traits persist after puberty. Still, parents need to recognize the CAUSES, SYMPTOMS, and SIGNS of narcissism to help their children prevent a deep onset of this disorder because narcissistic adults struggle with their relationships and don't deal with the stress well, and find opposing opinions difficult to accept. This brings a lot of conflict into their lives, leading to an increased risk of anxiety, depression, drug abuse, and suicide.
CAUSES: So what causes narcissistic personality disorder? Experts have different opinions, and the bottom line is they aren't sure. Some experts claim that it can be genetic. Still, most doctors agree that environmental factors play a role in creating a narcissist, including parental influences, which I will address in a few minutes.
What Does Childhood Narcissism Look Like?: Among the myths about narcissistic people is that they believe themselves to be better than others. This is not true. Narcissism is rooted in insecurity, even if the narcissist doesn't realize it. Outwardly they will overcompensate with confidence. That is why many narcissists appear arrogant, entitled, act as though they are superior to others, and feel like they deserve special treatment. Another outward quality will likely include being the center of attention. Narcissists also have turbulent relationships. Value is only given to people if they are considered useful, so many narcissists belittle and exploit others. They cannot empathize, too. At the same time, narcissists are dependent upon other people to reaffirm their self-image. Narcissists who do not receive attention and praise feel empty, bored, depressed, or restless.
So how can I tell if I have a child turning narcissistic?
- They might monopolize conversations,
- Expect special treatment,
- Have very sensitive feelings to criticism,
- Feel uncomfortable with fantasy play,
- Lie and justify their lie whole hardly,
- Have an inflated ego,
- Belittle others,
- Have overdramatic tantrums,
- Lack of close friendships or a high turnover of friends,
- Outwardly express they are better than other kids,
- Isolate or exclude other children from their playgroup because of their superficial characteristics,
- Throw tantrums when they are criticized,
- Won't look people in the eye,
- Can be considered a "bully" at school,
- Brags excessively and exaggerates their achievements,
- Talks about a limitless future where the sky is the limit,
- Are envious of other's successes and even feel threatened by other's success,
- Will argue with adults when things aren't going their way,
- Post excessively on social media, especially selfie images,
- Won't take responsibility for their actions when they are wrong,
- And have an unreasonably high expectation of people around them.
Can parents help children overcome their narcissistic tendencies?: The short answer to this question is yes. Parenting styles can influence the chances of having a narcissistic child. Parents want to foster self-esteem and confidence in their children. Still, if a parent outwardly expresses entitlement for their child, they could be growing narcissistic characteristics in their kid. Parents shouldn't put the idea in their child's heads that they are better than everyone else. These extreme expectations from parents can prove to be detrimental. Parents need to be careful not to be too overprotective or indulgent with their children. Don't behave as though your child is more entitled than other children. Pampering your child too much can lead to narcissistic qualities.
Remember, parents are not the only cause of narcissistic children. Other environmental factors that can cause narcissism can be cultural influences, genetics, narcissistic parents' role modeling behaviors, excessive criticism, and traumatic experiences- just to name a few.
I hope that answered our audience question today and was informative to you. Do you have a question for me for next week? Submit your questions by social media DM or email me at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com. Plus- if you want to become a more Impactful Parent, check out all that my website has to offer! I have parenting courses, family coaching, a free downloadable app, and many free resources. But until next time, you got this, parents. I am just here to help.
Monday Mar 14, 2022
Monday Mar 14, 2022
How To Have A Good Divorce
In this episode, 2 parenting coaching talk about the importance of having a "good divorce" so that transition become easier on the children and family unit. Tips, advice, and personal experiences are talked about.
This is a clubhouse episode rerun. If you want to join the conversation LIVE, download the Clubhouse app and join us! Live recordings made Fridays, Noon EST on the App. @impactfulparent to find Kristina and join her FREE Clubhouse rooms! Email theimpactfulparent.com for questions.
