The Impactful Parenting Podcast helps parents turn their chaos into connection with their children. Through meaningful stories, the podcast provides parenting tips for making family life easier! Why? Because school-aged children bring different challenges to parenting that younger kids don’t! The Impactful Parenting Podcast provides help for raising your adolescent child. So if you’re asking yourself questions like: • ”Is this normal?” • ”Why is my teenager doing this?” • ”How do I get my child to stop?” • ”I am so frustrated. What do I do?” • ”Is anyone else experiencing this? I can’t be the only one.” • ”I am worried. What can I do?” Then YOU HAVE FOUND THE RIGHT PLACE! Hi! I am Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent and my passion is creating better relationships between parents and their children. I am a parenting coach, a teacher who has taught every grade level from Pre-K through high school, and most importantly, I am a mom of 4 kids! (Yep, those are my kiddos in the podcast photo). The teen years don’t need to be difficult. Teenagers CAN have a special bond with their parents! Listen and discover the tools and techniques you need to create connections, build trust, and have a stress-free household. This is only the beginning! Let’s get started, together! -Kristina Campos Founder of The Impactful Parent
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Thursday Nov 17, 2022
Thursday Nov 17, 2022
Holiday Gifting Differently. Advice from a Financial Advisor
Tired of your kids getting a million toys for the holidays? Maybe you have a teen that is difficult to buy for? Try holiday gifting differently this year!
Sarah VanHoose, a financial advisor, talks about how to give the gift of EXPERIENCES to your children this year. Sarah gives great tips and even 2 FREEBIES to the audience to help parents change their minds about holiday gifting!
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Thursday Nov 10, 2022
Thursday Nov 10, 2022
6 Types of In-Laws That Drive You CRAZY!
Rodrigo Bravo, Dali Rivera, and Kristina Campos talk about the 6 types of In-laws that drive parents crazy! Listen and discover tips for interacting in these difficult situations.
This episode was recorded on the Clubhouse app.
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Thursday Nov 03, 2022
Thursday Nov 03, 2022
How to Resolve Conflict In Your Family with Hesh Abrams. Hesha is an internationally acclaimed master attorney mediator. In this episode, Hesha gives away her SECRET WEAPON TIPS for diffusing conflict in your family! This is a must-see episode for anyone butting heads with their Ex, Child, or Teenager.
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Thursday Oct 27, 2022
Thursday Oct 27, 2022
My Child Came Out. Now What? (Support for the NEW LGBTQ Parent)
I've been in your shoes. Watch and allow me to help you navigate through LGBTQ parenting. In this video, I give tips for
* What to say during the "coming out" conversation (if you think it's coming)
* What NOT to say during the "coming out" conversation
* What parents should do in the few weeks after their child comes out.
* What parents should NOT do in the weeks after their child comes out.
* Important information that every new parent of LGBTQ kids should know.
*AND SO MUCH MORE!
This episode comes with a FREE PDF to help you navigate your new parenting journey! Get your free PDF with the link in the comments or by downloading the Impactful Parent app! Both are FREE!
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Transcript for My Child Came Out. Now What?
Your child came out. Now what?
Or maybe you're one of the lucky parents who know this is coming. Perhaps, you already sense that your child may be preparing to tell you that they are Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, or non-binary?
Whether you anticipate your child may be coming out soon or maybe you just found out your child identifies with the LGBTQ community- this episode is for you!
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
Today's episode is called "My child came out. Now what? This episode is all about supporting the new LGBTQ Parent. I will talk about what NOT to say and what TO say when your child tells you they are LGBTQ +. Then, I will explain how parents can best support their children moving forward in their new journey together. And stick around to the end because I will also give you a FREE PDF GIFT to help you become an Impactful LGBTQ Parent. Let's get started!
"When You Find Out" Conversation
Maybe you'll get a text message. Perhaps you'll get an email. Hopefully, you'll be having an in-person conversation with your child. However the announcement comes, remember that your child is brave and vulnerable when delivering their news. Your child might even be scared. How you react is so IMPORTANT. Your reaction will mean a lot to your child. You can fill your child full of love and support, or you can leave your child scared, ostracized, questioning, anxious, and disappointed. Yes, it is that important of a conversation. In fact, your reaction will set a precedent for how they expect many others to react. These and so many different reasons why nailing this first conversation can be a huge win for you as a parent. That's why today I will give you some specific DO SAY and DON'T SAY suggestions.
