Parenting Stories, Struggles and Strategies for Moms and Dads of School-aged Children, Teenagers, and Impactful Parents

176: Yes Your Child Can! An Interview With The Author

Yes! Your Child Can! An Interview With The Author

Do you have a child with LEARNING DIFFERENCES?  Then this episode is for YOU!

I had the privilege of talking with Dr. Victoria Waller about her book, Yes! Your Child Can.  

Help and hope for parents of children with learning differences.

Every child can succeed in school and life, but some children need more help than others. For over 40 years, internationally acclaimed reading specialist and student advocate Dr. Victoria E. Waller has helped children who have trouble reading, who can't sit still in class, who don't feel like they can participate—children whom teachers have all but given up on. In Yes! Your Child Can, Dr. Waller shares with parents, teachers, and therapists her proven techniques to create success for children with learning differences and draw out the singular genius within your child.

In compassionate, nontechnical, easy-to-understand language, Yes! Your Child Can gives step-by-step guidance on how to help your child achieve in school and build lifelong intellectual confidence. Drawing on the latest science and her own wide-ranging experience, Dr. Waller explains why it's important to pay attention to your first gut feeling that your child may need extra help and shows how to navigate testing, medication, and choosing a team to help your child.

Most importantly, Yes! Your Child Can shows you how to use your child's natural strengths and passions to build their academic, social, and personal confidence. Dr. Waller empowers parents to let their children follow their own interests, whether that's learning about sharks, reading to the dog, or building with Legos and writing about their creations. With Dr. Waller's help, learning can be motivating and fun. Dr. Waller's techniques are smart, caring, and effective with any child, no matter their current or past educational difficulties.

Respectful, compassionate, and offering real help, Yes! Your Child Can is the first book every parent of a child with learning differences should read.

Her book is available on Amazon and where books are sold. 

 

175: Talking to Teens About Sexting

Talking to Teens About Sexting

This conversation might be uncomfortable, BUT PARENTS NEED TO DO IT! This video helps parents prepare for the "No Sexting" conversation. I give you 5 reasons your child may think sexting is ok, questions for starting the conversation, reasons why this conversation is so important, and tips to get the job done! You can do it! This video will help.

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Transcript of Talking to Teens About Sexting

What the heck is this!?!? Wow. Oh no, I am blushing. Hopefully, you will never have to read your child's sexting messages, but if you do, good luck burning those images off your brain.

Sexting is sending sexually explicit words, photos, or video messages on an electronic device. This is a popular way for adolescents to explore sexuality, flirtation, and romantic socialization. Yes, your child too.

A study published in JAMA Pediatrics showed that:

• At least 1 in 4 teens are receiving sexually explicit texts and emails
• At least 1 in 7 are sending the sexting messages
• More than 1 in 10 teens are forwarding sexting messages without consent

Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous. 

Today's episode is about adolescent sexting. I will tell you 5 common misconceptions teens have about sexting, why you need to talk to them about the dangers of sexting and stick around to the end because I will also give parents 4 tips for having this important conversation. Let's get started!

This needs to be a separate conversation from the sex talk with your teenager. In fact, I would have this conversation the minute you know your child understands what sex is and has an electronic device available to them as a way to communicate with others.

Not all adolescents have a brain developed enough to internalize the consequences of sexting, so adolescents may rationalize why sexting is ok. I feel it's important for parents to understand the frame of mind their child might be in when you have this "No Sexting Conversation." By understanding the child's baseline knowledge and beliefs on the subject, the parent can troubleshoot and address some of the child's misbeliefs.

Here are 5 reasons your child feels like sexting is ok and why they do it.