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Monday Mar 14, 2022
Monday Mar 14, 2022
Toughen Up Kid! How To Build Resiliency In Kids
This episode gives the 7 Steps for Building Resiliency In Kids. This episode breaks down the 7 steps and gives examples of personal experiences given by real parents on how they are building resiliency in their own homes.
This episode is a Clubhouse Replay. Come join the conversation LIVE! Download the Clubhouse app and find The Impactful Parent @impactfulparent inside the app. Then join Kristina and other parenting coaching LIVE and in person every Friday at Noon EST.
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Thursday Mar 10, 2022
Thursday Mar 10, 2022
Get Kids Sleeping Better with sleep consultant Missy Morrison Charko. Missy gives the audience tips for getting their children to sleep PLUS- Missy's interview comes with a FREE PDF and discounts for her services. Watch the video for more information and get your child sleeping soundly through the night!
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Transcript for Get Kids Sleeping Better
Kristina: Welcome, Impactful Parent. Today, we're going to talk about seven actionable tips that will help your child start sleeping better, improve mood and behavior, and then pave the way for them to reach their full potential of the day.
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of The Impactful Parent. I help parents of school-aged children turn their chaos into connection with their adolescence. I offer free parent education videos every week, online courses, and coaching. If that wasn't enough, I bring experts in other fields onto The Impactful Parent stage to teach you even more. And today I have a special guest. Her name is Missy Morrison Charko. And Missy is a certified pediatric sleep consultant and founder of Say Yes To The Rest, pediatric sleep consulting. She helps exhausted parents with one-on-one support to get their children to sleep so that they can start to feel like themselves again. Thank you for being here, Missy.
Missy: Thank you so much for having me, Kristina. I'm super excited.
Kristina: So tell me, why is sleep so important for both kids and parents? Let's start there. The fundamentals. Why is this important for people?
Missy: Absolutely. Sleep is a necessity for everyone. When we wake up exhausted, our whole day is affected the next morning. It affects our workday. It affects our personal relationships. It affects everything we do for that next 24 hour period. For our teenage kids, it affects their day at school. Suppose they're not getting a good night's sleep; it affects their moods and behaviors. It affects their growth and development, too. So it's absolutely an important part of a healthy lifestyle and a necessity for all of us from babies up to our adult and older years.
Kristina: I know that it's just horrible if I don't get enough sleep. I also got teenagers who just refuse to accept that they need sleep.
What is the first tip that you believe parents need to use to help avoid bedtime battles with their kids, whether they're young or they're teenagers, so that we can get those kids in bed?
Missy: Boundaries and making sure that we're holding our ground is an important part of all of this. It's amazing how much you can do during the daytime that can come into the bedtime routine. Some kids want to push boundaries too. But parents need to stand their ground and be consistent.
Kristina: I love boundaries because boundaries create security for kids. They are more than rules. They create feelings of being secure with your caregiver. However, many people don't realize how important boundaries are. Do you have any tips for how to establish boundaries, especially for our older kids that are definitely going to be fighting back?
Missy: Absolutely. And I love what you just said about boundaries, Kristina. Children feel safer, and they feel secure when they have boundaries.
My first suggestion for you is to establish a bedtime routine. Bedtime routines are important for everyone, even teens and adults. Set a consistent bedtime routine every night, doing the same things every single night. Being consistent every night can help set those boundaries and create that consistent routine they need. Routine cues our body and our brain that it's time for sleep. Try dimming the lights when your child is getting ready for bed. Things like that can get that melatonin production going and help children fall asleep easier and quicker.
Kristina: One mistake that I see parents make is creating a bedtime routine that is too elaborate or long. As the child gets older, they're exhausted because it takes 30 minutes to an hour to put their older children to sleep. I want to clarify that a bedtime routine must be consistent but not elaborate.
Missy: Absolutely. We usually recommend a 15 to 30 minutes bedtime routine. If the routine is too long, the body and the mind forget that they need to sleep.
Kristina: What's the biggest reason older children have trouble falling asleep and staying asleep?