Let's say you already had this conversation; maybe it didn't go well. Don't worry. Listen to the suggestions, and it is NEVER too late to go back and apologize to your child. Also, it will give you ideas for some good starting points for moving forward as a supportive parent. We all make mistakes, especially those of us that may have been taken by surprise.
The following suggestions are included in your free PDF gift. You can download that PDF at https://theimpactfulparent.com/new2lgbtq
WHAT TO SAY:
- Thank you for telling me. I love you.
- I am glad you are stepping into YOU and being more of your authentic self.
- How can I show you that I support you?
- (If you need it, say) I don't want to say anything wrong. Can you give me some time to collect my thoughts? I love you. I wasn't expecting this.
- I am always going to love you. Nothing has changed.
- (After your child has said what they wanted, you can ask them questions. BEWARE: DO not ask a question if you FEAR THEIR ANSWER. You can ask your child those questions later. You may not be emotionally ready to ask those questions yet.)
- How long have you been keeping this secret?
- How comfortable are you telling others? Who do you want to know, and who do you NOT want to know?
- Are there pronouns you want me to use? Names?
WHAT NOT TO SAY:
- Do not say that you have suspected this for a while now.
- Do not tell them that this is only a phase.
- Do not find blame. Don't blame people, something that happened, or a place.
- Please do not laugh and brush it off as a joke.
- Do not get angry.
Remember, you can still recover even if you messed up this conversation the first time. The key to mending your child's trust in you is to be strong enough to be vulnerable and apologize. You must tell your child you are sorry about your initial reaction and claim fault. Then be weak sufficient to express your feelings and admit that you may not understand your child's situation. Still, you'll be there for them and stay open to learning.
What Now?
Alright, your journey has begun. Yes, a “journey." This ride is full of ups and downs. Buckle up, Momma. Coming out is not a one-and-done conversation. Coming out is a process. Every kid is going to go at their own pace. Rarely do children make lots of changes at once. Most will gradually change things 1, 2, or 3 things at a time.
I understand that you may not yet be on board for all of this. Perhaps you see this as a phase your child is experiencing. Maybe you think that the whole thing is ridiculous. I will be honest with you and suggest that I need you to take the high road. Put your feelings aside for a moment and realize that what you say, how you act, and what you do in the next few days, weeks, months, and years will affect your relationship with your child moving forward. Do you want to show your child that you love them unconditionally? If your answer is yes, then keep watching.
I am not saying that your needs, concerns, and feelings are not important. They certainly are significant, but this video is about showing your child support. One way you will need to show your child support is by putting your feelings aside for a while so that you can open yourself up to being there for your child in a different way than you have been asked to show up before. Family support, especially parents' support, can be the difference between life and death for your child. Statistically, LGBTQ children have a high suicide rate; however, there are significantly fewer suicides from people with family support.
So, expect to work on yourself (your feelings, your needs, your emotions) simultaneously while keeping an open mind for learning how to best support your child. These can be two dichotomies for a while until the two sets of feelings and actions collide with inner work, counseling, and reflection.
So, suppose you are ready to support your child (even if you have a lot of opposition internally). In that case, the following are action items activities to do:
- Educate yourself. Don't expect your child to educate you. Learn about the LGBTQ community, so you don't start filling in the blanks with things you have made up in your head.
- Don't fake what you don't know.
- Educate yourself about the differences between sexuality and gender. (PDF)
- Educate yourself with the LGBTQ terminology of today. (PDF)
- Ask your child what support looks like to them. Don't assume that what you do will come off as supportive. Your child will likely have real, concrete expectations about what support looks like to them, and you need to ask them to tell you. Is it using their new pronouns? Is it not telling everyone about them yet? Is it going to pride parades with them?
- Do less talking and more listening now.
- Please do your best to respect their new pronouns and the new name they want to use.
- Take care with your comments about their new look and new friends. Remember that your child is very vulnerable when they are changing things initially.
- Take care of yourself. Emotions are running high, and you likely need a counselor or support group to give you space to process everything happening. You can't be an impactful parent if you are stuffing down all your emotions all the time and not taking care of yourself. This is extremely important.