1. Many teens think everyone is doing it. Of course, this isn't true, but they may not be wrong that many teens experiment with this. I think it's good for parents to understand the peer pressure your child might feel to play along with a potential love interest. Having said that, teaching kids to not follow the crowd and watch out for their safety is also important. Parents hearing this episode today can relay the dangers of sexting over to their teens is one important step toward teaching that personal safety.
2. Adolescents have a difficult time comprehending the notion of digital permanency. The teen brain learns much better by doing and experiences than by theories and explanations. So if they delete a message or it vanishes automatically through the app, and the teen can't find it, the teenager thinks it's gone. Unfortunately, that is not the case.
3. Many adolescents believe their message, photo, or video is safe with the recipient. The child simply trusts the person receiving their message and thinks they would NEVER be so cruel to share their photo. This belief we know to be untrue because statistics tell us that 1 in 10 kids will forward a sexting message to others without the consent of the sender. Your child's trust for the recipient of their messages also leads to a belief that 'No one will ever know I sent a photo/video.'
4. Many adolescents believe that sexing is safer than having real sex. This belief is misleading because statistics show that teens participating in sexting are more likely to be physical with their partners sooner than those who don't. Another danger of this belief is that adolescents will use it to justify a compromise with their partner. One lover will want to be physical, and the other doesn't, so the compromise is sexting.
5. Adolescents can't fathom the consequences. Their brain isn't developed, but don't let their frontal cortex be their excuse either. Yes, teens are wired to act more up their emotions than their logical brains. Still, parents must instill these consequences in their children and keep reminding them. Consequences like: Being suspended from school, damaged reputation, humiliation, bullying, blackmail, suspension from athletic teams or other clubs at school, being charged with a felony, losing their job, images going viral, and the list goes on.

The potential dangers of sexting might be obvious to the adult. Still, the average teen doesn't seem to internalize the consequences. Many teens feel like it just won't happen to them.

So now that we established the frame of mind, your child might be in when you have the sexting conversation and some of the consequences of sexting, let's talk about one of the most important consequences of sexting your teenager. You absolutely need to know: The LAW.

Under federal law, it is illegal for a child to send or receive images of sexting. Some states also have laws classifying sexting with a minor as child pornography regardless if the messages were sent and received with consent. Your child can be charged with creating, possessing, or distributing child porn. This is another reason why talking to children about the risks versus gains of sexting is so important. 

4 Tips for Talking to Adolescents about Sexting:

• Start the conversation with questions. The mistake that most parents make is lecturing. They walk into a child's room and start to talk about the dangers, but their words become lectures because they are the ones doing all the talking. You don't want to do that. Adolescents are more likely to hear you when you LISTEN TO THEM FIRST. That means starting off the conversation with some questions like,
  1. What do you know about sexting?
  2. Have you ever had a sexting message sent to you?
  3. How did that make you feel?
  4. Are all your friends doing this? Is this popular in your school?
  5. Why do you think kids are doing this?
  6. How do you feel about sexting? Is it innocent, or is it dangerous?"

The answers to these questions are important for a parent to know. They will break the ice and guide the rest of the conversation, so you know what kind of myths you need to debunk and what important information you need to instill.

• Drive into your child's brain the following points:
  1. Never take a picture or video of yourself without any clothes and send it.
  2. Never KEEP a sexual picture or video of someone else. Some states even consider possessing such photos as child pornography, even if the photo was given with consent. However, tell your child to keep text messages for proof of consent.
  3. Never share sexual images of another person. Period.
• Tell your child they should come to you for help if they are ever pressured to do sexting, feel uncomfortable about a text message, or need help. Tell your child they won't be in trouble.
• Keep asking more questions. If you let your child lead the conversation, your influence will be more impactful. It may seem counter-intuitive but allowing your child to do most of the talking will allow them to internalize the conversation more than if you are talking at them. You will need to keep the conversation going by asking more questions and leading your child to say the answers aloud. For example, you may want to ask:
  1. What do you know about sextortion?
  2. What makes you confident that your friends can be trusted with something sacred?
  3. How can you protect yourself from the consequences?
  4. Do you know other people that had their photos spread around the school?
  5. How might a sexting conversation go wrong?
  6. What will you do if you ever get a sexting photo?
  7. What do you think will happen if you don't sext message back?

You might know the answers to these questions but giving your child the opportunity to speak the answers aloud instead of you lecturing will increase your chances of a successful conversation.

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 But until next time, you got this, parents. I am just here to help.

 

174: Overcoming Hardship To Be A Better Parent

Overcoming Hardship To Be A Better Parent

Lisa Michelle Zega tells her story of resiliency and learning. Lisa talks about healing grief (the loss of a person or failed expectation) to live presently in your life and with your loved ones.