Missy: Screen time. I also hear that kids pick up those screens in the middle of the night. Electronics are detrimental to sleep. Artificial light is the number one hindrance for adult and teen sleep disturbances. Blue light from screens decreases your melatonin production. It causes the cortisol hormone to jump instead. I recommend getting rid of screen time after dinner or at least a few hours before bedtime.
Kristina: How many hours should kids sleep, too?
Missy: We're looking for nine to 11 hours of sleep at night for our tweens and teens. We're looking for eight to 10 once we get to our adulthood.
Kristina: What kind of advice do you have for parents that have children with bedtime fears?
Missy: Try using soothing items to help your child calm their body. Sound machines are good. Special blankets and stuffed animals can also be helpful. If you've got a child who has a fear of the dark or is having nightmares, try a worry eater jar. Have your child write down their worries and put them into the jar. At night, their worries will disappear by the morning. It gives kids a little bit of peace of mind. That's just a fun little thing to do.
Also, do calming exercises or meditation. There are many apps that you can use to help bring anxiety down. If your child is afraid of the dark, you can try playing games in the dark with them during the awake hours. Dim the lights of a room and play shadow puppets or Hide and Seek.
Kristina: You are a great resource for our parents, but I know sleep problems tend to be more for our younger kids. So do you work with younger children as well?
Missy: Absolutely. I love working with babies and toddlers. When we establish those healthy sleep habits early on, we're much less likely to see issues in these later school-age years.
Kristina: How does the audience contact you?
Missy: You can go to my website, www.sayyestotherest.com, where you can book a complimentary 15-minute child's sleep evaluation call with me. Those just allow me to get to know the family, see what sleep struggles they're going with, and see if we're the right fit to work together.
Kristina: That's not all! Missy has a freebie! Can you tell us a little bit more about that?
Missy: I have a PDF available for you that lists all of the topics I touched on today.
Kristina: Thank you, Missy.
Audience, if you want to get that free PDF, you can find it Free inside the Impactful Parent app! It is available on the Apple App Store and Android Play Store or with this link: https://theimpactfulparent.com/app
And parents, if you want to become a more impactful parent, check out all them my website has to offer. I have parenting courses, family coaching, a free downloadable app, and many free resources. But until next time, you got this. I'm just here to help.
Thursday Mar 03, 2022
Thursday Mar 03, 2022
Is This ADHD? Understanding the signs of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.
Kristina Campos, the founder of The Impactful Parent, talks to parents about Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, signs, and what parents can do to help their children.
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Is this ADHD?
Understanding ADHD and its signs
Welcome Impactful Parents. Today we are going to talk about ADHD in your school-aged child.
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I come on and answer one of your questions LIVE. If you have a question for next week, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
Today, an audience member wrote in and said they think their child might have ADHD, but they don’t know for sure. This parent asked, what are the signs of ADHD, and how can I tell if I need to get my child diagnosed.
Thank you for submitting this question! Today I will tell you signs of ADHD and stick around to the end because I am giving you ---- tips for helping your child with ADHD so you can be a more impactful parent. Let’s get started!
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder or ADHD looks like hyperactive and impulsive behaviors in children. There are many symptoms of ADHD, including high activity levels, difficulty remaining still, and a limited attention span.
There are 3 types of ADHD. Keep in mind it looks a little different in every person. Some children have inattentive and distractible behaviors without having hyperactivity. Some children have impulsive and hyperactive behaviors without inattention or trouble being distracted. And yet some other children have a combination of both.
If you think your child might have Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, consider that their ADHD has to be present in more than one area of life and in more than one setting to be diagnosed with ADHD. For example, their inattention and hyperactivity must be seen while doing homework and when trying to complete chores at home. The ADHD must also be noticeable at home and at school. Lastly, doctors will also be looking at whether these behaviors have lasted more than 6 months.
What does Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder look like?
Let’s start with signs of distract-abilities and inattention.
