The Impactful Parenting Podcast helps parents turn their chaos into connection with their children. Through meaningful stories, the podcast provides parenting tips for making family life easier! Why? Because school-aged children bring different challenges to parenting that younger kids don’t! The Impactful Parenting Podcast provides help for raising your adolescent child. So if you’re asking yourself questions like: • ”Is this normal?” • ”Why is my teenager doing this?” • ”How do I get my child to stop?” • ”I am so frustrated. What do I do?” • ”Is anyone else experiencing this? I can’t be the only one.” • ”I am worried. What can I do?” Then YOU HAVE FOUND THE RIGHT PLACE! Hi! I am Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent and my passion is creating better relationships between parents and their children. I am a parenting coach, a teacher who has taught every grade level from Pre-K through high school, and most importantly, I am a mom of 4 kids! (Yep, those are my kiddos in the podcast photo). The teen years don’t need to be difficult. Teenagers CAN have a special bond with their parents! Listen and discover the tools and techniques you need to create connections, build trust, and have a stress-free household. This is only the beginning! Let’s get started, together! -Kristina Campos Founder of The Impactful Parent
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Thursday May 18, 2023
Thursday May 18, 2023
What Does Bad Parenting Look Like?
The Impactful Parent's 10 NO-NO's of parenting. Discover 10 things parents should NEVER do! How do you score?
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Transcript of What Does Bad Parenting Look Like:
Parenting is a tough job; even the best of us can make mistakes. However, some behaviors and actions can negatively affect a child's development and well-being. In this episode of The Impactful Parent, we'll explore what bad parenting is and provide examples so that you can recognize it and avoid it.
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
Today, we are going to talk about BAD PARENTING! Just because you may recognize some of the 10 bad parenting moves I will tell you today doesn't mean you are a bad parent. We all make mistakes. But if you're trying to be the best parent you can, want to learn from your mistakes, or just need assurance that you're doing things right, this episode is for you! Let's get started!
Bad parenting #1: Scolding your child with an audience.
Scolding a child in front of an audience can be bad for several reasons. According to Psychology Today, shaming and humiliating children is emotionally abusive and can negatively affect a child's mental health and self-esteem. In fact, research has shown that scolding can make a child feel fearful, defiant, or aggressive.
Bad parenting #2: Reprimanding a child harshly even if they spoke the truth.
I get it. Maybe your child did something without asking and is only telling you the truth because they got caught. But, reprimanding a child when they told the truth teaches the child that honesty is not valued or appreciated, which can lead to future lying. This is where you must find a way to hold your child accountable for their actions WITHOUT having the offense against them. Suppose you reprimand a child and don't give them some sort of resolution for being truthful. In that case, you can create a cycle of dishonesty and mistrust. Instead, focus on teaching your child the importance of honesty and how being honest can make things easier or better for them.
Bad parenting #3: Comparing your child to someone else.
Comparing children to others can negatively impact a child's self-esteem, cause feelings of insecurity, and breed unhealthy competition among siblings or peers. For instance, a child constantly compared to their siblings in a negative light may feel inadequate, break trust and make the child feel like they are not good enough. Moreover, compared to other children, they may feel intimidated, leading to aggressive behavior and bullying others to feel better about themselves. This is why parents should try not to compare their child to anyone who accepts the child's past self. According to a study, children who compare themselves with their past selves are likelier to have healthy self-esteem and not compete with others.
Bad parenting #4: Neglect
Neglect is one of the most damaging forms of bad parenting. It involves failing to provide a child with food, shelter, clothing, medical care, and emotional support. Neglect includes leaving a child alone for extended periods, failing to seek medical attention for a sick child, not providing adequate supervision, and even not giving your child enough attention or affection. Kids need their parents. So, examine your schedule and if you are leaving your child home alone for too long.
