The Impactful Parenting Podcast helps parents turn their chaos into connection with their children. Through meaningful stories, the podcast provides parenting tips for making family life easier! Why? Because school-aged children bring different challenges to parenting that younger kids don’t! The Impactful Parenting Podcast provides help for raising your adolescent child. So if you’re asking yourself questions like: • ”Is this normal?” • ”Why is my teenager doing this?” • ”How do I get my child to stop?” • ”I am so frustrated. What do I do?” • ”Is anyone else experiencing this? I can’t be the only one.” • ”I am worried. What can I do?” Then YOU HAVE FOUND THE RIGHT PLACE! Hi! I am Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent and my passion is creating better relationships between parents and their children. I am a parenting coach, a teacher who has taught every grade level from Pre-K through high school, and most importantly, I am a mom of 4 kids! (Yep, those are my kiddos in the podcast photo). The teen years don’t need to be difficult. Teenagers CAN have a special bond with their parents! Listen and discover the tools and techniques you need to create connections, build trust, and have a stress-free household. This is only the beginning! Let’s get started, together! -Kristina Campos Founder of The Impactful Parent
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Thursday Feb 09, 2023
Thursday Feb 09, 2023
Why is my teenager mean to me?
Founder of the Impactful Parent, Kristina Campos, gives parents 5 reasons why their child might be mean AND 5 things that parents can do to help cultivate a better relationship with their child.
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Transcript of Why Is My Teenager Mean To Me?
Why Is My Teenager Mean To Me?
They eye rolls and snarky eye stares. The "selective hearing" and the attitude in their voice. You've heard it before: teenagers are a hormonal mess. But what does that mean? Are they all going through some phase? How should an impactful parent respond to the crazy, stank eye?
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
Today, I will talk to you about why your teenager is so mean and stick around to the end because I will also give you tips for dealing with these frustrating situations. Let's get started!
It's true about the teenage brain not being fully developed. It's also true that teens will get an instinctual urge to detach from the family and assert independence. But is this really causing your teen to be so mean and lash out at you (and maybe even everyone else)?
The next time your teenager is giving attitude, I want you to think about WHY this is happening? Most of the time, there are layers underneath those big emotions. Here are some reasons why your teen is throwing you shade and my suggestions for what to do about it.
Why Is My Teenager Mean? Reason 1: It's easier to be angry than sad.
One of the most common reasons teenagers are mean to their parents is their anger. Anger is a powerful emotion that can manipulate others, distract from sadness, and cover up fear. Since teens don't have the skill set to deal with negative emotions in healthy ways, they may take out their anger on you. Remember, kids, see their parents as a safe space. You're supposed to love them no matter what, even if they are mean. You'll see a lot of teens pushing these boundaries and testing your love- even on a subconscious level. Yes, TESTING your love! Teens are sometimes so insecure and frustrated with their life that they'll test the security of home and your love to ensure it's still "safe." They need that safe place to vent and the stability of your love to be their security net. Of course, none of this is said aloud. Parents are just supposed to know this and pass the test.
What to do: If you've noticed your teenager being angry, try talking to them about it in a non-judgmental way when the dust has settled a little bit. Say something like, "I'm having trouble understanding why you're so upset with me lately. Can you tell me what's happening and how I can stop annoying you?" This will allow your teenager to vent—and hopefully help them see how hurtful their behavior has been toward you.
Why Is My Teenager Mean? Reason 2: They want to be independent.
Most teenagers are constantly testing their boundaries, but that's not necessarily bad. They're figuring out who they are and what they want out of life, which involves making mistakes, taking risks, and trying on new identities. You may notice that your teenager is more critical or sarcastic than usual—or even downright mean—because they need to make decisions independently. Your teenager needs to develop a sense of self-reliance to effectively function in the adult world after high school.
What to do: If you see your teen being mean to assert independence, focus on correcting their tone and NOT their message. Let them speak and declare their opinions but remind them that their opinions and voice will be better received if their tone is strong but respectful. I often tell my kids that I won't hear what they say until they control their emotions, body, and tone. Then I am all ears. This is also a situation where you must practice what you preach and model the behaviors you want to see. You can't demand your teen to talk to you respectfully if you raise your voice at them consistently. This brings me to reason number 3…
Why Is My Teenager Mean? Reason 3: The influence of their friends and YOU.
