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Wednesday Dec 28, 2022
Wednesday Dec 28, 2022
10 New Years Resolutions Every Parent Needs 2023 to cultivate a BETTER RELATIONSHIP WITH THEIR CHILDREN
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Transcript:
10 New Year's Resolutions Every Parent Needs 2023
Let's start off 2023 right! I got 10 New Year's Resolutions that EVERY parent needs to create better connections with their family and live a more balanced life.
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
Today, we are talking about Impactful New Year's resolutions. I have 10 fantastic ideas for creating a more meaningful relationship with your family and becoming a more impactful parent in 2023. Let's get these new habits started today!
10 New Years Resolutions Every Parent Needs 2023
- Reserve 1 hour of Your Family's Day as Device and Electronic Free.
I know many people are giving me eye rolls right now. I get it. An electronic free hour might seem impossible, and you may get some pushback from the kids, but I am sticking by this one. I suggest implementing this electronic free hour when it seems more natural, like during the dinner hour or the hour before bed. Ideally, no one should be looking at screens during either of those times anyway. Make your electronic free hour before bedtime. You'll also find that kids will fall asleep faster and sleep better because the blue light of screens keeps people awake.
- Block Out Quality One-On-Time With Your Children EVERYDAY For at Least 15 MINUTES.
This is tougher than it seems, but it is entirely worth it. Each child needs at least 15 minutes of their parent's undivided attention each day, regardless of age. These 15 minutes can be in the car, before bed, a meal, or just a quick check-in. What matters most is that you are consistent, give your child your full attention (no phones), and it is one-on-one time (no siblings allowed.) Consider rethinking how you spend time with your kids one-on-one. Let them call the shots for those 15 minutes. Let them pick the activity.
- Set a Time When Work MUST Be Put Away and Left For the Next Day.
Letting the workday drag on creates an environment of stress and disappointment for kids. They don't understand the responsibilities of adults, so instead, they view it as "work is more important than me." Not only is that bad, but you'll be setting healthy boundaries for your work-home life balance too. This can be wonderful for your own stress levels and mental health.
- Read With Your Child No Matter What Their Age.
If you have older kids, you can pick an audiobook to listen to whenever you're driving from one place to another. If you have younger children, choose a chapter book you can read TO THEM. There is something special about a parent reading aloud to their child, and most parents stop this tradition once their child knows how to read themselves. That's so sad! Sharing a book is special- even an audiobook. It gives you something to talk about with your child and something you'll find your children will look forward to each day if you keep it consistent and make it a priority.
- Start Eating Better- Even Make A Garden Together.
The goal I have for you is to limit the amount you eat fast food each week OR start a garden in your kitchen or backyard with your kids. How kids eat is greatly influenced by the example the parent sets. Let's face it, there aren't many kids out there cooking their own meals. They look to you for what they are supposed to eat. If you don't want to encourage chips and cookies as a daily snack- then stop buying the chips and cookies and leaving them in the house, OR you can buy a lock box and put all the "junk food" inside the lock box so only you can access the junk food box and monitor your child's intake. Gardening is also a great way to promote healthy eating, and gardening outside with your kids is fantastic for kids to ground themselves and explore nature and science together.
- Eat Dinner Together At Least Three Times A Week and Make 1 of Those Meals A Family Meeting.
I know families are busy with sports and all those extracurricular activities. However, there is still no replacement for the quality time of family meals. This is a time for the whole family to sit and regroup. Then, make one of those family meals an official family meeting. Family meetings put everyone on the same page. This is where everyone in the family will do 3 things:
- Announce their schedule for the week.
- Bring up concerns/problems for the family to discuss.
- Declare 1 thing they loved about the past week and 1 thing they look forward to in the coming week.
You will be surprised how beneficial family meetings and dinners can become!
- Exercise WITH Your Children at Least Once A Week.
Alright, I hope you exercise more than once a week, but either way- taking ONE of those workouts and making it a joint effort can do great things for your kids. Consider that workout can be swimming, hiking, a long walk, a game of tennis, and a variety of other activities! This workout time can also be considered one of your one-on-one times with your child if they choose the activity. Either way, you will promote exercise and movement, which is the most important here!