Bad parenting #5: Physical abuse
Physical abuse involves intentionally causing harm to a child's body. Most parents know that hitting, kicking, slapping, or burning a child is unacceptable. Still, more common examples of physical abuse include shaking a child, hitting a child with an object, or locking a child in a closet. Physical abuse can also be holding your child to a particular weight standard. Making a child overeat (like insisting they finish all the food on a plate when it's loaded to the brim.) Or depriving your child of nutritional food (like having a household full of potato chips and canned foods. This type of physical abuse is more common than most people realize.
Bad parenting #6: Role modeling behaviors you don't want to pass down.
Yes, what YOU do in front of your child matters. Kids look to their parents for how to act. If you drink a glass of wine every night after dinner, your child is more likely to grow up and mimic that behavior. Children who witnessed domestic violence were more likely to repeat the behavior as adults. You can tell kids not to do what you do, but actions speak louder than words. Kids learn much more from their eyes and life experiences than what they are told.
Bad parenting #7: Avoid understanding and listening to your child's feelings.
Not listening to a child's feelings can damage mental health and self-esteem. So, if you catch yourself saying, "Don't worry about it. You're making a big deal out of nothing!" or "Stop crying. There is nothing to cry about," then consider how you are devaluing and belittling your child's emotions. This can result in the child feeling like their feelings are unimportant, leading to long-lasting effects on their emotional well-being.
Bad parenting #8: Emotional abuse
Emotional abuse involves harming a child's self-esteem. It can take many forms, such as belittling, insulting, threatening, or isolating a child. Emotional abuse can have long-lasting effects on a child's mental health and ability to form healthy relationships. Examples of emotional abuse include constantly criticizing a child, withholding affection, or blaming a child for problems in the family. Many parents that are emotional abusers don't even do this intentionally. Usually, these parents were also parented with emotional abuse growing up. They didn't realize they passed down the same behaviors to their children. So, watch that you don't always have a criticizing tone or are correcting your child consistently (making them feel like they can't do anything right.)
Bad parenting #9: Inconsistent discipline
Inconsistent discipline can confuse a child and make them feel insecure. It can involve punishing a child for one behavior one day and then ignoring it the next. It can implement rules one day but ignore the same rule later. This makes it difficult for a child to understand the consequences of their actions. They are always playing a guessing game of whether or not they can get caught, and this also creates feelings of instability and anxiety and teaches kids to be manipulative. Stay consistent with your discipline, rules, and expectations.
Bad parenting #10: Overprotection
Overprotection can limit a child's ability to develop independence and self-reliance. It can involve shielding a child from any potential harm or failure, which can prevent them from learning important life skills and coping mechanisms. Whether you are a helicopter parent (hovering over your child, ready to catch them before they fall) or a lawn mower parent (mowing down all the obstacles that can be in their way), both kinds of parents can lead to childhood anxiety and other mental health problems. Examples of overprotection include not allowing a child to play outside, pampering a child too much, or simply taking the stand that you know better ALL OF THE TIME. Instead, it is important to allow your child to have choices. Give them as many choices as you can within the boundaries of your rules. Allow your child to make mistakes, even if you know the mistake is stupid. Sometimes kids need to learn for themselves the hard way before they will learn at all.
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Thursday May 11, 2023
Thursday May 11, 2023
Helping Kids With Reading Comprehension
Dr. Claire Rubman, a developmental psychologist and author of a new book called This May Be Difficult To Read, gives parents tips and tricks for teaching better reading comprehension to ALL ages of children.
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Thursday May 04, 2023
Thursday May 04, 2023
Supporting Bisexual Teens When They Come Out
If you want to support your teen but need help navigating the tricky waters of parenting an LGBTQ child, THEN THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU! Discover 6 easy steps for supporting your bisexual child when they come out.
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Transcript:
My Teenager is Bisexual
Your teen came out as bisexual, and now you feel like a deer in headlights. You knew it was a thing with kids nowadays, but you didn't see this coming.