Your child may exhibit:
- No attention to detail and make careless mistakes
- Trouble holding attention
- Doesn’t seem to listen
- Does not follow through with instructions or has trouble finishing schoolwork, chores, and duties
- Gets sidetracked
- Trouble with organization
- Avoids tasks that require mental effort for long periods
- Loses things they need
- Easily distracted
- Seems forgetful
Then there are also signs of hyperactivity that parents can look for. These signs might look like this:
- Your child fidgets, squirms, and can’t seem to keep still
- Leaves seat often and walks around when others can remain seated
- Climbs
- Restlessness
- Unable to take part in leisure activities
- Your child feels “On the go.”
- Talks excessively
- Blurts out their thoughts without thinking first and doesn’t seem to have a verbal filter
- Trouble waiting their turn
- Interrupts and intrudes
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder can cause many problems in children’s lives. This is why parents need to understand their child’s brains and help them control their behaviors if necessary. One of the most common problematic issues that arise with ADHD is impulsivity. Depending on your child, parents need to gauge if impulsive behaviors can lead to more trouble, like when a child can’t stop themselves from running into the street to get a ball or when they can’t control how they react when someone speaks harshly to them. Impulsive behaviors have the potential to lead to more problems.
Other troubling side effects of ADHD in many children are anxiety, learning disabilities, trouble in school, trouble handling finances, and even trouble in the workplace depending on their job. Some people with mild systems may feel like none of these side effects are detrimental and opt to control their ADHD internally. Other families will seek a doctor’s assistance in managing the ADHD symptoms. Side effects aren’t harmful to the child’s goals and lifestyle.
Treatment for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder?
Treatment for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder can come in the form of medication. This is a very popular way to handle the side effects of ADHD; however, it is not the only form of treatment. Behavior therapy, psychotherapy, and social skills training are other forms of treating ADHD and good options to look into with a mental health professional if you don’t want to use medication with your child.
What can parents do to help their child with ADHD?
Suppose you want to be a more impactful parent. In that case, there are also some things you can do at home to help your child with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.
Parents can help their child with ADHD #1: Create a routine. Routine creates stability, predictability, and security for children. Children with ADHD accomplish more with routine. Whether you are making a morning or bedtime routine, a routine for homework completion, or a routine for household chores- your ADHD child will be more successful with a routine in place. Create consistency with what they need to do, when they need to work on their to-do list, and how tasks should be accomplished.
Parents can help their child with ADHD #2: Use sticky notes. Anytime your child may need a little extra reminder that they have to complete a task, use a sticky note to help them. You can put sticky notes in their backpacks, lunch boxes, on the steering wheel of their car, on the bathroom mirror, anywhere! Be creative!
Parents can help their child with ADHD #3: Encourage your child to use a daily planner. From an early age, teach your child to write down their responsibilities and to-do lists. Younger children can draw a picture of their to-do item, and older children can use the calendar on their smartphones. Whatever type of planner or calendar you want to use, parents can help their ADHD child understand their responsibilities better if they teach their children how to make lists.
Parents can help their child with ADHD #4: Have a place for everything. This technique helps children not lose their things, misplace an item, or forget where they were. Purchase bins, tubs, shoe boxes, etc., and label those containers. This type of organization can be extremely helpful and save a lot of time looking for lost items.
Parents can help their child with ADHD #5: Help them get longer tasks done, like homework, by giving frequent movement breaks and breaking large tasks into smaller chunks. Your child will need the movement breaks to concentrate better. I suggest buying a visual timer and setting movement breaks every 20 minutes. Movement breaks should last about 5 minutes. Finally, help your child refocus and get back on task. This might look like helping them sit down and read the next homework question aloud to them or helping complete the next math problem. Either way, helping your child refocus is more effective than just telling your child they need to get back on track. You may also want to help your child break up their tasks into smaller, more manageable chunks so that their responsibilities don’t feel overwhelming. Kids often need help with this. Don’t assume that your child can automatically break down an activity into smaller pieces. They may need your assistance with this also until they master the skill.
Parents can help their child with ADHD #6: Make sure your child lives a healthy lifestyle. This means encouraging your child to eat well and sleep at least 8 hours at night. You also want to encourage plenty of exercises and physical activity.
Parents can help their child with ADHD #7: Limit distractions when you want your child to focus. This means turning off the background noise, the tv, the music and limiting the people in the room. The least amount of distractions possible will be beneficial.