As I said before, it’s normal for teens to try out new things and most of what they will try out is learned behaviors from peers, media, and you.
It's natural for teens to want to fit in. They need friends, and they want their peers to like them. Parents are often seen as a barrier between their teens and other kids at school, so they sometimes act out against parents to get attention and approval from their friends.
While you may be tempted to blame your teen's behavior on peer pressure or immaturity, there is another possible explanation: Your teen may be modeling their behavior after yours!
If you are mean or disrespectful towards your child, then this can become normalized for them. Suppose you constantly yell at each other or use sarcasm (even in jest). In that case, your child will believe that this behavior is acceptable when interacting with you and even people outside the family, including authority figures like teachers and coaches.
What to do: Model the behavior you want to see and talk to your kids (when they are in a good mood) about the boundaries and appropriateness of using sarcasm, jokes, put-downs, tone, and other language nuances with others. This is a learned social skill for children. Teach them.
Why Is My Teenager Mean? Reason 4: Maybe they're trying to get attention from you and don't even know what they are doing.
Most teenagers are fighting an internal battle of wanting to stay in the safety of their parent's nest or fly away and make a new nest for themselves. They are stuck between being too young and yet too old. They aren't kids, but they're not quite adults yet. And whether your child voices this internal battle with mood swings or by using their words, there will surely be times when your teenager is longing for the attention of their parents but can't say the words anymore. If your teen is mean to you, they may be trying to get your attention so that you will spend more time with them. They also might be trying to get you to pay attention to their needs. Teens feel like adults don't listen and aren't interested in what they have to say, so teens can feel ignored.
What to do: Kill your child with kindness. When they are being rude and eye-rolling, don't take the bait to start an argument; instead, take a deep breath. Once you got your composure- start thinking about how you can show your child you love them by speaking their love language. Maybe you can text your child a few words of encouragement before a test or make some popcorn for their homework hour? Whatever you do, focus on killing your child with kindness. This will give your child the attention they didn't even know they needed, strengthening the bond you can create with them. To discover more about your child's love language and get specific examples of what to do, check out my podcast/blog/video called How to Love A Teenager: The 5 Love Languages.
YouTube video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=10vqibwLmXE
Blog: https://theimpactfulparent.com/?p=6778
Why Is My Teenager Mean? Reason 5: Your bond is broken.
It happens to some families. Maybe the parents must work long hours to keep food on the table. Perhaps the personalities of you and your child don't mix. It doesn't matter WHY or HOW you got here, but maybe you don't have a bond with your child anymore. Your child may feel wronged or abandoned. This is a big cause for concern. Your child can develop mental health issues.
What to do: Stay silent, keep a journal tracking your child's behaviors, focus on creating a healthy relationship with your child, and get professional help.
Staying silent is also a good tactic when presented with any of the other 4 reasons your child is being mean. Staying silent is great because it doesn't take the bait for starting an argument or show how badly your child is bothering you. Now, I get it. Many parents think, "I can't just let my child talk to me like that," and I agree. There are consequences in my home for mistreating others. However, sometimes it's better to stay silent at the moment to not escalate the situation further and then revisit your response, consequences, and next steps when emotions are regulated.
Keep a journal of your child's outbursts. Can you spot patterns in their rage or rudeness. Journaling can be handy for finding answers and help.
And finally, focus on creating a new bond with your child. Get help to get started. The Impactful Parent app offers several suggestions for cultivating a relationship with your child again. I also do one on one coaching for families who want personal attention. I also recommend healthcare professionals who can work with you, your child, or the whole family to open up the lines of communication in your home again.
The bottom line is that teenagers are going through a lot. They want to be independent, but they also want to be loved. They feel misunderstood, angry and sad all at once. They don't know how to deal with big emotions, so they take it out on others instead (like you).
Pause the next time your child is being mean, and ask yourself, What Is Really Going On Here? Is this even about you, or maybe you're just the punching bag? Playing detective and discovering the WHY behind the behaviors is your Impactful Parent challenge. You can do this.
If this information was valuable for you today, BECOME a more impactful parent by downloading The Impactful Parent App. The Impactful Parent app is FREE and full of episodes like this one that will help you in your parenting journey. Investing in your family looks like learning the warning signs of certain behaviors so you can stop bad things before they start, discovering new parenting techniques to make your parenting more effective, and joining a community of like-minded parents that also want to be the best parent they can for their child. All this, plus so much more, can be found inside The Impactful Parent app, so download it today. You got nothing to lose with this free parenting resource. Go to theimpactfulparent.com and discover how you can step up your parenting game and be a more impactful parent.