 

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173: How Online Predators Bait Children

How Online Predators Bait Children

💻🎣6 WAYS online predators bait and attack your child online and 10 simple things parents can do to help keep their child safe.

😱Stolen private information, blackmail, damaged reputation, credit card compromised,... Online predators CAN and WILL attack your child if they are given the chance.

📲Parents need to know HOW predators are baiting children so they can properly make their online rules and teach their children steps to safety.

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How Online Predators Bait Children Transcript:

How are my kids getting scammed?!?!

"What, Mom? I didn't know," says the kids.

Extra charges on the bill, suspicious emails, photos of half-naked young people, the credit card being compromised, the computer has a virus or is hacked, crying teenagers, damaged reputations… HOW DOES THIS HAPPEN?

Today I will tell you HOW your child is getting scammed online right now, and they don't even know it.

Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.

Today, I will talk to you about the most common online dangers. I will explain the tactics these bad-intentioned people are using to victimize your child because these manipulative and sneaky tactics are completely unexpected by the average teen. Then stick around to the end because I will also give you steps for keeping your child as safe as possible! Let's get started!

Online poses many dangers and exposure to things our kids shouldn't see. I have broken down most of the online dangers into 5 categories:

1. Cyberbullying
2. Damaged reputations
3. Sexual Predators
4. Exposure to sexual content
5. Private information compromised

Most parents are aware of these dangers, but it is also important for parents to know HOW kids are getting compromised so that you can set parental controls, and rules, teach children the dangers, and know what to look out for as a red flag. In my opinion, it is NOT wise to cross my fingers and hope that a predator won’t find my kid. Instead, impactful parents are proactive about avoiding dangers. So, let's talk about HOW online predators are baiting children to get them to do what they want.

How Online Predators Bait Children #1: They pose as a child your child's age or a little bit older.

              Whenever we meet someone new online, we have no idea who is on the other side. These people are lying to your children because it's easy, and they can. Your child is vulnerable because kids feel invincible and trust too easily. The perpetrator will start off slow and manipulate your child by gaining trust before they start to ask anything that would set off a red flag. However, with time your child trusts the relationship more and more. Predators will send fake or real nude photos and ask for photos back. They may pressure your child to engage in cyber sex and secretly record the conversation. The perpetrator may use photos and conversations that your child has given to blackmail your child into sending money, more images, or to meet the perpetrator for sexual acts.

The scariest thing about a stranger posing as a young person to manipulate children is that many of the perpetrators acquire the sexual images by deceit or even without the victim's consent. That means that your child doesn't even realize they are being used and being victimized.

Another important fact is that most sex exploitation threats come from people your child already knows. That means don't take comfort in thinking your child is safe if they only talk to people they know online. The danger for strangers versus familiars is the same.

How Online Predators Bait Children #2: They get your child to click on a link.

              Phishing is when an attacker sends a fraudulent email, text, or direct message to trick a person into giving out their personal information or to deploy malicious software on the victim's electronic device. Your kid doesn't have to be dumb, naïve, or clueless to fall for this. In fact, many people fall victim to phishing tactics because these manipulative messages look legit. It might appear that the message came from a friend even though it did not. The attacker will pose as someone you know. The messages themselves are very professional looking, may have logos, or have manipulative language that says things like, "I think you're in this video!" These emails or messages have wording that sparks kids' attention and activates their emotions such as fear, excitement, and wonder. Since kids act upon their emotions more easily than their logic, many children don't think twice before clicking on the link that will send them to a legitimate-looking login page requesting their information or a dummy site that allows hackers access to their electronic device.

How Online Predators Bait Children #3: They promise gifts.

              This tactic is used by sexual offenders, cyberbullies, and even big corporations. Your child will get an email, text, or social media message offering them free products or services. Maybe they bait your child with free music downloads, discounts on their favorite purchases, free porn, something to level up their game, … whatever they think your child would like. The predators will ask your child to click a link or give their personal information to retrieve their free gift. The malware the predator installs when your child clicks can steal files, track their actions, access their device camera, and take their personal information. The result is personal information stolen or a hacked electronic device.