Parents can help their child with ADHD #8: Praise your child often for their efforts. Kids with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder are often told “No” and “stop that” often. Instead, focus your attention on when your child is doing well so you can bring up their self-esteem. Give your child lots of affection and words of affirmation.
Parents can help their child with ADHD #9: Use a visual timer to help with transitions. Some kids with ADHD can’t identify time. 5 minutes and 15 minutes feel the same to them. To help kids transition from one activity to another, I suggest buying a visual timer and warning children about how long they have to complete a task. Let the visual timer show them how much time is left to start learning how to anticipate time management.
What can parents do to help their child with ADHD #10: Encourage out loud thinking. Anytime you can help your child think things through or problem solve, you will set them up for further success. Encourage your child to think aloud so you can hear their thought processes and help them navigate their thoughts and intentions.
And if you have a question you want to submit for me to answer live, please do! Submit your questions by DM or email at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com. Plus- if you want to become a more Impactful Parent, check out all that my website has to offer! I have parenting courses, family coaching, a free parenting app, and many free resources. But until next time, you got this, parents. I am just here to help.
Thursday Feb 24, 2022
Thursday Feb 24, 2022
Best Options After High School with Emma Perez. Emma gives parents and students 7 options for continuing student education after high school. PLUS- this video comes with TWO FREEBIES to help your family make the perfect "After High School Choice!"
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https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.prmto733iicm.ptt70cx5app
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Transcript for Best Options After High School
Kristina: Today, we're going to talk about seven ways for high schoolers to continue their education after high school, especially if you have a child that doesn't want to go to a traditional university.
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos, founder of The Impactful Parent. I help parents of school-aged children turn their chaos into connection with their adolescence. I offer free parent education videos every week, online courses, and coaching. And if that wasn't enough, I bring experts in other fields to The Impactful Parent stage to teach you even more. And today I have a special guest. Her name is Emma Perez. Emma is a college and career coach for teens and young adults. I'm really excited to have her here. We're gonna be talking about all the options that your child has after high school. Thank you for being here today. Emma.
Emma: Thank you so much for having me.
Kristina: I want to dive right in. What are the seven options after high school?
Emma: So a lot of times, there's a lot of relief to find out that there are other options. One of those options is university. Of all the seven options I'm going to discuss today, the university is the most costly option. I like to encourage families to really consider your return on investment for any educational pursuit that they take. Consider if the cost of a particular school, institution, or degree will out-weight the tuition costs.
Kristina: I recently interviewed a financial advisor who was saying the same thing. College has become too expensive. Sometimes it may not be the right option for a child to go to university, depending on their career or degree. It just doesn't weigh anymore. Parents need to pause and consider that times have changed since their own upbringing. University may not be the best path for learning and choosing a career anymore.
Emma: We all know that the cost of college is increasing, especially compared to wages. In addition to that, colleges and universities started creating degree programs so that more kids would attend their universities. Many of these degree programs don't automatically lead to employment. There are still some occupations that the only choice is university. There are some occupations where you will have multiple choices, whether university or some other kind of schooling.
Kristina: I'm excited to hear the other options for students after high school. What is option #2?
Emma: A gap year. This doesn't mean that your child is just going to take a year off of schooling. Actually, most students will attend a gap year program. Most of these programs are community service-based. Some programs are far away in another country. Some programs may be expensive, but you could find scholarships. Other programs will offer a stipend and get scholarship money when they complete the program. Universities mostly really like gap years for kids because of the experiential learning that they're getting. Schools will allow you to defer your enrollment for a year to do a gap year program. The gap year can give your child the opportunity to mature, travel, experience new things and figure out their passion.
Kristina: How expensive is a gap?
Emma: Well, it really depends on the program. The price can be anywhere from free to as much as a university's tuition.
Kristina: Sounds like another great option with option. What is the next option for kids?
Emma: Community College. Community college is the more affordable path to university because you can take your general education courses there at a much nicer price tag and potentially still live at home, so the child doesn't have living expenses.