But until next time, you got this, parents. I am just here to help.
Thursday Feb 02, 2023
Thursday Feb 02, 2023
Tips For Traveling With Neurodiverse Children
Do you have an anxious, inflexible, or neurodiverse child? Traveling can be challenging. Dawn Barclay, a travel writer, gives a sneak peek into her book Traveling Different: Vacation Strategies for Parents with Anxious, Inflexible, and the Neurodiverse by giving tips to parents in this Impactful Parent episode.
This is a great episode full of gold nuggets and handy tips! Discover how to travel with more ease and fun!
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Thursday Jan 26, 2023
Thursday Jan 26, 2023
How To Love A Teenager: The 5 Love Languages
How does your child want to be loved? If you can speak to your child's heart, then you can show your love for them in ways that are better received. Today's episode of the Impactful Parent explains what the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman are and how you can implement these languages in your home to cultivate a better relationship with your child.
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Transcript of How To Love A Teenager: The 5 Love Languages:
How To Love A Teenager.
Gary Chapman's 5 Love Languages is a great way to figure out how best to show your child you love them (no matter their age.)
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. I will tell you what they are and give you ideas for how to apply them to your child. There will be some great ideas for bringing more intentional efforts to show love in your household today, so let's get started!
Gary Chapman says that there are 5 ways that people show love and want to be loved. Most people will gravitate to 1 or 2 love languages. Still, they will also identify a little bit with all 5 love languages as well.
Knowing your love language and the love language of your loved ones is essential. This is how YOU, your spouse, and your kids perceive they are loved and how love is shown, too. Knowing the love languages of yourself and others will help strengthen your relationship. You will be able to communicate needs better, feel more appreciated, and make more intentional efforts to show love to each other.
Luckily, Gary Chapman also gives kids and adults a love language quiz to discover their love language preferences. You can find this quiz at https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language. The test is free.
Once you know your love language and that of your children, you will be able to intentionally speak that language, and your love will be better received.
Note: Don't take the test yourself and assume you already know the love language of your children. Instead, please have the child take the test too. Don’t make assumptions about anyone’s love language. Although many people tend to show love the way they want to receive love, we naturally have unfair biases if we assume. It is important to accurately assess everyone's love language in your household. Take the test.
The 5 Love languages by Gary Chapman
Words of Affirmation
If you are a person that loves unsolicited compliments and encouragement, then this could be your love language.
This child thrives on your approval and praise. Sometimes these kids are people pleasers and need you to acknowledge them, their efforts, and their victories. If you have a child with words of affirmation as their love language, here are some ideas for intentionally showing this child that you love them.
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- Ask your child if they are working toward anything. Do they have a goal? Perhaps they want an A on an exam or have a big project for school. Praising your child for their efforts and verbally encouraging them.
- Thank your child for their good behavior. Thank yous will go a long way with this kid.
- Display your child's good work and efforts in a visible place, like on a tack board or refrigerator.
- Praise your child for a job well done whenever possible.
- Brag to others about your child when you know the child is in earshot or will find out you were talking about them.
- Leave notes in their lunchbox or use sticky notes to leave your child notes of encouragement, inspiration, and praise around the house.
- If your child has a phone, text your child with words of encouragement.
- Tell your child that you love them.
Bottom line: "The pen (and the spoken word) is mightier than the sword. What you say matters, so focus on encouragement, acknowledgment, and articulating your love verbally.
Physical Touch
Someone touching you means a lot if you identify with this love language. Keep in mind that touch does not have to be sexual. Children have physical contact as their love language too.
This child will need hugs and kisses. But beyond hugs and kisses, how else can you show someone with a physical touch that you love them? Below are some ideas.
- A pat on the back when you are proud of your child.
- Holding hands when you walk together or are sitting close.
- Dance together. Take Ballroom dance lessons.
- Comb your child's hair for them.
- Run your hands through their hair when they are talking to you or trying to calm down.
- High fives for encouragement.
- Wrestle or play another contact sport together.
- Give your child a massage.
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Bottom line: This person loves it when you touch them in a caring and loving manner. If you are a parent that spanks or slaps your child, then I would encourage you to reconsider your form of discipline because negative touch can be especially detrimental to the child’s mental health and your relationship.