- Volunteer With Your Children At Least 2 Times This Year
Go to your local food bank, donate outgrown toys and clothes, shovel snow for the elderly neighbor, or help at a local soup kitchen… there are so many volunteer community service activities that your family can help with; you need to make an effort. Most kids will never do volunteer work alone, so you need to lead the charge here and demonstrate the importance of taking time out of our year to help the community. Some of the lessons your children will learn are incredibly valuable: gratitude, perspective, understanding, empathy, and a dedication to service.
- Make a Routine for Your Week and Stick With It.
A routine might be boring, but it is one of the most important things you can give your family. Routine creates predictability and security for children. Kids will complain less and thrive more when a consistent routine is in place. In addition, a routine will help you keep to your New Year's resolutions.
- Role model what you want to see.
Role modeling is entirely underestimated by parents. It is the single most powerful influence you have on your children. Kids will not listen to you if you don't walk the walk and talk the talk. If you don't exercise, eat all your meals on the go, never put down your phone or never volunteer in your community, your kids will likely mimic your behaviors in their own way. If you want your kids to pick up their clothes from the floor, you can't have a bedroom full of your clothes scattered all over the ground. They won't listen to you. But, the reverse is true also. If you role model the behaviors you want to see, your children are more likely to mimic those behaviors too.
Let's start off 2023 with new goals! You got this!
If this information was valuable for you today, BECOME a more impactful parent by downloading The Impactful Parent App. The Impactful Parent app is FREE and full of episodes like this one that will help you in your parenting journey. Investing in your family looks like learning the warning signs of certain behaviors so you can stop bad things before they start, discovering new parenting techniques to make your parenting more effective, and joining a community of like-minded parents that also want to be the best parent they can for their child. All this, plus so much more, can be found inside The Impactful Parent app, so download it today. You got nothing to lose with this free parenting resource. Go to theimpactfulparent.com and discover how you can step up your parenting game and be a more impactful parent.
But until next time, you got this, parents. I am just here to help.
Thursday Dec 22, 2022
Thursday Dec 22, 2022
Supporting Adolescents When Moving Homes
Moving homes is stressful for everyone but parents can make things a little easier on their adolescents if they follow the 3 tips given in this video! Jaquetta Slocomb, a former school psychologist, and now luxury real estate realtor, gives the audience 3 meaningful tips for making the transition between homes a better experience for teens.
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Thursday Dec 15, 2022
Thursday Dec 15, 2022
Do you parent out of LOVE❤️ or out of FEAR😨?
💥Discover the differences between parenting out of love and parenting out of fear. Most parents of teenagers tend to parent out of fear when they THINK they are parenting out of love. Do you? Learn how to parent MORE out of LOVE❤️ and you will also improve the relationship you have with your adolescents! 🙂🙂
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Transcript of Podcast: Do You Parent From Love or Fear?
My son wanted to go to a school party. One of those parties where I suspected there wasn't good (if any) adult supervision. He begged me to go. He insisted that I should trust him and that everything would be fine. On the other hand, I felt like letting him go to the party was likely a big mistake.
The best kind of parenting finds a balance between love and fear.
You see, we all make decisions based on ONE of two underlying emotions: Love or Fear.
This is true about any decision you make in your parenting, whether you are grocery shopping and debating whether to buy the chicken or the boxed pizza. It doesn't matter. All decisions come down to your own perceptions of how you feel about the choice. Are you acting out of love or fear?
When you make decisions and act out of love, your actions are giving, expansive, open, and honest.
When you make decisions and act out of fear, your actions take, tighten the grip, withhold information, and lie.
Love actions share, let go, and trust. Fear actions hide, squander, and attack.
Love decisions feel expansive and open. Fear decisions feel closed and restrictive.
For example, are you constantly telling your kids no? Are you hovering over your child all day, ensuring they don't fall, don't hurt themselves, or don't make a wrong choice? This is all fear-based parenting. Parenting that is scared to lose something. Parenting is scared to let go because our kids might make mistakes. Parenting is restrictive and can literally suffocate children under the parent's fears.
Parents work hard for everything they have. It takes a lot of effort to have a family, a house, food on the table, vacation time, money to buy braces, piano lessons, and a new wardrobe for your growing kids every year. Parents work so hard to build their homes and provide for their children that sometimes parents can tip the scales of balance and begin to parent more from a place of fear than love.
Yes, there is a time and place for fear-based parenting. Keeping our children safe is a priority. Boundaries and rules should be made to keep kids safe; however, when those rules go to an extreme and don't allow your child to make their own choices and learn to live life independently, you have gone too far in your fear-based parenting.