How you feel is not uncommon! We are the first generation of parents learning to navigate how to parent the LGBTQ teen. In past generations, most LGBTQ kids didn't feel comfortable coming out. Today, more and more kids publicly identify with the LGBTQ community.
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
As a parent, it's hard to know how to support your child when they come out as bisexual. After the initial shock wears off, AND if you choose to take the supportive path of parenting, I want to help you navigate what support might look like. You may have many questions running through your head, but you can do this- even if you still feel like your child is going through a phase or you have no clue how to move forward. Supporting your bisexual child doesn't have to be complicated.
How to support your bisexual teen: Be there for them.
You might have a million questions running through your head, but the best thing you can do right now is listening. You can ask your teen questions but don't make any comments back. Just listen. Ask questions to LISTEN and NOT to respond. It is essential to hold back from going into "fix it" mode. If your child is bisexual and you're struggling with this, that's ok. If you're not sure what to say, keep it simple. You can be supportive and understanding by listening to them without judgment, asking how they feel, and letting them know you are there for them. Be careful not to project your own fears onto your child. Instead, understand your child's feelings, so be a good listener and let them know you care.
How to support your bisexual teen: Create a safe space at home.
Not all teenagers will be proud of their bisexuality, even if they put up an exterior front of confidence. It's essential to create a safe space for expression in your home. If you don't make this safe space, your child will learn that expressing themselves at home is taboo and soon your child will "put on a facade at home," and secrets will start piling up.
To create a safe space for communication and expression at home, you need to create a home that is judge free. That means you can't tease your child about their sexuality, nor can you say things like, "This is just a phase," or say negative things about anyone in the LGBTQ community. No sly comments or even stank-eye, judgmental expressions on your face. Not creating a supportive and safe space environment at home will cause your child to pull away from your relationship with them. In the end, unsupportive parents may cause serious mental health issues in their children. In the long run, your child may never feel comfortable living authentically as themselves, which could result in depression or other mental health issues due to a lack of self-acceptance!
How to support your bisexual teen: Understand that bisexuality isn't a choice.
Can you help it that you're heterosexual? It's not your choice to see a beautiful person of the opposite sex and feel attracted to them. It is just how our body responds automatically. Your child is the same. They can't help it. It's a part of your child's identity, and they shouldn't have to explain this to anyone.
I will say that sexual curiosity and exploration are also natural and part of adolescent development. Sexual attraction can be fluid, meaning it may shift and change with life experiences; however, don't mistake these preferences for a phase. We all have different paths in understanding our sexuality and gender identity, which makes it important for parents to remember that these things take time.
How to support your bisexual teen: Ask your child what support looks like to them.
The most common mistake parents make when trying to support their child is guessing what support is. We inventory what we have seen on TV and our life experiences, and GUESS what we think support looks like.
Don't assume that what you do will come off as supportive in your child's eyes. Your child will likely have real, concrete expectations about what support looks like to them, and you need to ask them to tell you. Is it using new pronouns? Is it helping them tell the extended family? Is it going to pride parades with them? Is it keeping their sexuality a secret? YOU DON'T KNOW how your child wants you to support them until you ask them, "What does support look like to you? If you had everything your way, what kind of things should I do (as your mom or dad) moving forward?"
How to support your bisexual teen: Set new house rules and boundaries.
Now that you know your adolescent is bisexual, you may want to review your household rules around sleepovers and friends at the house when you are gone. A heterosexual teenager may have house rules about not having a friend of the opposite sex in their room with a closed door. Parents might also have to tweak the house rules moving forward. Set clear boundaries for behavior. This means establishing what behaviors are acceptable at home and which aren't. I have found that when parents ignore changing the rules, then teens interpret this as the parent being biased, in denial, or contradictory. Stay consistent with your rules and expectations. Change the rules in your home if you feel it is necessary to keep consistency. Along these same lines, don't assume that all of their friends are gay or straight, even if they are all from the same gender group.
How to support your bisexual teen: Remember that this is who they are now.