Another thing to consider is how social media manipulates your child’s personal information as well. To sign up for social media accounts, you must give basic personal information. From there, most social media companies will put products your child might like into their social feed and lure them into clicking on their interests. Once your child clicks, the social media companies will track how often your child pauses, clicks, and scrolls. This information is extremely valuable, and companies will sell this information to advertisers who pay for the chance to get in front of your child's eyes. All these companies want your child to stay on their device indefinitely and will purposefully create content and algorithms that spark social media addiction. These companies are targeting your child purposefully for their own gain, and some of the content they are putting in front of your child is inappropriate.

How Online Predators Bait Children #4: They will claim to have hacked you.

Could it be true? Yes. Suppose your child has already given them personal information and have clicked a link. In that case, the threat might be real, but other predators just pretend to have hacked the child's computer or phone to blackmail the child for money, sexual photos, threats, or whatever the perpetrator might want. Sometimes it's difficult to tell if the predator is lying or telling the truth because they have already gotten enough personal information from your child to get a password. Then perpetrators use the password as evidence of their hacking threat. The predator uses the hacking lie to pressure your child into doing things they shouldn't.

How Online Predators Bait Children #5: They claim to be a modeling agency.

              This tactic works more often than you might think. Many kids dream of fame, the opportunity to be a model, money, acceptance, and teens especially love to hear they are beautiful because deep down inside, they are very insecure. The perpetrator might ask for more photos from your child to build a modeling portfolio. They will flood your child with compliments and empty promises. In the end, your child might give the predator revealing photos, or the predator may edit innocent photos to make them sexually explicit. 

How Online Predators Bait Children #6: They take the first step and hope your child will follow their lead.

              This tactic is very popular among predators, hackers, and cyberbullies. The perpetrator will encourage your child to reciprocate an act. This tactic is oddly effective because the perpetrator gains your child's trust by doing the act first. For example, a perpetrator may send a semi-nude photo over to your child and ask for one in return. (I will show you mine if you show me yours.) The perpetrators' requests usually start small and innocent. When there are no repercussions from the first act, the perpetrator makes the next request. Your child might be getting groomed for dangerous and illegal acts, and they don't even realize it because the progression seems innocent.

Remember that this tactic is often used between boyfriends and girlfriends in relationships too. "I will show you mine if you show me yours" is a common way to flirt and explore sexuality for kids. But what happens when the relationship has ended?

 

How can parents prevent their children from becoming a target?

1. First of all, stop asking, "What age is the best time to give my child a phone?"

It isn't about the age of your child that tells you about the readiness for your child to have a small computer in their pocket. Instead, look at the child's maturity and when YOU, the parent, are ready to start monitoring and teaching your child about the online world.

I know 9-year-olds that can handle the responsibility of phones and 16-year-olds that can't. You must gauge your child's maturity to follow the rules and make good choices. The first mistake many parents make is exposing their children to the online world before the child, or the parent is ready.

2. Teach children to never send nude or sexy images/videos to ANYONE.
3. Teach children the red flags of clicking and putting their email or personal information into a website, app, or landing page.
4. Teach children to be suspicious of any link that asks them to just click here.
5. Teach children to bring any suspicious activity or messages to you or another trusted adult for help. Parents can look at the website and help kids determine if the links are safe or a scam.
6. Teach children to screenshot and save anything that feels off. Tell your child to trust their gut and NOT to delete. Suppose blackmailing or cyber bullying occurs in the future. In that case, you and your child will be grateful that they didn't delete the evidence.
7. Encourage your child to make all their social media accounts private.
8. Use parental controls and monitoring tools to help filter inappropriate content, unsafe websites, malware links, and other destructive content.
9. Teach kids that nothing is free. Encourage kids to ask themselves, "What do they really want from me?" Not everyone is a scammer, but it's important to teach kids to be cautious. Many kids are simply too naïve. They either think they are invincible, "this won't happen to me," or they don't see the danger. We want to encourage our children to ask questions, be observant, and figure out the angle.
10. Give your child a phone that doesn't have social media or internet access. I recommend the Gabb Wireless phone and watches. These devices look like a smartphone but without the dangers of online strangers. I have Gabb Wireless devices for my own children. If you want to know more, check out gabbwireless.com/promo/IMPACTFULPARENT, and the best part is- that link will also give you a discount code if you decide to get one for your own kiddo too.

 

I hope this episode brought you value. Keep your child safe by talking to your child about what was said today. I make my kids hear this lecture too.