The goal is a balance somewhere in the middle. We want to hold our children close enough to rescue them from danger but not so tight that they feel they don't have any say in their own life.
When my son wanted to go to that school party, I had a pivotal decision to make. Do I say no because of my fears about what might happen at that party and my son's decision? Or do I say yes because I want my child to trust him? Both decisions originate from my great love for my child, but one is made out of my fears. The other decision is made from the trust for my son to grow from this experience and allow him to learn how to navigate peer pressure.
Let me give you another example. Should I buy the chicken that I know is healthier for my family, or should I buy the boxed pizza because I'm afraid I won't have time to cook sometime this week?
Examine your choices and ask yourself, Why Am I Making This Choice? Am I Afraid Of Something?
Usually, we are afraid. Most decisions are made out of fear. So if you find that you are a parent making lots of decisions based upon fear, then consider that you may want to parent a little bit more out of love.
Parenting teenagers can be especially fear-based; however, this is when moms and dads need to shift their parenting to be more love/fear balanced. From ages 15-18, it is the parent's grand opportunity to parent out of love more than fear. How do you ask? Arm your child with the tools they need to make the best decisions possible. Please give them the resources they need to make a difficult decision easy. Ask yourself, I wouldn't be afraid of my child doing XYZ if they knew _(a piece of knowledge)__ and if they had __(resource)__. For example, I wouldn't be afraid for my son to go to that party if I felt comfortable that he knew the consequences of drinking and driving AND had a secret way to get out of a bad situation by calling me with a code word.
Be aware of fear-based parenting. Be mindful of your fears and do your best to confront them head-on by arming your child with the things they need to know, or have so they can prove to you that they can do it. You will be giving your child the gift of growth and trust.
If this information was valuable for you today, BECOME a more impactful parent by downloading The Impactful Parent App. The Impactful Parent app is FREE and full of episodes like this one that will help you in your parenting journey. Investing in your family looks like learning the warning signs of certain behaviors so you can stop bad things before they start, discovering new parenting techniques to make your parenting more effective, and joining a community of like-minded parents that also want to be the best parent they can for their child. All of this, plus so much more, can be found inside The Impactful Parent app, so download it today. You got nothing to lose with this free parenting resource. Go to theimpactfulparent.com and discover how you can step up your parenting game and be a more impactful parent.
But until next time, you got this, parents. I am just here to help.
Thursday Dec 01, 2022
Thursday Dec 01, 2022
Athlete Abuse: (Child and student-athlete emotional, physical, and sexual abuse)
Dr. Amy Saltzman talks to parents about keeping their kids safe on and off the athletic field. Unfortunately, emotional, physical, and sexual abuse have become too common with our young people on athletic teams. Dr. Saltman, an ex-gymnast herself, provides parents with www.spotaspider.com which teaches kids and adults how to spot the warning signs and how to keep children safe from abuse.
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Thursday Nov 24, 2022
Thursday Nov 24, 2022
My Child Is Stealing. What Can I Do?
If you have a child that is stealing, it can be one of the most frustrating and difficult delinquent habits to break. This video gives 6 tips for what parents can do and explains the several reasons why kids steal. This video also comes with a FREE PDF parenting resource. https://theimpactfulparent.com/stealing or inside the FREE Impactful Parent App!
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Transcript of My Child Is Stealing. What Can I do?
Help! My Child Is Stealing
Where did my $20 bill go? How did you get that new video game? Where did that necklace come from? If your child is stealing, it isn't easy to get them to stop. There are a lot of layers to this problem, but I got some suggestions for you.
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
Today, I will talk about what parents can do when they find out their child is stealing. And stick around until the end because I will also provide the reasons your child may be stealing in the first place. Let's get started!
What Parents Should do:
NONE of the suggestions I am about to give are easy, but here are my 6 tips to live by.
#1: DO NOT ACCUSE YOUR CHILD OF STEALING UNLESS YOU CAN CATCH THEM RED-HANDED.
Let's say you suspect your child is stealing. Anything less than catching them in the act will only push your child into defense and fighting mode. Even circumstantial evidence is not enough to accuse your child of stealing. Your child will lie to you. Blaming your child for stealing will make them feel like a scared wild animal backed into a corner. All of these scenarios rarely end well. Even if you have a witness that your child is stealing, you still can't accuse your child. If your child denies the accusations, you are forced to choose between trusting your child or the third-party accuser. This dichotomy will surely put a bigger rift in your relationship. You have to catch your child in the act. Unfortunately, this leaves parents frustrated and feeling helpless. Yet, my advice does not change. You can’t accuse your child of stealing unless you catch them.