Quality Time
The people that resonate most with quality time need your undivided attention. They need a particular time to bond. These individuals want to feel cherished and prioritized. Spending meaningful time together is how they feel loved.
Remember that crafting quality time needs to be intentional and have some parameters. For example, No cell phones, No siblings, and No unwanted distractions. Typically, quality time is one-on-one with the person you love. The following examples are ways to cultivate this one-on-one, device-free, personal time with your children.
- Read a book together.
- Go for a walk in the park.
- Cook together.
- Go on a vacation or staycation.
- Do a fantastic one-on-one fun day.
- Start a new hobby together.
- Ask your child specific questions about their day that require them to give more than a yes or no answer.
- Do an activity your child chooses with them (even if you don't like it.)
Bottom Line: Quality time should be one-on-one with your child above all else. It can be easy to cultivate activities because it doesn't matter what you do as long as you are engaged and spending time together. The hard part is putting the phone down, putting work away, and making time away from everyone else in the family. Remember, no siblings.
Acts of Service
If your love language is acts of service, you feel the most loved when someone does something for you. The old saying, "actions speak louder than words," could not be more accurate than with a person whose love language are acts of service. Actions that go above and beyond, help these individuals feel your love towards them. Sometimes, acts of service are helpful. Sometimes, acts of service are thoughtful. Either way, this person will appreciate your intentional efforts to do something nice for them.
Here are some examples of things you can do to show your love to a child with acts of service as their love language.
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- If your child is interested in a new activity, help them explore classes to take or get them supplies they may need.
- If they are having a difficult time doing an activity, help them.
- Make a special breakfast for your child.
- Go with your child to do some community service activities together.
- If your child is running late for school, help them by making their lunch, warming up their car, emailing their teachers, or doing whatever you can to take something off their plate.
- If your child is stressed, make your child their favorite comfort food and think about what you can do to take something off their to-do list.
- When your child is sick, make them some special soup and put on their favorite movie.
- When your teenager is having a crisis, even if you know the situation is ridiculous, sit with your child and listen to them.
Bottom line: Be intentional about doing the extra stuff. Please pay attention to their needs, wants, and desires. Take that information and find a way to do something a little special for them. It doesn't have to be a big gesture. It must be a thoughtful gesture.
Gifts
This is the most misunderstood of the 5 love languages. People with this love language tend to show and receive love through gift-giving; however, the misconception is that the gift has to be expensive. This is not the case. You can't just give any gift to a person with the Gifting love language. The gift requires attention and empathy to mean something to the receiver. The meaning of the gift comes from the sentiment that the gift represents.
Also, many people think that individuals with a gifting love language are materialistic or shallow. This is also not necessarily the case. The meaningfulness of the gift will come from the gift’s sentiment, not the cost.
With this in mind, here are some things you can do to show love to a child with gifts as their love language.
- Sending flowers for no reason, only to say I love you.
- Buying your child their favorite snack and putting it in their lunchbox.
- Buying tickets to their favorite music artist, musical, or Anime event.
- Surprise donuts for breakfast.
- A note in your child's lunchbox or even a note mailed through the US postal office
- Gift your child with a photograph of a special moment.
- Give a handmade gift to show your child you care.
- Buy or create a special one-of-a-kind gift.
Bottom line: Your gift should be sentimental and unique in some way. Again, this isn't about the cost of the present but more about the meaning the gift represents.
Those are Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages and my personal examples of how to implement love languages into your home.
When you know your loved one's love language, you can speak to their heart in ways that you could not before. I challenge you to discover your child's love language. Intentionally show your child how much you care for them by speaking to them in ways that will be meaningful to them. You got this!
If this information was valuable for you today, BECOME a more impactful parent by downloading The Impactful Parent App. The Impactful Parent app is FREE and full of episodes like this one that will help you in your parenting journey. Investing in your family looks like learning the warning signs of certain behaviors so you can stop bad things before they start, discovering new parenting techniques to make your parenting more effective, and joining a community of like-minded parents that also want to be the best parent they can for their child. All this, plus so much more, can be found inside The Impactful Parent app, so download it today. You got nothing to lose with this free parenting resource. Go to theimpactfulparent.com and discover how to step up your parenting game and be more impactful.
But until next time, you got this, parents. I am just here to help.