- If you have homophobia or transphobia, please seek help to process these emotions as soon as possible. There will be a rift in your relationship with your child until you can resolve these feelings. Don't lose special time with your child. Please seek help from a mental health professional.
What other things do I need to know?
I understand that this may not be easy. You have a lot of things going through your head and heart right now. Emotions are probably running high. I can't stress the importance of getting some outside help for yourself. You need a support group or a counselor to talk things out and process those feelings.
Until you find your LGBTQ tribe of help, here are a few more things to remember.
- Please don't feel bad that it may have taken a while for your child to tell you. Everyone does this at their own pace, and just because they may have been keeping this secret from you for a bit, don't take that personally.
- Remember that this is not about you. This is about your child and them trying to be their authentic self. They are not doing this to make your life difficult.
- Don't search for blame. When things happen that we don't understand or may not like, our first instinct is to blame someone or something for this happening. Remember that this isn't anyone's fault. This didn't happen because of their friends or something you did. No one is to blame for this.
- Don't feel guilty if you have no idea. You shouldn't have known. It is not your fault that you didn't see this coming or didn't read the signs.
- Don't take comfort that this is only a phase. This is not a phase. You have to assume that this is your child moving forward. Do not operate as though you expect their identity to change or go back to how things were before.
- Many parents are fixers. You may even see this new information as your child's identity crisis. This type of thinking is incorrect. You can't fix this. This is not a fixable thing. You don't have control over your child's identity or sexuality. This is not a problem to be fixed.
- I know you are probably worried about the future. What does this all mean now? Many parents are afraid that they will never have grandchildren. I know you're concerned about a lot but take things one step at a time. Your focus on the future can be addressed with your counselor or support group. For now, concentrate on today. How can you be an impactful parent to your child today? Today, your child needs your help and support. How can you do that for them right now?
Lastly, I would like to extend my help to you also. I am an LGBTQ parent, also. I've been through what you're going through and am still in it. I would be happy to support you in your LGBTQ parent journey through one on one coaching. I'm here to be a listening ear, a place to bounce off questions you might have, and a place to get advice. You can reach me via my website at theimpactfulparent.com/work-with-me to make a complimentary discovery session. We can discuss your situation and see if I am a good fit for your support.
Until we talk, you got this parents. I am just here to help.
Thursday Oct 20, 2022
Thursday Oct 20, 2022
From DUI to DIY Improvement
Juliana Lindner tells her candid story of hitting bottom BUT fighting her way to self-improvement to be a better parent and feel good about herself. Juliana's story is relatable and inspiring. Throughout the episode, she gives tips to others who also want to elevate their life and become more impactful parents.
**FREEBIE PDF comes with this Episode and can be downloaded from the Impactful Parent app! Download your FREE Impactful Parent app today from your app store!
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Tuesday Oct 11, 2022
Tuesday Oct 11, 2022
The 5 Conflict Languages
Many people have heard of the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman, but have you heard of the 5 Conflict Languages by Thomas Kilmann? Learn the 5 Conflict resolution techniques. Understand how our children resolve disputes and help them learn how to negotiate, compromise, and collaborate for a winning outcome!
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Transcript of The 5 Conflict Languages
My two teenagers are screaming at each other. One is crying, and the other is pointing fingers. Every day there is nagging, lectures, and I have to break up fights…. It's all exhausting and in the end, guess who gets the blame? ME! Yep, my kids plead for justice from me. "Mom, help me get my sister off my back," "Mom, make my brother stop yelling at me," "Mom, can you help me?"
Sibling rivalry and family conflict are unavoidable but understanding how your kids instinctively respond to a conflict will help you approach conflict resolution better! Many people have heard of the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman, but have you heard of the 5 Conflict Languages by Thomas Kilmann?
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
Today I will teach you the 5 Conflict Languages. Thomas Kilmann published that there are 5 ways that people try to resolve conflict. I will explain what each conflict language is, the pros and cons of each conflict language, and stick around to the end because I will also be giving you Impactful Parent tips along the way! Let's get started!