"Give me back my phone," my child will scream, but I won't give it back until they hear me out.

Of course, this lecture comes with a price of lots of moans and groans and "I know this! Don't worry. Not me, Mom! I got this." But the truth of the matter is- Impactful Parents tell their kids the facts and educate their children so that the child can make better choices. And yes, most of the time, that "telling" is through the weeds of crossed arms and eye rolls, but I sleep better at night knowing I did my best to educate my children and keep them safe.

If this information was valuable for you today, BECOME a more impactful parent by downloading The Impactful Parent App. The Impactful Parent app is FREE and full of episodes like this one that will help you in your parenting journey. Investing in your family looks like learning the warning signs of certain behaviors so you can stop bad things before they start, discovering new parenting techniques to make your parenting more effective, and joining a community of like-minded parents that also want to be the best parent they can for their child. All this, plus so much more, can be found inside The Impactful Parent app, so download it today. You got nothing to lose with this free parenting resource. Go to theimpactfulparent.com and discover how you can step up your parenting game and be a more impactful parent.

 But until next time, you got this, parents. I am just here to help.

172: Teaching Kids To Live Authentically

Teaching Kids To Live Authentically

Karsta Hurd talks about her personal experience of living an unauthentic life. Like many, Karsta spent many years living up to the expectations of society, her family, and how she was taught things were suppose to be. Eventually, Karsta found freedom when she started living in a way that was fulfilling to her. Today, Karsta helps others find their authentic self and coaches them to live a life that will make them happy.

 

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171: Red Pill or Blue Pill: Pill Culture Explained

Red Pill Or Blue Pill: Pill Culture Explained

Episode 3 of 3 in the series: How Do We Stop Gun Violence And School Shootings?

This is a replay of a LIVE Chat rooms on Clubhouse. Clubhouse is an auto app where I host a parenting room each Friday at 12pm EST.

Rodrigo Bravo (certified mediator), Dali Rivera (bully prevention coach), and myself, decided to host a 3 part series of discussions to bring awareness and prevention to gun violence and school shootings. This series was inspired by the unfortunate events in Uvalde, Texas on May 24, 2022 where an 18 years old boy fatally shot nineteen students and two teachers at Robb Elementary School.

If you want to join me on Clubhouse, you can! Download the Clubhouse app and search for me @impactfulparent. The app is free and so are the discussions I hold. You are welcome to come and join the next conversation!

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170: Loner, Introvert, Or Warning Sign?

Loner, Introvert, or Warning Sign?

Episode 2 of 3 in the series: How Do We Stop Gun Violence And School Shootings?

This is a replay of a LIVE Chat rooms on Clubhouse. Clubhouse is an auto app where I host a parenting room each Friday at 12pm EST.

Rodrigo Bravo (certified mediator), Dali Rivera (bully prevention coach), and myself, decided to host a 3 part series of discussions to bring awareness and prevention to gun violence and school shootings. This series was inspired by the unfortunate events in Uvalde, Texas on May 24, 2022 where an 18 years old boy fatally shot nineteen students and two teachers at Robb Elementary School.

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169: Warning Signs Of Troubled Teens

Warning Signs Of Troubled Teens

Episode 1 of 3 in the series: How Do We Stop Gun Violence And School Shootings?

This is a replay of a LIVE Chat rooms on Clubhouse. Clubhouse is an auto app where I host a parenting room each Friday at 12pm EST.

Rodrigo Bravo (certified mediator), Dali Rivera (bully prevention coach), and myself, decided to host a 3 part series of discussions to bring awareness and prevention to gun violence and school shootings. This series was inspired by the unfortunate events in Uvalde, Texas on May 24, 2022 where an 18 years old boy fatally shot nineteen students and two teachers at Robb Elementary School.

If you want to join me on Clubhouse, you can! Download the Clubhouse app and search for me @impactfulparent. The app is free and so are the discussions I hold. You are welcome to come and join the next conversation!

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168: Why Children Need To Be Outside

Why Children Need To Be Outside

Sandi Schwartz gives 5 reasons why parents need to encourage their children to get outside! Sandi also gives parents tips for encouraging kids to be outdoors and even gives a FREE PDF Calendar that provides parents daily ideas for outdoor engagement.