Thursday Jan 19, 2023
Thursday Jan 19, 2023
Communication Delays and Concerns With Children
Communication delays and challenges in children are very common. So why isn't anyone talking about it?
Whether your child is having difficulty with speaking, pronunciation, formulating thoughts, sequencing, comprehension, or ANY other of the different parts of communication, then this video is for YOU!
Siris Rivas (speech therapist) and Kristina Campos (founder of the Impactful Parent) discuss HOW PARENTS CAN HELP AND SUPPORT THEIR CHILDREN WITH COMMUNICATION CHALLENGES.
💥Discover techniques to help your child.
💥Learn warning signs of communication delays
💥and find out the next steps for getting your child help in this awesome interview.
📖 FREE E-BOOK INCLUDED IN THIS EPISODE! Get it inside the Impactful Parent app! (Available in English and Spanish)
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Thursday Jan 12, 2023
Thursday Jan 12, 2023
From Whole To Shattered To Impactful
My candid interview with Rodrigo Bravo about my origin story and how the Impactful Parent came to be.
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Thursday Dec 29, 2022
Thursday Dec 29, 2022
My Child Is LGBTQ! How Do I Handle This?
When you're child comes out, it is a critical time to show your child love and support BUT this time can also be scary for parents!
This episode of the Impactful Parent was recorded on the Clubhouse App with parenting coaches Dali Rivera and Rodrigo Bravo.
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Wednesday Dec 28, 2022
Wednesday Dec 28, 2022
10 New Years Resolutions Every Parent Needs 2023 to cultivate a BETTER RELATIONSHIP WITH THEIR CHILDREN
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Transcript:
10 New Year's Resolutions Every Parent Needs 2023
Let's start off 2023 right! I got 10 New Year's Resolutions that EVERY parent needs to create better connections with their family and live a more balanced life.
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
Today, we are talking about Impactful New Year's resolutions. I have 10 fantastic ideas for creating a more meaningful relationship with your family and becoming a more impactful parent in 2023. Let's get these new habits started today!
10 New Years Resolutions Every Parent Needs 2023
- Reserve 1 hour of Your Family's Day as Device and Electronic Free.
I know many people are giving me eye rolls right now. I get it. An electronic free hour might seem impossible, and you may get some pushback from the kids, but I am sticking by this one. I suggest implementing this electronic free hour when it seems more natural, like during the dinner hour or the hour before bed. Ideally, no one should be looking at screens during either of those times anyway. Make your electronic free hour before bedtime. You'll also find that kids will fall asleep faster and sleep better because the blue light of screens keeps people awake.
- Block Out Quality One-On-Time With Your Children EVERYDAY For at Least 15 MINUTES.
This is tougher than it seems, but it is entirely worth it. Each child needs at least 15 minutes of their parent's undivided attention each day, regardless of age. These 15 minutes can be in the car, before bed, a meal, or just a quick check-in. What matters most is that you are consistent, give your child your full attention (no phones), and it is one-on-one time (no siblings allowed.) Consider rethinking how you spend time with your kids one-on-one. Let them call the shots for those 15 minutes. Let them pick the activity.
- Set a Time When Work MUST Be Put Away and Left For the Next Day.
Letting the workday drag on creates an environment of stress and disappointment for kids. They don't understand the responsibilities of adults, so instead, they view it as "work is more important than me." Not only is that bad, but you'll be setting healthy boundaries for your work-home life balance too. This can be wonderful for your own stress levels and mental health.
- Read With Your Child No Matter What Their Age.
If you have older kids, you can pick an audiobook to listen to whenever you're driving from one place to another. If you have younger children, choose a chapter book you can read TO THEM. There is something special about a parent reading aloud to their child, and most parents stop this tradition once their child knows how to read themselves. That's so sad! Sharing a book is special- even an audiobook. It gives you something to talk about with your child and something you'll find your children will look forward to each day if you keep it consistent and make it a priority.
- Start Eating Better- Even Make A Garden Together.
The goal I have for you is to limit the amount you eat fast food each week OR start a garden in your kitchen or backyard with your kids. How kids eat is greatly influenced by the example the parent sets. Let's face it, there aren't many kids out there cooking their own meals. They look to you for what they are supposed to eat. If you don't want to encourage chips and cookies as a daily snack- then stop buying the chips and cookies and leaving them in the house, OR you can buy a lock box and put all the "junk food" inside the lock box so only you can access the junk food box and monitor your child's intake. Gardening is also a great way to promote healthy eating, and gardening outside with your kids is fantastic for kids to ground themselves and explore nature and science together.