Will their sexuality change over time? Maybe. Maybe not. They're still young and finding out about themselves, so don't assume anything about who they might end up with or how long their relationships last - or if they want one at all. They may change their minds or experiment with different people during their teenage years. A bisexual teen might date guys and girls in the future, but that doesn't mean they aren't bisexual now! It's better to support your child than try to force them into a box you've decided is best.
Don't try to change them or make them straight. This is likely going to hurt your relationship. You can ask questions about how they see themselves, but trying to plant your own agenda onto your child is a bad idea. They need to discover themselves on their own. Trust me, your child already knows what you think about bisexuality. Kids are smart; if you push your agenda, you may push your child away.
If this information was valuable for you today, BECOME a more impactful parent by downloading The Impactful Parent App. The Impactful Parent app is FREE and full of episodes like this one to help you in your parenting journey. Investing in your family looks like learning the warning signs of certain behaviors so you can stop bad things before they start, discovering new parenting techniques to make your parenting more effective, and joining a community of like-minded parents who want to be the best parent they can for their child. All of this, plus so much more, can be found inside The Impactful Parent app, so download it today. You got nothing to lose with this free parenting resource. Go to theimpactfulparent.com and discover how you can step up your parenting game and be a more impactful parent.
But until next time, you got this, parents. I am just here to help.
Thursday Apr 27, 2023
Thursday Apr 27, 2023
Teen drug and alcohol trends
Richard Caprioloa, a substance abuse counselor and author of The Addicted Child, comes onto the Impactful Parent stage to share the latest trends in adolescent substance abuse trends, warning signs, and things parents should know to stay ONE STEP AHEAD of their teen so they can stop the bad things from happening before they start!
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Thursday Apr 20, 2023
Thursday Apr 20, 2023
Helping Children When A Pet Dies
10 Tips for Parents
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Thursday Apr 13, 2023
Thursday Apr 13, 2023
Planning For the Future with a special needs child
💥Do you have a special needs child or know someone who does? THIS IS A MUST-SEE VIDEO! 💥Join me and Jorge Loyo as we discuss all the things you want to prepare for your child's future needs! I know it SUCKS to think about a future where you weren't around or were unable to take care of your "baby," but being prepared is IMPORTANT. Don't put your head in the sand and ignore it. Learn the basic necessities needed to have a solid plan for the unexpected future.
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Thursday Apr 06, 2023
Thursday Apr 06, 2023
When Kids Pull Out Their Eyebrows and Scratch Their Skin
This is more than just picking at your nails. Some kids pull out their hair, and their eyebrows, and scratch at their skin so much that it causes bald spots and scarring. It's called Trichotillomania and Dermatillomania.
Discover signs, causes, and the best treatment options for your child! Learn how you can support your child through this disorder and get them the help they need too!
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Transcript of When Kids Pull Out Their Eyebrows and Scratch Their Skin
"WHY ARE YOU DOING THAT? STOP!"
That's what I told my child when I discovered they were picking their skin. No, picking at their skin doesn’t describe it. It's more than just picking skin. It's picking at the body so much that it leaves bald spots, scarring and can even strike blood. It's called Trichotillomania and Dermatillomania.
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
Today, I will talk about a common disorder where kids pull out their hair called Trichotillomania or pick at their skin called Dermatillomania. These are mental health conditions that causes people to pull out their hair, scratch their bodies, or pick at their skin. They are chronic conditions and can be hard to manage, but there are ways you can help a child who's struggling with it. Learn the signs and symptoms, its causes, and treatment options. Plus- stick around until the end. I will finish by giving parents tips to support their children struggling with Trichotillomania and Dermatillomania. Let's get started!