#2: IF YOU CAN GET A CONFESSION, YOU CAN'T PUNISH THEM WITH ANYTHING BUT NATURAL CONSEQUENCES.
Punishing a child too harshly for being honest will teach them that lying is better. This means no lectures either. Tell your child that stealing is wrong and work together with the child to correct the situation. The objective here is to support your child in righting their wrongs. Have your child return the stolen item. Have your child apologize verbally or with a written letter to the person they stole from. The goal here is to make sure that your child can not benefit from theft in any way. Also, praise their honesty! This is important. You are not giving your child mixed signals by honoring what they did right and punishing what they did wrong. Your goal as a parent is to create an environment where you hold your child accountable without holding their poor choice against them.
#3 ADDRESS THE BEHAVIOR, NOT THE PERSON.
Do not tell your child they are a bad kid. Stealing is wrong, but your child is not bad. They just made a poor choice. Do not call your child names like thief or liar. This is detrimental to your relationship, but I have also seen name-calling become a self-fulling prophecy for the child. Kids can be so emotionally hurt by their parent's name-calling that they take it upon themselves to become what their parents think they are.
#4 MAKE THE NATURAL CONSEQUENCES HARSHER WITH EACH OFFENSE.
This could come down to showing your child the reality of stealing. When they get caught, they may have to take classes on not-stealing, pay off their debt, get probation, and even get arrested.
#5 GIVE YOUR CHILD A CLEAN-SLATE
Once your child has righted their wrong, it is important to move on and not assume it will happen again. You might be on high alert and on the lookout, but don't assume your child will make the wrong choice again. Your child can feel your mistrust. They can feel your judgment. Again, this becomes another self-fulling prophecy that parents don't want to encourage.
#6 YOU NEED TO GET TO THE ROOT OF WHY
You can't support your child in making better choices in the future if you don't understand WHY they stole in the first place. Children 9 years old or older should know that stealing is wrong. So, if that is the case, you need to figure out why your child is stealing to address the problem. You see, stealing is the product of deeper-seated feelings manifesting themselves in taking possessions that don't belong to them. Stealing is a reaction. It is not the core problem. To help your child resolve the stealing and stop, you must help them determine the core issue.
Finding the core issue can take some detective work. If you can’t figure it out, you may need to call on a psychologist or counselor to help you. Here are some of the most common reasons why children steal and first steps parents can do to help.
Why Do Kids and Teens Steal?
- Poor impulse control. Your child can't help himself. If this is your kid, you'll need to work with them to strengthen their ability to wait and think before they act.
- They want to impress their friends. Your child might have a great need to fit in. They need a sense of belonging and acceptance. Along those same lines, they could be trying to buy friendships. If this is your child, you will need to work on raising their self-esteem and confidence.
- The child wants revenge. Sometimes kids use stealing to get back at someone when they feel wronged. This is a form of bullying, so it will be essential to teach your child other coping skills for handling resentment and anger.
- They can't purchase the item legally. Some kids steal drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, and vapes. They can't buy those items because they are too young. If you find that your child is stealing substances like these, look into addiction and substance abuse counseling.
- Jealousy. They want what someone else has. Jealousy is common in adolescents, but if you suspect your child is stealing because they are jealous of others, you'll need to teach your child how to appreciate what they have and respect others' possessions.
- They don't have the money. Sometimes kids can't afford the item they want. They see the ticket price as being unattainable. This causes vast frustration and feelings of desperation. If this is your child, give them the ability to get what they want honestly. While they earn money, you will also have to reward patients and tenacity.
- The child's basic needs are not being met. Sometimes kids steal food, clothing, and other items out of necessity. This is the child taking matters into their own hands because the adults in their life haven't provided for them. In this case, you should report the circumstances to the authorities so the child can get help. However, if you are a parent whose child feels like you don't give them their basic needs then this could become problematic. Sometimes “needs” can be subjective. Your teen certainly feels like they have a different point of view. In this case, you'll need to discuss these differences and give your child a way to legally get what they want.