- Eat Dinner Together At Least Three Times A Week and Make 1 of Those Meals A Family Meeting.
I know families are busy with sports and all those extracurricular activities. However, there is still no replacement for the quality time of family meals. This is a time for the whole family to sit and regroup. Then, make one of those family meals an official family meeting. Family meetings put everyone on the same page. This is where everyone in the family will do 3 things:
- Announce their schedule for the week.
- Bring up concerns/problems for the family to discuss.
- Declare 1 thing they loved about the past week and 1 thing they look forward to in the coming week.
You will be surprised how beneficial family meetings and dinners can become!
- Exercise WITH Your Children at Least Once A Week.
Alright, I hope you exercise more than once a week, but either way- taking ONE of those workouts and making it a joint effort can do great things for your kids. Consider that workout can be swimming, hiking, a long walk, a game of tennis, and a variety of other activities! This workout time can also be considered one of your one-on-one times with your child if they choose the activity. Either way, you will promote exercise and movement, which is the most important here!
- Volunteer With Your Children At Least 2 Times This Year
Go to your local food bank, donate outgrown toys and clothes, shovel snow for the elderly neighbor, or help at a local soup kitchen… there are so many volunteer community service activities that your family can help with; you need to make an effort. Most kids will never do volunteer work alone, so you need to lead the charge here and demonstrate the importance of taking time out of our year to help the community. Some of the lessons your children will learn are incredibly valuable: gratitude, perspective, understanding, empathy, and a dedication to service.
- Make a Routine for Your Week and Stick With It.
A routine might be boring, but it is one of the most important things you can give your family. Routine creates predictability and security for children. Kids will complain less and thrive more when a consistent routine is in place. In addition, a routine will help you keep to your New Year's resolutions.
- Role model what you want to see.
Role modeling is entirely underestimated by parents. It is the single most powerful influence you have on your children. Kids will not listen to you if you don't walk the walk and talk the talk. If you don't exercise, eat all your meals on the go, never put down your phone or never volunteer in your community, your kids will likely mimic your behaviors in their own way. If you want your kids to pick up their clothes from the floor, you can't have a bedroom full of your clothes scattered all over the ground. They won't listen to you. But, the reverse is true also. If you role model the behaviors you want to see, your children are more likely to mimic those behaviors too.
Let's start off 2023 with new goals! You got this!
If this information was valuable for you today, BECOME a more impactful parent by downloading The Impactful Parent App. The Impactful Parent app is FREE and full of episodes like this one that will help you in your parenting journey. Investing in your family looks like learning the warning signs of certain behaviors so you can stop bad things before they start, discovering new parenting techniques to make your parenting more effective, and joining a community of like-minded parents that also want to be the best parent they can for their child. All this, plus so much more, can be found inside The Impactful Parent app, so download it today. You got nothing to lose with this free parenting resource. Go to theimpactfulparent.com and discover how you can step up your parenting game and be a more impactful parent.
But until next time, you got this, parents. I am just here to help.
Thursday Dec 22, 2022
Thursday Dec 22, 2022
Supporting Adolescents When Moving Homes
Moving homes is stressful for everyone but parents can make things a little easier on their adolescents if they follow the 3 tips given in this video! Jaquetta Slocomb, a former school psychologist, and now luxury real estate realtor, gives the audience 3 meaningful tips for making the transition between homes a better experience for teens.
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Thursday Dec 15, 2022
Thursday Dec 15, 2022
Do you parent out of LOVE❤️ or out of FEAR😨?
💥Discover the differences between parenting out of love and parenting out of fear. Most parents of teenagers tend to parent out of fear when they THINK they are parenting out of love. Do you? Learn how to parent MORE out of LOVE❤️ and you will also improve the relationship you have with your adolescents! 🙂🙂
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Transcript of Podcast: Do You Parent From Love or Fear?
My son wanted to go to a school party. One of those parties where I suspected there wasn't good (if any) adult supervision. He begged me to go. He insisted that I should trust him and that everything would be fine. On the other hand, I felt like letting him go to the party was likely a big mistake.
The best kind of parenting finds a balance between love and fear.