What it is: Trichotillomania, also known as a hair-pulling disorder, is known for its irresistible urges to pull out hair from your own body. People with Trichotillomania may pull out their hair from ANY part of the body at any time of day. The most common areas to pull are the scalp and eyebrows. Still, people with Trichotillomania have also been known to pull out eyelashes, facial hair, nipple hair, chest hair, armpit hair, leg or arm hair, and even pubic hair- despite trying to stop. Similarly, Dermatillomania is the impulsive urge to scratch, dig, squeeze or rub at the skin obsessively. They are obsessive-compulsive disorders (OCD), and can cause bald spots and sometimes even permanent scarring.
Signs and Symptoms: Besides the obvious signs of hair loss and baldness, Trichotillomania can cause hair regrowth to be thinner or even missing altogether. Dermatillomania looks like scars, scratches, scabs, and different types of flesh wounds. People with either of these disorders may have high anxiety, skin damage, difficulty concentrating, and even panic attacks. Many suffer from depression. Identifying and treating these disorders is important. It shouldn't be ignored as a phase or weird habit. And although many kids will dismiss their habit to adults as “not a big deal,” it is also common for kids with these conditions to feel embarrassed about pulling out their hair and worry about what other people might think about them. Many children will hide the evidence by wearing hats, scarves, and long sleeves to cover up their bald spots and wounds.
Causes: The exact cause is unclear, but it is believed to result from a combination of genetic and environmental factors. Some possible factors include genetics, DNA mutations, changes in brain chemistry, family history, and the sensation of hair or skin that feels different from the rest. Trichotillomania and Dermotillomania are types of coping mechanisms usually the result of stress, anxiety, or depression.
Treatment Options: The primary treatment is habit reversal training, a behavioral therapy type. This therapy helps individuals recognize situations where they are likely to pull their hair. It teaches them to substitute other behaviors instead. For instance, clenching fists can help stop the urge to pull hair. Other treatments may include seeing a dermatologist to treat related skin problems or damage. Some children may be candidates to get additional help from a plastic and reconstructive surgeon who can help with skin grafting for affected areas of the body. Certain medications may also be prescribed by a doctor, such as serotonin reuptake inhibitors; however, mindfulness techniques such as deep breathing, yoga, support groups, and other coping strategies are usually tried first.
Having said all this, getting help from a healthcare professional is imperative. Consult a mental health professional for a proper diagnosis and treatment plan. Treating hair loss or skin wounds are really only a Band-Aid. It is crucial to discover the reason beyond the hair pulling, scratching, and picking to treat the anxiety, depression, or other root cause.
How to Support Loved Ones:
- Reduce stress: Since Trichotillomania and Dermotillomania can often be a stress response in children, parents should consider reducing stress at home.
- Detox methods: Some children can benefit from a gentle detox method to remove harmful heavy metals, chemicals, and toxins from their bodies.
- Cognitive-behavioral approaches: Cognitive-behavioral approaches such as Habit Reversal Therapy (HRT) in tandem with stimulus control are the first-line treatment for Trichotillomania and have consistently demonstrated efficacy in research trials.
- Increase awareness: Therapy can involve helping a child recognize thoughts, feelings, and behaviors associated with hair pulling. This therapy aims to increase the awareness of hair pulling and replace it with alternative behaviors.
- Stay patient. This can be a very frustrating disorder for parents. Often, parents don't understand why their children can't just stop pulling out their hair. Work on empathy and patients as you help your child deal with this real OCD disorder, and support them the best you can with your love.
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Thursday Mar 30, 2023
Thursday Mar 30, 2023
A New Personality Test To Help You Communicate and Connect Better
Are you having trouble connecting with your child? Does it feel like the two of you are always butting heads and miscommunicating? In this episode of the Impactful Parent, Nicole Shir, author of The Needs Languages, talks about her new personality test that helps you discover the communication needs of yourself and your loved ones. Discover another tool that you can utilize to learn more about yourself and your children so that you can foster better relationships!
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Thursday Mar 23, 2023
Thursday Mar 23, 2023
How To Mend A Relationship: The crucial steps of an apology.