- Sometimes kids steal because they are afraid to ask for money. Maybe they want to purchase tampons, condoms, a bra, or a morning-after pill. Suppose the child is too embarrassed to ask for the money or too embarrassed to be seen at the cash register with the items they want. In this case, the child needs a trusted adult to ask for help who won't judge them or make them feel stupid. This could be you, but obviously your child doesn’t feel like you are this person yet. This could mean working on your relationship with the child to encourage more trust.
- They steal because they are looking for an emotional high. Some kids are thrill-seekers and think stealing is fun. If this is your child, minimizing the temptation to steal is essential. Don't leave money out on the counter and watch them closely in stores. Giving these children other outlets to seek adrenaline more constructively is crucial.
- The child is seeking attention. Some children who feel empty inside and don't feel connected to others will use stealing to fill a void. The child wants more attention from their peers or their family. The emotional lack of connection gets filled by risky behaviors and experimenting with getting caught. If this is your child, it will be important to provide one-on-one, quality time with your child to strengthen your bond. Please remember that this isn't about how YOU feel about the time you spend with your child. You may feel like you already give your child enough time and attention. How you feel isn’t the point. This is how connected the child feels with you. Those can be different things.
- Rebellion, because they don't feel they have any control. If the child feels like their life is dictated for them and they don't have any say in their own life, then stealing can manifest as a way of gaining back some control. If this is your child, then try giving your child more choices. Do you want to clean your room now or after dinner tonight? Do you want to finish homework at the dinner table or in your rooms without a phone?
- Not able to process feelings. Suppose your child is going through a big life transition like an unwanted move, a death in the family, or a parent's divorce. In these cases, the child might resort to stealing as a way of acting out because of the inability to process their big emotions. Teaching your child coping skills will be necessary.
- Mental health problems. Underlying behavior disorders that aren't treated can cause stealing. Also, kids that are trying to cope with depression may steal as a way of distracting themselves, getting an adrenaline rush, a way to seek attention, or a way to feel excited when they feel numb inside. These mental health issues should be taken seriously, and taking your child to a mental health professional is the best step.
With these examples, you can start digging into the root cause of your child's delinquent behaviors. Start a conversation with your child when the mood is correct, and your child is open to talking.
Lastly, don't feel like you must deal with this alone. Stealing is one of the more complicated behaviors to correct. Suppose your child is struggling with mental health, depression, or a combination of the reasons children steal mentioned today, then it is likely time to get outside help. Also seek outside help if your child isn't showing any remorse for their actions or if you have a child that is a repeat stealing offender. You don’t need to correct their behaviors all on your own. A health care professional can assist you in figuring out why your child is stealing and help your child stop. You are an impactful parent by listening to this episode today. You're trying to understand your child and get them help. Don't take the burden all on your own shoulders.
If this information was valuable for you today, BECOME a more impactful parent by downloading The Impactful Parent App. The Impactful Parent app is FREE and full of episodes like this one that will help you in your parenting journey. Investing in your family looks like learning the warning signs of certain behaviors so you can stop bad things before they start, discovering new parenting techniques to make your parenting more effective, and joining a community of like-minded parents that also want to be the best parent they can for their child. All this, plus so much more, can be found inside The Impactful Parent app, so download it today. You got nothing to lose with this free parenting resource. Go to theimpactfulparent.com and discover how you can step up your parenting game and be a more impactful parent.
But until next time, you got this, parents. I am just here to help
Thursday Nov 17, 2022
Thursday Nov 17, 2022
Holiday Gifting Differently. Advice from a Financial Advisor
Tired of your kids getting a million toys for the holidays? Maybe you have a teen that is difficult to buy for? Try holiday gifting differently this year!
Sarah VanHoose, a financial advisor, talks about how to give the gift of EXPERIENCES to your children this year. Sarah gives great tips and even 2 FREEBIES to the audience to help parents change their minds about holiday gifting!
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Thursday Nov 10, 2022
Thursday Nov 10, 2022
6 Types of In-Laws That Drive You CRAZY!
Rodrigo Bravo, Dali Rivera, and Kristina Campos talk about the 6 types of In-laws that drive parents crazy! Listen and discover tips for interacting in these difficult situations.
This episode was recorded on the Clubhouse app.
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Thursday Nov 03, 2022
Thursday Nov 03, 2022
How to Resolve Conflict In Your Family with Hesh Abrams. Hesha is an internationally acclaimed master attorney mediator. In this episode, Hesha gives away her SECRET WEAPON TIPS for diffusing conflict in your family! This is a must-see episode for anyone butting heads with their Ex, Child, or Teenager.