Sandi Schwartz is the founder of Ecohappiness Project, author of Finding Ecohappiness: Fun Nature Activities to Help Your Kids Feel Happier and Calmer, and co-author of Sky's Search for Ecohappiness.

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Podcast Summary of Why Children Need To Be Outside

Sandi Schwartz gives 5 reasons why parents need to encourage their children to get outside! Sandi also gives parents tips for encouraging kids to be outdoors and even gives a FREE PDF Calendar that provides parents daily ideas for outdoor engagement.

 

About Sandi: Sandi Schwartz is the founder of Ecohappiness Project, author of Finding Ecohappiness: Fun Nature Activities to Help Your Kids Feel Happier and Calmer, and co-author of Sky's Search for Ecohappiness.

 

5 Reasons Why Children Need To Be Outside

1. Getting kids off screens. 
2. Improving physical health
3. Improving mental health
4. Boosting academic performance
5. Better sleep

Sandi also discusses ways that parents can encourage their children to get outside when they are resisting. She even provides the audience with 2 free resources. Watch the episode and get your free parenting resources today! 

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167: What is inside that VAPE PEN: nicotine or marijuana?

What is inside that VAPE PEN: nicotine or marijuana?

Kristina Campos, the founder of The Impactful Parent, talks to parents about the popularity of adolescents vaping.... but do you know what is inside that vape pen? It could be nicotine. It could be marijuana. This episode talks about the vape pen, why you don't want your childing vaping any substance, and what parents can do to encourage kids to make a better choice.

 

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Podcast Transcript: What is inside that VAPE PEN: nicotine or marijuana?

Is this nicotine, or is this marijuana? Many parents don't know. You're not alone. They look the same. They smell similar.

As if having a teenager wasn't stressful enough, gone are the days when parents used to primarily worry about their teen drinking and smoking cigarettes. Now, there are more concerns. Vaping and marijuana use are very popular, and if you are thinking, "Not my kid," you need to pull your head out of the sand.

Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous. 

Today, I will talk to you about vaping and marijuana. I will explain why YOU need to get educated on this subject, how you can tell if your child is partaking in these substances and stick around to the end because I will also give you tips for preventing and stopping your teenager from using them. Let's get started!

Vaping is nicotine consumption. Marijuana is a drug. Why am I grouping these two substances together if they are two completely different things? For 2 reasons. The first is that both substances are extremely popular among our young people. Second, from the outside, they look the same. The smoking cartridges of nicotine and marijuana appear the same from the outside, so if you find one of these devices in your house, you won't know what's inside unless you smoke it yourself or have enough knowledge to open up the cartridge and understand the differences. Here are some of the most common types of vape pens you might find.

One of the most common questions I get from parents is, "Why is my child doing this?" Aside from peer pressure, there is a popular misconception among young people that these substances will not hurt them. This couldn't be farther from the truth. Kids also love vape pens (whether nicotine or marijuana inside) because when you smoke them, they taste sweet and smell nice. Additives are put inside the smoking devices resulting in a more pleasurable experience. Marijuana and cigarettes don't smell stinky anymore. Now they smell and taste like bubble gum, grape, and various flavors. Children think, how can anything so nice be harmful? Couple this with the tobacco industry spending billions and billions of dollars annually to market their products to your child. It is no surprise that kids love vaporizing pens.

But let's get out of la-la land and into reality. You don't want your child consuming nicotine or marijuana, especially today, because these are not the same "cigarettes and weed" of our day. They are much more potent, and that means much more dangerous. So, if you're a parent thinking, "I know it's bad, but we all did it when we were younger. I smoked cigarettes, and I smoked a bowl here and there when I was young, and I turned out ok." You need to understand that the substances of today are not like what you were smoking when you were a kid. One cartridge of nicotine in a vape pen is equivalent to 13-30 traditional cigarettes. That means that vaping nicotine is much more addictive. Marijuana has also evolved into a potent drug. Sure, kids can still smoke the flower, but now there are so many other options.