You see, we all make decisions based on ONE of two underlying emotions: Love or Fear.
This is true about any decision you make in your parenting, whether you are grocery shopping and debating whether to buy the chicken or the boxed pizza. It doesn't matter. All decisions come down to your own perceptions of how you feel about the choice. Are you acting out of love or fear?
When you make decisions and act out of love, your actions are giving, expansive, open, and honest.
When you make decisions and act out of fear, your actions take, tighten the grip, withhold information, and lie.
Love actions share, let go, and trust. Fear actions hide, squander, and attack.
Love decisions feel expansive and open. Fear decisions feel closed and restrictive.
For example, are you constantly telling your kids no? Are you hovering over your child all day, ensuring they don't fall, don't hurt themselves, or don't make a wrong choice? This is all fear-based parenting. Parenting that is scared to lose something. Parenting is scared to let go because our kids might make mistakes. Parenting is restrictive and can literally suffocate children under the parent's fears.
Parents work hard for everything they have. It takes a lot of effort to have a family, a house, food on the table, vacation time, money to buy braces, piano lessons, and a new wardrobe for your growing kids every year. Parents work so hard to build their homes and provide for their children that sometimes parents can tip the scales of balance and begin to parent more from a place of fear than love.
Yes, there is a time and place for fear-based parenting. Keeping our children safe is a priority. Boundaries and rules should be made to keep kids safe; however, when those rules go to an extreme and don't allow your child to make their own choices and learn to live life independently, you have gone too far in your fear-based parenting.
The goal is a balance somewhere in the middle. We want to hold our children close enough to rescue them from danger but not so tight that they feel they don't have any say in their own life.
When my son wanted to go to that school party, I had a pivotal decision to make. Do I say no because of my fears about what might happen at that party and my son's decision? Or do I say yes because I want my child to trust him? Both decisions originate from my great love for my child, but one is made out of my fears. The other decision is made from the trust for my son to grow from this experience and allow him to learn how to navigate peer pressure.
Let me give you another example. Should I buy the chicken that I know is healthier for my family, or should I buy the boxed pizza because I'm afraid I won't have time to cook sometime this week?
Examine your choices and ask yourself, Why Am I Making This Choice? Am I Afraid Of Something?
Usually, we are afraid. Most decisions are made out of fear. So if you find that you are a parent making lots of decisions based upon fear, then consider that you may want to parent a little bit more out of love.
Parenting teenagers can be especially fear-based; however, this is when moms and dads need to shift their parenting to be more love/fear balanced. From ages 15-18, it is the parent's grand opportunity to parent out of love more than fear. How do you ask? Arm your child with the tools they need to make the best decisions possible. Please give them the resources they need to make a difficult decision easy. Ask yourself, I wouldn't be afraid of my child doing XYZ if they knew _(a piece of knowledge)__ and if they had __(resource)__. For example, I wouldn't be afraid for my son to go to that party if I felt comfortable that he knew the consequences of drinking and driving AND had a secret way to get out of a bad situation by calling me with a code word.
Be aware of fear-based parenting. Be mindful of your fears and do your best to confront them head-on by arming your child with the things they need to know, or have so they can prove to you that they can do it. You will be giving your child the gift of growth and trust.
If this information was valuable for you today, BECOME a more impactful parent by downloading The Impactful Parent App. The Impactful Parent app is FREE and full of episodes like this one that will help you in your parenting journey. Investing in your family looks like learning the warning signs of certain behaviors so you can stop bad things before they start, discovering new parenting techniques to make your parenting more effective, and joining a community of like-minded parents that also want to be the best parent they can for their child. All of this, plus so much more, can be found inside The Impactful Parent app, so download it today. You got nothing to lose with this free parenting resource. Go to theimpactfulparent.com and discover how you can step up your parenting game and be a more impactful parent.
But until next time, you got this, parents. I am just here to help.
Thursday Dec 01, 2022
Thursday Dec 01, 2022
Athlete Abuse: (Child and student-athlete emotional, physical, and sexual abuse)
Dr. Amy Saltzman talks to parents about keeping their kids safe on and off the athletic field. Unfortunately, emotional, physical, and sexual abuse have become too common with our young people on athletic teams. Dr. Saltman, an ex-gymnast herself, provides parents with www.spotaspider.com which teaches kids and adults how to spot the warning signs and how to keep children safe from abuse.
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