However, community college also offers an alternative to university with professions that require an associate's degree, not a bachelor's degree. A great example is to be an American Sign Language interpreter. Community colleges offer this degree as a two-year program, and once you graduate, you're ready to work. Some community colleges even offer trades. Those degree programs can be nine months to two-year programs.
I think many parents see college as a good buffer between being a teenager and being an adult. But some kids actually need a buffer between high school and university.
Kristina: What about option number four?
Emma: The military. The military offers degrees for jobs that you can have within the military or afterward in civilian life. After your military term, you also have VA benefits, and one of these benefits is money for college.
Kristina: Another great option that offers different paths for kids. And what about option number five?
Emma: Trade school. As I mentioned before that some community colleges offer trade programs. Other schools specialize in trade programs. These are nine to two-year programs where you earn a diploma or certification and train in a very specific trade.
Today, most tradesmen are baby boomers who will be retiring soon. Many jobs are going vacant. There's going to be a lot of job security here because there are so many vacant jobs, but these are also important jobs that we need. These are hands-on jobs. Some people don't want to sit behind a desk every day for the rest of their life. This could be a great option for many students!
There is an assumption that people don't make as much money with these trade professions. That is incorrect. Certain trades make plenty of money, especially if you decide to own your own business. Also, consider that the cost of education is far less and it's fewer years. You get to earning sooner!
Kristina: What is option number six?
Emma: Working with a business coach. Okay, so some young people are very entrepreneurial and might consider a business degree. But I want you to consider a business mentor and get involved in a Business Mastermind. With this option, the student would be coupled with a professional that could hold their hand while creating their own business, rather than going to a school. It will cost less money, so you'll have more money to invest in the business. This is not for every 17 or 18 year old out there, but there are some out there that it could be right for, so you just really want to calculate that return on investment.
Kristina: How do you find a business coach?
Emma: I know a few, and your audience can contact me for help. I can help them find a business coach that would be a good fit for the student.
Kristina: Great! Thank you. What is option number seven?
Emma: The last option will be the most cost-effective because it doesn't cost you any money at all. This option is an apprenticeship.
There are actually a lot of apprenticeships out there. You can go to apprenticeship.gov to find them. Instead of going to school and paying to learn, you actually get paid while you learn on the job. These programs can often be up to four years, like university. You'll start making a 50% salary, which will increase through your learning experience.
A great example here with the elevator repairman. This is a three or four-year apprenticeship. As soon as they're done, they start making about $79,000 a year with zero educational costs.
Kristina: With seven options to choose from, how does a child know which path is right for them?
Emma: There are a few things that you want to consider. The first one is what do you want to do? Maybe the only option is a university, or a trade school is the only option. Or maybe you have multiple options. I also work with families to help students figure out their paths. I like to tell young people that you find your unique value in thinking about yourself as a person. What do you value? What do you care about? How do you want to spend your time, and how can you serve other people? When you think about things that you're uniquely good at and that you can bring to anything you do, you combine that with how you can serve other people. That's where you really find your unique values.
I also like to remind families that the path doesn't have to be set in stone. Most people will change careers as they grow. It is more important to focus on the student's skills and apply those skills to the real world.
Kristina: I am excited to tell that audience that you have a few freebies for them today.
Emma: Yes! Freebie #1 is a free seat in a webinar called How To Go Undecided to Excited. If you're a parent with a young person who may have an interest but don't know how to turn that into a job, or if they're not sure what their interests are, what they want to major, what they want to do- This is the webinar for you. We cover how to get your teen unstuck and ready to move forward.
Freebie number two is a worksheet for you to print out for each university that you visit and has lots of questions where you could put pros and cons. It is a worksheet to help you keep track of different university options and helps you ask the right questions at each college you look at.
Kristina: Thank you, Emma. I appreciate the help you are giving parents and students.
If you want to become a more impactful parent, check out all of my website has to offer. I have parenting courses, family coaching, a free downloadable app, and many free resources. But until next time, you got this, parents. I'm just here to help.