Marijuana edibles can easily be overdosed and make you sick because their effects don't hit you immediately. This means, many kids take one. When they don't feel anything after an hour, they take another. Before you know it, they are so high they can't walk and throw up. Or another way to consume marijuana is through concentrates. Concentrates are found in vape pens and in a smoking method called dabbing. Concentrates have an extreme amount of THC content. For example, a top-shelf flower that you may have smoked from a bowl, bong, or pipe has about 20% THC. Dabbing and vape pens have 40-80% THC concentrations. This means you can get much higher in one hit and also get the negative effects of the drug more easily.

The next common question I get from parents is, "How can I tell if my teen is using these substances?" Aside from finding the physical evidence of vape pens, pipes and lighters, I tell parents that they need to know their children well and notice behaviors when they start to change. Unfortunately, the most common signs of drug use are signs of normal teenage behavior, but drug use signals are amplified. Most teens will go through a phase of mood swings, agitation, and impulsivity, but drug use will make these warning signs more apparent. Don't dismiss these behaviors as "normal" unless they are subtle, few, and far between. I suggest airing on the side of caution, not dismissal. This is why a good relationship with your adolescent is critical to catch early warning signs. You need to know your teen well and be on the alert.

In addition, you can be aware of changes in your child's behaviors such as carelessness with grooming, changes in grades, skipping school, losing interest in favorite activities, and changes in eating and sleeping habits. Look out for relationship problems with family and friends also. Suppose your child has recently smoked marijuana and is trying to come down from their high when you see them. In that case, you may be able to spot their bloodshot eyes and have a smell of sweet fragrance on their clothes. Your child may appear dizzy or uncoordinated. They may seem silly and giggly for no reason and have difficulty remembering things that just happened.

Many kids who try to cover up vaping nicotine or marijuana use incense and other deodorizers to mask the smell of their vape pen. They could also be buying eye drops for their backpack and medicine cabinet. Look out for these items and start taking notice. One easy sign many parents miss is the child wearing graphic tees promoting drugs.

Lastly, let's talk about prevention. It isn't easy, but it is the most important thing you can do. Here are 5 steps parents can take to prevent their child from vaping marijuana or nicotine.

1. Be a good role model. Your child will never listen to you if you smoke or don't walk the walk yourself. They just won't. Kids are watching and learning more by what you do than by what you say.
2. Talk about the risks of partaking in vaping any substance. Don't just leave this conversation to the schools. You must have this conversation yourself, even if they roll their eyes and count down the seconds until you're done with your spill. Tell them how marijuana actually reduces their cognitive function PERMENTANTLY because their brain is still developing, and smoking kills brain cells. Tell them how 1 in 6 teens will develop a substance use disorder. Discuss the statistics that show that adolescents who use weed are more likely to try other risky drugs and have risky behaviors that can ruin their life.
3. Talk to your child about the myths about vaping. Discuss how marijuana and nicotine are addictive and harmful to their health. Just because marijuana is a plant and perhaps even considered 'natural' doesn't mean it can't harm them. Discuss how not everyone is using these substances even though they may feel like it. And dispel any other false beliefs they might have.
4. Have these conversations at least once a year. Don't talk about it once and think you did your due diligence. Revisit these topics every year or when the need arises.
5. Roleplay and discuss ways your child can say no when facing peer pressure. Help them think of good 'one-liners' that will get them out of a situation they don't feel comfortable with, and then rehearse these lines often. Also, practice talking with body language by rehearsing those excuses with a confident posture and strong voice infliction. Consider talking about what will happen if they make a wrong choice and find themselves in a compromised state. What should they do? Who should they call? Where should they go?

Many teenagers will experiment and do what they are going to do. Still, suppose you can arm them with the right information and the ability to make a better choice more easily. In that case, you are increasing their chances for success.

If this information was valuable for you today, BECOME a more impactful parent by downloading The Impactful Parent App. The Impactful Parent app is FREE and full of episodes like this one that will help you in your parenting journey. Investing in your family looks like learning the warning signs of certain behaviors so you can stop bad things before they start, discovering new parenting techniques to make your parenting more effective, and joining a community of like-minded parents that also want to be the best parent they can for their child. All this, plus so much more, can be found inside The Impactful Parent app, so download it today. You got nothing to lose with this free parenting resource. Go to theimpactfulparent.com and discover how you can step up your parenting game and be a more impactful parent.

 But until next time, you got this, parents. I am just here to help.