Conflict Language #1- Accommodating
This conflict style is popular with kids who are "people pleasers" and kids who simply don't care too much about the issue. Maybe they don't care about the problem because the child has a laid-back personality, or perhaps the outcome of the conflict doesn't bother them either way. The accommodating conflict language means that the child will put others' needs before theirs. The child doesn't mind letting the opposing party get their way. Sometimes children will also be accommodators when they don't want to deal with the issue because it's not worth their time or they avoid being wrong. Children with perfectionistic personalities often accommodate when they feel the stakes are too high to be corrected. They find it better to accommodate so they can say, "Oh- that's what I thought, but I didn't want to tell you." It's a way of staying "safely correct."
The good thing about accommodating conflict language is that it can easily avoid disputes. This leaves more time for other things, and your child won't be considered argumentative because disagreements will be over quickly.
The bad thing about accommodating conflict language is the child can come off as a push-over. The children with stronger opinions can take advantage of the accommodating child's easy-going-ness. Also, over time, accommodating children can become resentful because they seldom get their way.
Impactful Parent Tip: The accommodating child should be encouraged to respectfully speak their mind and express their opinions. Encourage their voice. Help children navigate conflict when they play with others. Keep track of how often the child is accommodating to others. Be aware when your child is starting to feel resentful for continuingly giving in to a sibling or friend?
Conflict Language #2- Compromising
Teaching your child to compromise is a necessary skill. Most parents teach compromising in the early toddler years at playdates with toys; however, the compromising conflict style can also frustrate a child when they rely on it too often. The compromising conflict language is also called the "Lose-Lose" conflict language. Everyone in the conflict must give up something they want to find a middle ground. Many children use this conflict resolution style with their peers because that is what they were taught first. School teachers also encourage compromising solutions in the classroom. It is the most ingrained of the 5 styles, so therefore the most practiced, but that is not to say it is the easiest to implement.
The good side of compromising conflict language is that most children are familiar with it. Asking school-aged children to compromise will likely get some eye rolls. Still, the children expect intervening adults to resort to this conflict resolution style. Also, the compromising tactic encourages the child to hear the other's perspective, wants, and needs. It forces children to listen to each other. If done correctly, your child should feel heard even though they still have to give up something they want.
The downside of compromising conflict language is that it can cause resentment if used too often. No one leaves the conflict feeling completely happy. Children often complain that they gave up more than the opposing party did. Children also get tired of compromising.
Impactful Parent Tip: Teach compromise in the early years; however, don't use it too often. Try to mix up the conflict resolution styles when using them so that compromise isn't always the default. Compromise is best used when the child doesn't care too strongly about the issue, and the conflict needs to be resolved quickly. Also, be mindful that your child is giving up equal amounts as the opposing party so that resentment doesn't fester.
Conflict Language #3- Avoiding
Children afraid of conflict or the results of a conflict will often resort to avoiding the conflict altogether. These children are peacemakers, or they are acting upon their fears. Either way, the avoiding conflict style is usually only prolonging the inevitable.
The good side of avoiding conflict language is that it can be effective IF a cool-down period would be helpful in the situation. For example, if children need a little time to calm down their emotions or time to process their thoughts, or perhaps they need some time to step back and see the big picture.
The downside of avoiding conflict language comes when the conflict is avoided indefinitely or for too long. Avoiding conflict can result in making things worse. Lastly, avoiders of conflict are often unassertive. These children have a fear that if they engage, then the future will be worse.
Impactful Parent Tip: Children should be encouraged NOT to avoid conflict forever. Remember that many children who avoid conflict are scared for some reason. Maybe they are afraid of a potential outcome, getting yelled at, feeling unloved or unlikeable, or any other large assortment of reasons. Parents should be mindful of these fears and help children face their fears of conflict by helping them with their conflict resolution. Parents who encourage their child's voice and provide their children with a safe space to express themselves, their opinions, and their emotions will often also help them feel safe enough to stand up for themselves.
Conflict Language #4- Collaborating
The collaborating conflict language is arguably the best conflict resolution technique because it yields the most win-win results for everyone involved. Best used when the solution/outcome is essential to everyone or when it is crucial to keep everyone's relationship in good standing. With the collaborating conflict language, each person must express their wants, needs, and concerns. Usually, this means that the children must sit down together and talk through the conflict by negotiating a solution that everyone feels good about. I'd like to point out that, unlike the compromising conflict language where everyone gives up a piece of what they want to find common ground and leaves everyone feeling like they had to "give up" something they wanted to find a solution, collaborating conflict language has children come to a common ground through brainstorming solutions that make everyone involved feel good about the outcome.