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Thursday Oct 27, 2022
Thursday Oct 27, 2022
My Child Came Out. Now What? (Support for the NEW LGBTQ Parent)
I've been in your shoes. Watch and allow me to help you navigate through LGBTQ parenting. In this video, I give tips for
* What to say during the "coming out" conversation (if you think it's coming)
* What NOT to say during the "coming out" conversation
* What parents should do in the few weeks after their child comes out.
* What parents should NOT do in the weeks after their child comes out.
* Important information that every new parent of LGBTQ kids should know.
*AND SO MUCH MORE!
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Transcript for My Child Came Out. Now What?
Your child came out. Now what?
Or maybe you're one of the lucky parents who know this is coming. Perhaps, you already sense that your child may be preparing to tell you that they are Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, or non-binary?
Whether you anticipate your child may be coming out soon or maybe you just found out your child identifies with the LGBTQ community- this episode is for you!
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
Today's episode is called "My child came out. Now what? This episode is all about supporting the new LGBTQ Parent. I will talk about what NOT to say and what TO say when your child tells you they are LGBTQ +. Then, I will explain how parents can best support their children moving forward in their new journey together. And stick around to the end because I will also give you a FREE PDF GIFT to help you become an Impactful LGBTQ Parent. Let's get started!
"When You Find Out" Conversation
Maybe you'll get a text message. Perhaps you'll get an email. Hopefully, you'll be having an in-person conversation with your child. However the announcement comes, remember that your child is brave and vulnerable when delivering their news. Your child might even be scared. How you react is so IMPORTANT. Your reaction will mean a lot to your child. You can fill your child full of love and support, or you can leave your child scared, ostracized, questioning, anxious, and disappointed. Yes, it is that important of a conversation. In fact, your reaction will set a precedent for how they expect many others to react. These and so many different reasons why nailing this first conversation can be a huge win for you as a parent. That's why today I will give you some specific DO SAY and DON'T SAY suggestions.
Let's say you already had this conversation; maybe it didn't go well. Don't worry. Listen to the suggestions, and it is NEVER too late to go back and apologize to your child. Also, it will give you ideas for some good starting points for moving forward as a supportive parent. We all make mistakes, especially those of us that may have been taken by surprise.
The following suggestions are included in your free PDF gift. You can download that PDF at https://theimpactfulparent.com/new2lgbtq
WHAT TO SAY:
- Thank you for telling me. I love you.
- I am glad you are stepping into YOU and being more of your authentic self.
- How can I show you that I support you?
- (If you need it, say) I don't want to say anything wrong. Can you give me some time to collect my thoughts? I love you. I wasn't expecting this.
- I am always going to love you. Nothing has changed.
- (After your child has said what they wanted, you can ask them questions. BEWARE: DO not ask a question if you FEAR THEIR ANSWER. You can ask your child those questions later. You may not be emotionally ready to ask those questions yet.)
- How long have you been keeping this secret?
- How comfortable are you telling others? Who do you want to know, and who do you NOT want to know?
- Are there pronouns you want me to use? Names?
WHAT NOT TO SAY:
- Do not say that you have suspected this for a while now.
- Do not tell them that this is only a phase.
- Do not find blame. Don't blame people, something that happened, or a place.
- Please do not laugh and brush it off as a joke.
- Do not get angry.
Remember, you can still recover even if you messed up this conversation the first time. The key to mending your child's trust in you is to be strong enough to be vulnerable and apologize. You must tell your child you are sorry about your initial reaction and claim fault. Then be weak sufficient to express your feelings and admit that you may not understand your child's situation. Still, you'll be there for them and stay open to learning.
What Now?
Alright, your journey has begun. Yes, a “journey." This ride is full of ups and downs. Buckle up, Momma. Coming out is not a one-and-done conversation. Coming out is a process. Every kid is going to go at their own pace. Rarely do children make lots of changes at once. Most will gradually change things 1, 2, or 3 things at a time.
I understand that you may not yet be on board for all of this. Perhaps you see this as a phase your child is experiencing. Maybe you think that the whole thing is ridiculous. I will be honest with you and suggest that I need you to take the high road. Put your feelings aside for a moment and realize that what you say, how you act, and what you do in the next few days, weeks, months, and years will affect your relationship with your child moving forward. Do you want to show your child that you love them unconditionally? If your answer is yes, then keep watching.