This episode of the Impactful Parent walks you through the crucial steps of making an apology that is effective and better received by your loved one. It's not easy to say, "I am sorry," but apologizing might be the first step to mending a relationship that is important to you. Discover how you can apologize to your loved one WITHOUT taking the whole blame and WITHOUT admitting that you did anything with bad intentions. PLUS- THIS VIDEO WILL HELP YOU TEACH CHILDREN HOW TO APOLOGIZE SO THEY CAN MEND RELATIONSHIPS THAT ARE IMPORTANT TO THEM!
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Transcript for How To Mend A Relationship
It's been a long day. I'm exhausted. All I want is to rest on the couch for five minutes before I deal with the kids. Instead, I walk into the house and am greeted with a crying child, another kid screaming, "Mom, she took my charger!" and a spouse who says, "Great! You're home. We need to get going to Joseph's game."
I lost it. I completely lost my shit. All self-control went out the window, and before I knew it, I was yelling at everyone, even the baby.
We all make mistakes, but saying sorry is actually a skill. We all have received an apology that we didn't accept because we knew the wrong-doer didn't mean it. Most of us have even given an apology we didn't mean. But what if we want to mend a hurt relationship and feelings? How do we do that?
Hello, my name is Kristina Campos. I am the founder of the Impactful Parent. Every week I give you parenting videos that can help you in your parenting journey. If you have a particular topic or parenting question about your school-aged child that you would like me to address, please submit it at theimpactfulparent@gmail.com or by messaging me on social media. All submissions are kept anonymous.
Today, I will teach you how to apologize. Not all apologies are created equal. If you are ready to mend a relationship or want to teach your child how to apologize, this episode is for you. I will explain the 8 crucial steps to a good apology and stick around to the end because this episode can improve your relationship with your children. Let's get started!
How to apologize (before you say I'm sorry): Focus On The Impact Of Your Actions. Not The Intent.
Ninety-nine percent of the time, you didn't mean to hurt anyone. You never intended to make someone feel sad, mad, or frustrated purposefully. That is why you will not focus on the intent of your actions. You didn't mean it! Instead, focus on the impact of your actions. If you yelled at your kids, you must consider how that made them feel. If you worked late and left your spouse at home with the kids alone too long, how did that affect your partner? It doesn't matter that you worked late so you can pay the bills. I am sure you had a good reason for whatever happened. Still, you need to stop justifying your actions and consider how your actions affect others.
How to apologize (before you say I'm sorry): Own Up To Your Part. Not Theirs.
Once you can admit that your actions hurt someone else, then you can own your part. This step gets a little messy when someone has hurt you, too, and the disconnect or argument happens with two or more people going back and forth. However, your focus is on what YOU did and what YOU said. Not them. You are likely hurt too. You probably reacted to them and have a lot of hurt feelings yourself, but the bottom line is: if you want to mend a relationship, someone has to step up and make the first move. I hope that your maturity to take the first step of owning your part in the situation prompts the other person to do the same, but we can't control them. You can only do your part.
How to apologize Step 1: Admit To The Offense.
Now we are getting into the actual words you need to use to speak your apology. Before we continue, let's clarify that just because you are admitting to hurting your loved one doesn't mean you did it purposefully. However, for your loved one to heal, they need you to say "what you could have done better" aloud. They need you to speak about how you wronged them. Say something like, "I am sorry that I _________."
Examples:
- I am sorry that I yelled at you.
- I am sorry that I ignored you.
- I am sorry that I didn't take your opinion into consideration.
How to apologize Step 2: Spell Out Why You Want To Apologize.
Tell your loved one why it is important to you to mend the relationship. Say something like, "I want to apologize for what I did because _________."
Examples:
- I want to apologize for what I did because I see that I really hurt you, which doesn't feel good to me, either.
- I want to apologize for what I did because I love you and never intended to hurt you.
- I want to apologize for what I did because I feel terrible, and your friendship means a lot to me.