The good side of the collaborating conflict language is that it is considered a "win-win" solution. Everyone leaves happy, relationships often leave stronger, and kids learn to work together toward an agreed outcome. The majority of the time, this conflicting language yields the best results.
The downside of the collaborating conflict language is that it is time-consuming. Most children will need a mediator (aka an adult) to help them problem solve, brainstorm, talk respectfully to each other, and negotiate without animosity. Sometimes, kids also have difficulty with the collaborating processes because it takes a long time. So, if you need to find a resolution in a hurry, this is not your best option.
Impactful Parent Tip: When given the time, practice this conflict resolution technique as often as possible and in the early childhood years. Not only is this the best-case scenario conflict resolution style, but the skills your child will learn through the collaborating conflict language will be valuable for years to come. Skills like patients, listening to the other side's point of view, working with someone who has opposing views, the ability to articulate your own point of view with conviction and evidence, and more. Teaching this to children will take time and lots of practice. Many parents don’t have the patients to sit and help children talk things out to a resolution because it is so time-consuming, however, try your best to be patient with the long process that will need to be practiced often because the results yield dividends for years to come.
Conflict Language #5- Competing
The competing conflict language is the opposite of collaboration. This language technique rejects compromise, doesn't listen to others' points of view, stands firm in one person's opinion, and does not give in to others' wants, needs, or desires. When a child is using competing language, they will not give in or back down. They are quite literally competing for the 100% win.
The good side of the competing language technique is that a solution is often found more quickly. Since there is no space for disagreement or conversation, someone usually wins the argument quickly.
The downside of the competing language technique is that relationships will be hurt and lost over such rigid thinking and behaviors. Your child will lose friends, hurt people's feelings, and children that use this technique are often considered bullies. Other kids won't tolerate this kind of behavior long because everyone else's needs are usually ignored. Resentment builds up fast.
Impactful Parent Tip: Be mindful of older children using this technique with younger children. This happens because the older child can get away with it.
Also, keep in mind that children who are not practiced in compromising or collaborating conflict languages will use the competing technique instead. This should be a red flag that your might be unfamiliar or not practiced with listening to others. Younger children default to this technique because of precisely that. Listening to others' points of view and brainstorming solutions are more complex skills than standing firm and holding your ground. If you see your child always defaulting to the competing conflict language, consider that they may not know any other way of conflict resolution or at least aren't practiced enough in the different conflict resolution styles to feel confident enough to practice them on their own. This is a great opportunity for you to step-in, spend some time with your child, listen to his points of view, and teach him how to collaborate and compromise! Now is the perfect time to turn a conflict into a lesson in self-awareness and resolution.
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Thursday Oct 06, 2022
Thursday Oct 06, 2022
How To Raise Strong Girls
Tips for raising strong girls that don't need to conform or fit into social stereotypes.
This episode of The Impactful Parent was recorded on Clubhouse. Clubhouse is a social media audio app. My co-hosts for this episode are:
Dali Rivera: Bully Prevention and Awareness Coach
Rodrigo Bravo: Co-parenting coach and consultant
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Thursday Sep 29, 2022
Thursday Sep 29, 2022
Tips for Kids With Big Emotions
Does your child have big emotions? Rachel Bailey and Kristina Campos talk about What Big Emotions Look Like In Our Kids, How Big Emotions Affect The Whole Family and Give Tips For How To Handle Those Big Situations.
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Thursday Sep 22, 2022
Thursday Sep 22, 2022
183: How To Talk About Sex at Different Ages of Development
Kristina Campos, Rodrigo Bravo, Jessica Marie, and Dali Rivera talk about HOW TO TALK TO YOUR CHILDREN ABOUT SEX AT DIFFERENT DEVELOPMENTAL STAGES.
* This recording was made on the Clubhouse App. Clubhouse is a FREE social media app and you can join the conversation too! Find Kristina on Clubhouse with the user handle: @impactfulparent
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Monday Sep 19, 2022
Monday Sep 19, 2022
Social Media and Teens
Richard Capriola talks about social media statistics and how our teens are being influenced by these apps. Watch and discover what social media is doing to teen behaviors and learn how you can help your teen navigate the social media app world.
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