I am not saying that your needs, concerns, and feelings are not important. They certainly are significant, but this video is about showing your child support. One way you will need to show your child support is by putting your feelings aside for a while so that you can open yourself up to being there for your child in a different way than you have been asked to show up before. Family support, especially parents' support, can be the difference between life and death for your child. Statistically, LGBTQ children have a high suicide rate; however, there are significantly fewer suicides from people with family support.
So, expect to work on yourself (your feelings, your needs, your emotions) simultaneously while keeping an open mind for learning how to best support your child. These can be two dichotomies for a while until the two sets of feelings and actions collide with inner work, counseling, and reflection.
So, suppose you are ready to support your child (even if you have a lot of opposition internally). In that case, the following are action items activities to do:
- Educate yourself. Don't expect your child to educate you. Learn about the LGBTQ community, so you don't start filling in the blanks with things you have made up in your head.
- Don't fake what you don't know.
- Educate yourself about the differences between sexuality and gender. (PDF)
- Educate yourself with the LGBTQ terminology of today. (PDF)
- Ask your child what support looks like to them. Don't assume that what you do will come off as supportive. Your child will likely have real, concrete expectations about what support looks like to them, and you need to ask them to tell you. Is it using their new pronouns? Is it not telling everyone about them yet? Is it going to pride parades with them?
- Do less talking and more listening now.
- Please do your best to respect their new pronouns and the new name they want to use.
- Take care with your comments about their new look and new friends. Remember that your child is very vulnerable when they are changing things initially.
- Take care of yourself. Emotions are running high, and you likely need a counselor or support group to give you space to process everything happening. You can't be an impactful parent if you are stuffing down all your emotions all the time and not taking care of yourself. This is extremely important.
- If you have homophobia or transphobia, please seek help to process these emotions as soon as possible. There will be a rift in your relationship with your child until you can resolve these feelings. Don't lose special time with your child. Please seek help from a mental health professional.
What other things do I need to know?
I understand that this may not be easy. You have a lot of things going through your head and heart right now. Emotions are probably running high. I can't stress the importance of getting some outside help for yourself. You need a support group or a counselor to talk things out and process those feelings.
Until you find your LGBTQ tribe of help, here are a few more things to remember.
- Please don't feel bad that it may have taken a while for your child to tell you. Everyone does this at their own pace, and just because they may have been keeping this secret from you for a bit, don't take that personally.
- Remember that this is not about you. This is about your child and them trying to be their authentic self. They are not doing this to make your life difficult.
- Don't search for blame. When things happen that we don't understand or may not like, our first instinct is to blame someone or something for this happening. Remember that this isn't anyone's fault. This didn't happen because of their friends or something you did. No one is to blame for this.
- Don't feel guilty if you have no idea. You shouldn't have known. It is not your fault that you didn't see this coming or didn't read the signs.
- Don't take comfort that this is only a phase. This is not a phase. You have to assume that this is your child moving forward. Do not operate as though you expect their identity to change or go back to how things were before.
- Many parents are fixers. You may even see this new information as your child's identity crisis. This type of thinking is incorrect. You can't fix this. This is not a fixable thing. You don't have control over your child's identity or sexuality. This is not a problem to be fixed.
- I know you are probably worried about the future. What does this all mean now? Many parents are afraid that they will never have grandchildren. I know you're concerned about a lot but take things one step at a time. Your focus on the future can be addressed with your counselor or support group. For now, concentrate on today. How can you be an impactful parent to your child today? Today, your child needs your help and support. How can you do that for them right now?
Lastly, I would like to extend my help to you also. I am an LGBTQ parent, also. I've been through what you're going through and am still in it. I would be happy to support you in your LGBTQ parent journey through one on one coaching. I'm here to be a listening ear, a place to bounce off questions you might have, and a place to get advice. You can reach me via my website at theimpactfulparent.com/work-with-me to make a complimentary discovery session. We can discuss your situation and see if I am a good fit for your support.
Until we talk, you got this parents. I am just here to help.
Thursday Oct 20, 2022
Thursday Oct 20, 2022
From DUI to DIY Improvement
Juliana Lindner tells her candid story of hitting bottom BUT fighting her way to self-improvement to be a better parent and feel good about herself. Juliana's story is relatable and inspiring. Throughout the episode, she gives tips to others who also want to elevate their life and become more impactful parents.
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