How to apologize Step 3: Admit That You Could Have Handled It Differently
This is where you need to be the bigger person and admit you could have done better. You admitted to having made a mistake in handling the situation. It doesn't matter why you made a mistake. I am sure you were perfectly justified in how you reacted; however, this goes back to YOU needing to step up and take the first steps on the high road because someone needs to do it. You care about the relationship enough to do that. Say something like, "I wish I would have ____ instead, but I didn't, and I know I hurt you. It is important to add "and I know I hurt you" because your loved one needs to feel like you understand the consequences of your actions.
Examples:
- I wish I had kept my cool and didn't yell; instead, I hurt you. I'm sorry.
- I wish I had paused momentarily and listened to you, but instead, I hurt you. I'm sorry.
- I wish I had walked away when we started arguing, but instead, I said hurtful things I didn't mean. That hurt you. I'm sorry.
How to apologize Step 4: Acknowledge the Other Person's Hurt and Let Them Talk About Their Feelings.
Step 4 is crucial. Your loved one needs to vent. This is important because they must make you understand how badly you hurt them. Unfortunately, this becomes the hardest step of all, because you will need to sit there and listen, take in the information, and nod your head. You can't get defensive. In fact, you need to validate their feelings. Your loved one won't accept your apology completely unless they feel you understand their pain. Period. Your natural reaction will be to defend yourself and justify your actions, but you can't. This is their time to talk, and for this apology to work, you will need to listen and take note of the words they use to describe their pain. This is especially important with men who express their hurt feelings by saying things like, "You disrespected me, or you didn't listen to me."
Then, acknowledge your loved one's pain using the same words they used to describe it. For example:
- I understand that I disrespected you. I didn't mean to. I am sorry.
- I know that I ignored you, and you didn't feel heard. I am sorry.
- I understand that hurt your feelings. I am sorry.
How to apologize Step 5: Express Regret.
Expressing regret is best done in your tone of voice. How you say, I am sorry, and all the things noted in steps 1-4 need to be told in a tone of voice that expresses sadness. If you don't express regret for your actions using the right tone, then everything you said before won't do any good. Your loved one needs to feel like you regret your actions; this is where your heartfelt apology is revealed.
When apologies WON'T be accepted no matter what you do.
Unfortunately, there are times when an apology won't be accepted. This isn't about you at all, and it is all about the person receiving the apology. There are 2 notable times to be aware of when your apology will often fall upon deaf ears.
- They have to be willing to forgive you because they value the relationship. If they do not value the relationship, many people will reject the apology and use it as an excuse to move on.
- A person may not accept an apology if their identity is created by the hurt they have inside.
Learning to apologize so you can mend relationships with your loved ones is important for your family. Once you can learn how to apologize effectively, then you can role model these behaviors and teach them to your children.
If this information was valuable for you today, BECOME a more impactful parent by downloading The Impactful Parent App. The Impactful Parent app is FREE and full of episodes like this one to help you in your parenting journey. Investing in your family looks like learning the warning signs of certain behaviors so you can stop bad things before they start, discovering new parenting techniques to make your parenting more effective, and joining a community of like-minded parents who want to be the best parent they can for their child. All of this, plus so much more, can be found inside The Impactful Parent app, so download it today. You got nothing to lose with this free parenting resource. Go to theimpactfulparent.com and discover how to step up your parenting game and be more impactful.
But until next time, you got this, parents. I am just here to help.
Thursday Mar 16, 2023
Thursday Mar 16, 2023
Normalizing the Bad of Parenting
Parenting is full of difficult stuff that makes moms and dads want to pull their hair out! Why isn't anyone talking about it?!?! This week on the Impactful Parent, founder Kristina Campos and mom Kate Bjargvide talk about the "bad" of parenting in an effort to normalize the hard stuff. Discover how Kate handles her challenges and grab a few parenting tips! Plus, learn how parenting in Sweden differs from parenting in the United States.
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